my mom is being a ******. she wants me to do all the house work everyday and its the summer!!!! the only time i get to sleep in and she wakes me up at like 9:30. and she wants me to do SAT work, math, and read. and she says that if i do that for 2 hours ill have the rest of the 22 hours for myself but all that doesnt take 2 hours, more like 6. also, she like hates me but loves my brother. the other day she said she didnt under stand how I came out of her body, and she didnt even want or need a child like me. and she said when she went on vacation she was thinking about staying there because she didnt want to come back to me..also her and my dad always fight. and its always because of the past and how her mother in law was mean to her. i wanna tell her to shut the hell up and deal with it.
shes a fuc*ing bi*ch. what do i do? she doesnt tolerate any backtalking or plain talking.
2007-07-10 06:34:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im 15 if that helps.
2007-07-10 06:36:22 · update #1
That is so sad that your mother would make such cruel comments to you. Please keep in mind, parents are not perfect. You can't choose your parents, so for now if you aren't willing to get counseling and try to help the matter, the best you can do is deal with the situation at hand in the easiest way. Give in to your mother's studying request, just put in the 2 hours she wants you to, and then enjoy the rest of your free time. Finding a part time job of your own outside of the home would also help you to distance yourself from the ugly situation. Find something productive to do for yourself, a hobby, a sport, and balance your time while off school. You will soon be an adult and on your own! I wish you luck!
2007-07-10 06:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would shut up and do what she wants. You are really close to being able to go away to college and if you get good grades you will be able to go where you want and far away. Make it far enough away that coming home is difficult during the holidays. Get a job when you are there so you can afford to stay during the breaks. You are close to never ever having to speak to your mother again, just sit tight and put up with it for a while and soon enough you will be all by yourself for the rest of your life.
2007-07-10 14:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds like an unhappy person. Oftentimes people say things out of anger/frustration but don't mean it.
Maybe she's mad at the world but takes her anger out on you and your dad. Nonetheless, it is truly unfortunate that she is being cruel and saying things to belittle you -- no one deserves to be talked to like that (especially from their own parent).
You can sit down and calmly talk to her in a neutral setting (say, a park/coffee shop) and tell her that she says very hurtful things and it causes you to resent her. If you're a good kid, brings home good grades, and doesn't cause trouble, then you can bring that up.
Reassure her that you want to be a contributing member of the family and succeed in life and will try hard but that doesn't mean that you need to be shackled to your desk and the vacuum cleaner every day. And that it's hard for you to want to help out/study if she's constantly badgering you or making you feel bad about yourself.
If she doesn't listen or reverts back to her old ways, you should suggest family counseling. If she won't go, then you should seek out a counselor (at school, etc.). You need someone to help rebuild your self esteem. Good luck.
2007-07-10 13:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course ur 15 and u dont understand right now...if she wants u to study a lil bit during the summer its only because she wants u to be successful in school...i think that you should try to find an odd job around ur neighborhood or something and use the time that she doesnt have anything for you to do make a little extra money...its hard to see right now, but she has ur best interest at heart... good luck!
2007-07-10 13:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by duchessbryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough situation. But there are a lot of young ladies in the same situation.. moms and daughters historically have a tough time in relating to each others needs and wants. If you have a relationship with your local religious group then you may want to have a private discussion with them. Also if you can CALMLY (no animosity, screaming or sarcasm here) ask your mom what her goals are for you and see if they make sense for you. If you can't find a way to resolve you may want to try a teen help site like the following one http://www.teencentral.net/?gclid=CM329ufFnY0CFRf5gAodsygIzQ
Good luck
2007-07-10 13:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋