My three year old has started stating the obvious - such as, "that lady has big boobies" (friends mom came over in a super lowcut shirt) or "that man has red skin" (totally sunburnt guy at pool) or "that boys not wearing his bike helmet" always in earshot of the person he's talking about, any tips on what my/his dad's response should be - in 3 year old terms?
In each case he's correct, and nothing offensive,and he understands people dont all look the same, but some may not take it that way. Basically trying to teach a 3 year old tact and manners.
2007-07-10 06:39:08 · 6 answers · asked by lillilou 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When I read the "boobies" one, I laughed. To me, some people are too sensitive, especially around kids like that, that don't know what they are saying. I would probably just tell him that anything that you wouldn't want to hear about you, you shouldn't say about other people. I don't know because it depends on the situation. I really don't think he's old enough to just pick it up right away. You will have to work with him every time he does it. It's something every child has. I did it. My uncle likes to keep his smoking quiet, but one time I told him "your smoking" so you see what i mean.
2007-07-10 07:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Elisabeth C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
If it weren't in their earshot, I would say to make a point, especially for some things. For example, when he says "That man is really red", say, "Yeah, that's why you wear sunscreen when you go to the pool." When he says "That guy's not wearing a bike helmet," say "Yeah, he could get hurt, couldn't he?"
However, that might not be all that polite when they're right there and can hear him (and you.)
Gently -- repeatedly -- tell him that you and he see the same people, and talking about the way other people look is bad manners. Also, just tell him that talking about other people when they're right there and can hear him is bad manners (it is).
Consistancy is key. If you tell him not to comment about another person's appearance, you can't let him hear you talk about someone's botched nose job.
2007-07-10 14:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh kids are priceless for stuff like this! I taught my toddler that talking about our bodies & other peoples bodies is for home only. Not sure about the helmet thing though, that's funny. At least he knows right & wrong. I would just tell him that its the mommy's job to tell him what to do.
2007-07-10 13:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by moore2bj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter said 2 weeks ago "thats a fat lady".......... good thing the lady didnt hear. i told her that was not nice and that hurts peoples feelings when you say things that are not nice. she said ok mommy. and hasnt said anything bad since. .... so far ..
My daughter learns these things from preschool. so who knows what the other parents are teaching their kids.
2007-07-10 16:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by ~Jamie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask a child psych. about this one. You want to be able to teach him good manners without corrupting his honesty! Best wishes!
2007-07-10 13:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old told her daddy that his breath stinks. its was funny and probably true but we just told her that it wasnt nice and we keep things like that to ourselves and not to say them out loud. and that hurts peoples feelings.
2007-07-13 20:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mexicangrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋