What are some things to remember for a person who is nervous of speaking to 200+ people?
2007-07-10 05:38:55 · 21 answers · asked by flrdagators4ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Before you start, take a big breath that goes all the way to your toes. Speak slowly. You will feel as though you're speaking too slow, but that's the pace you want to keep. If you read at what you think is your normal pace, it will actually be much too fast (the nervousness changes your senses, so what you hear as normal everyone else hears as rapid). Try and look at the people you are speaking to (the bride and the groom). Do not feel the need to make contact with everyone in the room.
Think of it this way: you are speaking to two people (bride and groom), but you have a lot of people listening in.
2007-07-10 05:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, write out the speech.
Make an outline of the speech.
Have a little notecard or two handy with the major points of the outline, so he/she can glance down at it to remember what to say next.
Practice! set up a room with similar surroundings as that of where the speech will be made. and practice! Read the speech over and pver again. then use the notecards to practice. by the wedding, it will be mostly memorized.
For the nervousness, tell them to imagine themselves in a protective bubble and that the people arent really there...he/she is just going through the motions and doing this speech, just like all the times before when it was practiced.
This helped me a TON when I had to take speech class.
2007-07-10 05:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by J3NN 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My best recommendation is to remember that you'd have to do something REALLY, REALLY bad in order for them to think poorly of you...I mean something like showing up drunk and flashing the crowd. The guests are all there for the same reason you are - to show your love and support for the bride & groom.
Most people on this planet don't like speaking to an audience, so if you're a little nervous, everyone will entirely understand (and probably be glad it's you up there, and not them!). If you have to correct yourself, or miss a line, don't worry about it...just get yourself back on track and move forward.
2007-07-10 06:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ensure that your sppech has the occassional jokes, so that the tensity in the room would escape. Remember, keep your eyes focused on the people you know, and when gain confidence throughout the speech occassionally glance the people you you don't know and smile. Keep a clear head, because just keep in mind, the sooner you start and flow with the speech, is the faster you would have finished and gained everyone's attention. Smile, be upright and don't think to hard of what you have to say. Remember it is just a conversation you are having, but with a lot more people.
All the best.
2007-07-10 05:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Eliza 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing to remember is to relax! Smile and have fun. Don't talk too fast. That's the biggest mistake that people make when they're speaking in public. Also, don't look down at what you're reading. Look up at your audience so the sound travels to them. Make eye contact. Rehearse the speech before you give it so you know about how long it will take, when you want to pause, etc. You'll be fine!
2007-07-10 05:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speak slow and loud enough for everyone to hear. If you act confident it goes by alot easier. Don't play with your hands or hair, and don't rock back and fourth. I had my wedding 2 years ago and am also scared about speaking in public(I would take a lower grade if I could read a report from my desk) I did okay. Just stay calm and remember that you would not have invited these people if you were not comfortable around them.
2007-07-10 05:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by maryanne b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2015-11-17 21:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one will remember it in the morning
you don't know most of these people and will never see them again
imagining them naked might not be the best thing to do
practice the thing a few times in front of a mirror or a good friend until you can do it with a straight face
the guests are not there to see you (unless it's your wedding) so don't go on and on
a drink or two calms your nerves, but five drinks just makes you look like a lush, and though your speech may be funny, you will later be embarassed and ashamed
2007-07-10 05:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 22:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by bajulal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On thing that always helped me was instead of making eye contact look slightly over everyones head, no one can tell you are not looking at them and it calms your nerves to not be staring everyone in the face.
Pick one or two people that you are close to and comfortable with and while speaking look at them for reassurance.
Practice is key, read your speach out load several times in front of a mirror so you can get familar with it.
2007-07-10 06:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋