All being created equal, should the needs of one come before the other?
2007-07-10 05:32:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It depends on how much you love the person. I have known couples that have gotten the bad end of the deal in these situations. For example, Mary takes two jobs to support her husband through medical school with the deal being once he's a doctor, she can quit work and go back to school. Problem is, Mary puts her husband through medical school and once he's a doctor, he runs off with his nurse and dumps Mary with three kids. If you can have enough trust in the other person then yeah, that might be a good deal. If not, then no.
2007-07-10 05:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, no one peron's needs are more important than the other's. This defeats the concept of equality. However if the person who has the choice of making the sacrifice cares for the other person, I think it would make the other person happy to make that sacrifice in order to care for the one they love. Also, like many of the other answerers, I think this is a very personal choice that the individual will have to live with and should be considered thoroughly and the decision should not be made on an impulse.
2007-07-10 05:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the person wants to make that sacrifice. As everyone said, it's a personal decision and there is no right or wrong. It's what is right for you at that place and time.
I've put my career on hold many times.
Left a perfectly good teaching job to marry my husband, in the AF, stationed elsewhere.
Got a fantastic teaching job in that city, but had to resign my position to follow him to our next base. I could have stayed, but my place was with him.
No teaching job, and then babies came.
So then I gave up my career to stay at home with them till they went to school.
2 more moves, they're in school, and I get another teaching job. Love it!! Then, of course, the AF says you're moving. So, another letter of resignation.
There are days that I resent it and I'm mad and cry. But most of the time I'm quite happy with the choices I've made over the last 19 years regarding my career. My husband is happy that I have followed him to every base and that we've never been separated because of my teaching. And my children are glad that I'm a stay at home mom and I can work in their classes and be their GS leader and go on fun outings during the summer, etc. And I'm glad that I'm in a position to make that choice and have it not be a financial strain.
2007-07-10 05:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by usafbrat64 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with those who have answered that it depends upon the situation. Is the income from that career necessary for their survival? What will be gained or lost from dropping the career? What is at stake in caring for another person? When the person no longer needs to care for the other person, can they resume their career?
I think that before you can make a decision, you have to look at these types of questions and then evaluate the situation.
2007-07-10 05:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances and the people involved. I would never suggest someone sacrifice for another, because most people won't do that for you. On the other hand, it is understandable to postpone a career/dream.
Think of all the reasons - kids, personal illness or family members, new marriage, change in career path...
Do what is best for yourself. No one should ever do something that will make them uphappy to benefit another.
2007-07-10 05:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by eniles21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, the relationship between the people and what is necessary. My grandmother quit her job of 30+ years to care for my grandpa after his first stroke. He's had 3 now, and she's still taking care of him every day. She's amazing. She puts her needs behind everybody elses.
This question is really very dependent on the situation and what it calls for, but I find that it is personally more rewarding to put the needs of others before ones self.
2007-07-10 05:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is really a difficult question but take decision after thinking on following points
1. first think, how important is another for u; if really that one is very important for u than choose that coz u can find another good career in ur life but u cant get that another one back once lost.
2. try making any solution for that condition means try to mantain a balance b/w that person n ur career.
2007-07-10 05:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by fha_chafzeto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person needing care was someone close to me, especially my bf or husband - I would sacrifice my career because ultimately they should be more important to me than my personal gain in life.
People matter more.
2007-07-10 05:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by justasiam29 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which do you Love more, yourself (Career) or the person in need? Why do you have to 'sacrifice' one for the other?
My advice is to make your decision based on which will allow you to Feel Good About Yourself AFTER implementing the decision.
2007-07-10 05:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Champion of Knowledge 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave up my career to care for my parents it's been 3 yrs. since I have worked and I'm on disability now. It is a personal choice but when nobody else in the family wants to do it what can you do. Someone had to step up too the plate.
2007-07-10 05:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋