Ok men i want you to be real honest!! Would you or would you not date a 23 year old divorced single mom with two kids?? I mean actually consider having a long term relationship with her not just friends or anything else.. You know what i mean...
2007-07-10 06:08:35 · 41 answers · asked by ~So Over It~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow what a broad range of answers on this one! Honesty I like..
2007-07-10 06:18:30 · update #1
ok the kids are 3 and 4, i do have a degree in web design, i have a good career and very self reliant!!! When people meet me they say they would never have guessed i had one kid much less 2.. I wont lie im a pretty girl.. And i dont push my kids on people my last boyfriend i had for a year and he met my kids once.. I dont want to be a bad influence on them and unless im serious about it, i dont want to get the kids involved with them and besides im not looking for a father for them they have that.. So now knowing all that?? Would you or would you not..
2007-07-10 06:28:55 · update #2
I'm 26, and if I liked a girl, it would not be a problem at all. But when I was 21, I couldn't fathom a serious relationship with a woman with kids. I had some idea that I wanted to raise my own kids. Now I see it differently. It wouldn't matter if the kids had my genes, they'd still be an important part of my life. So yeah, I'd date you, but I prolly wouldn't date you casually. You'd have to be in the top 10% of women I've met. And I mean that in terms of my oppinion on how compatible you are with me. My main criteria is sense of humor.
2007-07-10 06:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming it's you we're talking about, kaving two kids does put a damper on the situation. Well, you wanted honesty. Some men know that a woman's priority will be for the kids, and he'll always be at the bottom of the ladder in her life. You would need to make someone know that he's important to you, and won't just get the leftovers of your affection. But don't be surprised when you have dates that don't stay around long, they'll just want to score and leave. Men with character will either not be dating you, or will make a serious effort to make the relationship work. Watch out for those guys that are in-between.
2007-07-10 06:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Stormbringer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. In my early to mid 20s when I was in college, I would not have dated a women with "baggage" -- sorry but I'm being honest and you asked to be HONEST. I would not have done it mainly because I did not have the income NOR maturity to deal with kids at that age and I was concentrating full time going to school taking 16 to 19 credit hours a semester hours.
Now that I have a son (3 years old), I WOULD DATE a divorced mother of 2, but only if she has a "job" and can help support her kids -- that is IF we were to make a honest and serious go for the relationship, and to make it work. My wife right now does NOT know the value of a dollar and is extremely complacent with every aspect in her finances. Again sorry but you asked to be honest. So that is why I would prefer to date (if I was divorced) a woman that has a great paying job, because if that woman and I were to make a run of having a serious relationship and maybe marriage, then I would like to know that that person can actually help with the bills and not make me feel like I have to bail her out of every financial screw-up she has done.
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2007-07-10 06:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. Its much much more complicated than dating a woman with no kids. Lets say a guy does date this girl and they become close and get married. How will the kid be raised and how will he perceive the man and how will the man participate in raising the kid since later on the kid will say " your not my dad and cant tell me what to do". If these things can be worked out i would consider it but it will take alot of deep thought.
Not saying that finding a good man again is impossible, its just u and that potential man will have alottt to talk about.
A good man with morals will want to ask these questions.
2007-07-10 06:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, but I would want to meet the kids and see if we like each other. The big problem with single moms is getting some kind of relationship started, she normally needs to spend a lot of time with the kids, and there isn't much left for a new relationship. I'm not saying that is true of all single moms, but it is often true.
2007-07-10 06:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men are not equal. If the guy was 23 then I don't see him dating her long term even if she would be hot. Now someone who is older and wants to settle down. He himself wouldn't have to be divorced or have kids but he would have to be ready to have the added responsility. It just depends on the person.
PS. Ok with that added information I would go out with you but I don't think my wife would like that. Seriously though still same answer. Best of luck.
2007-07-10 06:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider it depending on the situation and baggage.
Listed below is the things I would consider.
What the person looks like.
The chemistry between
does she have a job, car, place to live.
Do not let having children and being a single mom stop you from having fun.
M
2007-07-10 06:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will find yeses and no's!
Me personally no (sorry). it has nothing to do with you...you may be perfect for me, but I am not ready for the commitment of kids. Our twenties, for some, is a chance to fall in love with our future wives, feel the freedom of being together without all the complications, and responsibilities....a period where travel, spoiling ourselves and eachother presents itself....and may not again for a very long time, especially with kids.
the choice is personal, yes there are lots out there who would jump if you are the right person....and some who would write you off....you just have to look
2007-07-10 06:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by someguy_in_halifax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally I would. If I was really into her I reaaly would. I would try my damndest to be there for her and her children.
And to be honest I don't see why anyone else wouldn't either. But in your case I would be sure that when you found someone you find a man not just a guy or an average boy.
2007-07-10 06:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd consider it, sure. Im 23, as well, but having kids and being divorced shouldn't be the determining factor in not pursuing a relationship
2007-07-10 06:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by bkelly is a loser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋