what's best for kids, light spanking or "time outs"?

Answer 1

It really depends on the sensitivity of the child. We popped our 2 year old on the bottom once and she was effected for days. It was a very light pop on her little behind and she was wearing a diaper, it hurt her feelings more than anything but for the next 2-3 days she would say "daddy popped my butt" and it just broke our hearts. Now we use time out and it works great. All I have to do is say "Do I need to get your time out chair? " "Nooooo, momma nooooo I good girl now!!" Time out is what we use...kids will grow out of time out though so spanking is something that will be considered in a few years. Good Luck

Answer 2

Neither. I am not a proponent of spanking, and time-outs are ineffective.

Especially with younger children, emphasis should be on consequences rather than punishment.

For instance, if a child empties a game or puzzle onto the floor, the appropriate consequence would be for the child to pick it up. Accompanied, of course, by a clear message that it is not okay to do that. ("You may not empty things. It makes a big mess that needs to be cleaned up. You made this mess so you need to clean it up.")

Or if a child is mean to another child, they should apologize to the other child and furthermore be asked to think of something to do to make the other child feel better.

Children, especially young children, don't always see the connection between doing something bad being told to sit in the corner. Cognitively, it's just not there.

But by telling a child clearly and firmly that what they have done is not okay, and using the appropriate consequence, a child can better understand what they may not do and, more importantly, why.

Answer 3

Spanking is never a good way to go why because then when your child grows up they will think hitting someone is the only way to gain respect like with me I have a 4year old little girl and I tried the spanking on her butt thing didnt work so I tried the time out on your knee thing and she still would give attiude so I was like ok well your punished take away all there privleges they hate it but believe me they will start acting right.....

Answer 4

Depends on the situation, if they just need to consider what they did, just a time-out, but if they were being pretty bad, the l. spanking sounds better. There were 2 times when I was so bad (I was 3-4, so it really couldn't have been that bad, but anyway...) that I got both. A spanking (not that hard) and then a 10 min. timeout on my bed to cool off and calm down. Anyway, that's what I think.

Answer 5

It depends on the situation, you are definitely not going to put your child on time out for doing something outrageously bad. Use your judgment if you feel the punishment requires a spanking or time out. I know that spanking doesn't hurt the child, only abuse. If your child listens and doesn't have to be spanked then that's a blessing but very rare, I can't say that time out doesn't work because I see it happen all the time on nanny 911.

Answer 6

I think what matters the most is the consistency of the actions and punishments. Give a warning, and tell them what will happen if behavior continues. If it doesn't stop, follow through. That's the key to it all. No idle threats. I was spanked and had time outs. I feared the spanking more, but time outs can be as effective, too.

Answer 7

Depends on the child's age and the child.
We use a naughty chair and a timer. They are placed on the naughty chair with a timer set to their age. If they get off the chair more than 3 times, the skin of the bottom is spanked using hand the number of spanks as to the child's age. Then they are placed back in time out with the timer re-set.

Answer 8

I think a light spanking might work best because like somebody mentioned time outs get old very quickly

Answer 9

Spankings. I got spanked sometimes when I was little- I didn't fear my mother or father, I loved them a lot! I Just DID NOT want to get spankings. It really taught me not to to bad things. But if they won't calm down from a temper tantrum, won't share, etc... a time out is best to help them calm down. Hope I helped!!!

Answer 10

I think it depends on the child. Different children respond to different things. I used spankings more as a way of getting my son's attention than anything else. Time outs worked for our girls, but not their brother.