Friday & Saturday night he stayed out until after 3 am.
Sunday he was upset with me because I wasn't upset with him for coming in late?
How crazy is that?
2007-07-10 05:10:48 · 41 answers · asked by Still*Perfect 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This makes perfect sense. And it's not really about attention-seeking.
See, when he was out late those nights, he EXPECTED you to be upset and worried. Since you didn't show any of those emotions, he feels as if he's not important enough to you to even get worried over. He's mad because you didn't show concern for him, making it seem as if you didn't care much about your relationship.
Explain to him why you didn't get upset.
2007-07-10 05:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Çhen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well 2 things.
Either he is wanting you to be jealous that he isn't spending all his time with you, and that in return gives him the idea that you need him and he can wrap you arouns his finger.
Or he was doing it to see how much space he can get from you and still have a relationship. But he was probably a little upset when you didn't care he went out to early hours of the morning.
Next time, confront him on it. Don't yell or get pissy about it. Just tell him you would appreciate it if he wouldn't be out so late and he needs to spend more time with you.
2007-07-10 05:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty crazy actually. If my husband goes out, I don't care when he comes home. He knows that I would actually rather him not come home because he'd be drinking. But if he tells me that he'll be home by 12:00 and doesn't come home till 4:00, then I do have a problem with that. And the problem is that I'm sitting home, unable to sleep, because I'm thinking he's laying in a road ditch somewhere.
2007-07-10 05:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO
Such a typical guy.
Unless he was trying to start an argument, trying to force a situation because he has other motives...
Just tell him that while he is not the boss of you, neither are you the boss of him. Perhaps every other woman (including his mother) has babied him but now its time to be a man and take responsibility of himself.
Gee most men would be grateful that they aren't coming home to nagging about staying out late. Goes to show you can never tell with guys.
2007-07-10 05:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Melly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohh, that sounds pretty insane. You should be the one upset with him and you have a right to. It's obvious he has no respect for you and you are not sure what EXACTLY he's doing out so late. Talk to him when he's calm, and if he can't give you a good answer for his actions, then maybe it's time to move on....All the best!
2007-07-10 05:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stayed out until 3 am and you wern't mad? Did he call you to let you know?
To me it kinda sounds like the real reason he got upset is because of a lack of concern on your part.
He might see it as: If you wern't mad at him for staying out so late, then you must not care about him.
If it were my hubby, I'd be down right furious if he stayed out that late, especially if he didn't bother to call.
2007-07-10 05:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is trying to make you jealous for some reason. I would just try his game on just stay out a couple of night's until 3 am and see how he reacts.
2007-07-10 11:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to get some emotion out of you to see how you really feel about him.
Just let him know you both are independent people and you trust him and if there is something he needs to tell you he will and you both should have fun while you are young! Tell him he is acting crazy and needs to chill down. he probably wants you to be jealous!
2007-07-10 05:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you don't care, because you're not jealous.
It's messed up thinking, but it's how he feels, so what are you to do.
In your shoes, I'd go out of my way to reassure him of my feelings. Be free with expressions of love and lots of physical contact.
Also, I'd be more interested in joining him on his late night fun.
He wants you to REALLY want him, perhaps because he's a little insecure?
No harm in bolstering the ego of the man you love.
2007-07-10 05:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a little child, he seems to be yearning for attention by doing "wrong" behavior....and then pouts when he can't argue about things with you. After the age of three or so, it isn't cute - and really, it never is - it is simply boorish and - in an adult - grossly immature.
2007-07-10 05:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋