Leaving toilet training too late 22 month old?

Question

My 22 month old doesn't seem to be showing any signs of readiness.

I heard that they have to be able to say/signal to you when they are about to go that is when it is time.

I do not want her to go in the potty, I have a small padded seat which fits over the toilet, I do not see the point in teaching the potty, then doing it again weaning off potty to toilet, or is that a mistake?

She watches when I go, I tell her toilet is for wee wee and when I change her pampers I take it to the toilet and drop it in and flush and tell her pooh pooh goes here.

She just doesn't seem to be getting it though. If i sit her down she cries.

I even started sitting in the bathroom reading a book to her so she gets used to being in there, but don't know if this would confuse the toilet message.

Any ideas, I don't want her to be 3 years old still in pampers.

My relatives are no help, they had their kids trained at 12months, and tell me I should just know when I'm her mother, no help.

Any ideas from experience would be greatly appreciated.

She's my first I've never done this before.

thanks

THANKS for all your answers so far, I never even thought that she may not like her feet being on the floor, I will try her with a potty chair, but yes I think I will leave her for a few months.

It's hard being a mama!!

Answer 1

I have 2 girls.
The oldest didn't really want to use the potty until right about her 3rd birthday - we tried lots of things to encourage her, but we still had to wait until she actually Wanted to go. I did start her out on the little potty because she can get to it easier by herself. Since she's now a "Big Girl" she likes using the Big Potty (regular toilet) more.
My youngest will be 2 in a couple weeks. She has seen her sister using the potty, so it's made her want to as well since her big sister gets prizes and stickers for using the potty (plus she gets "Nemo" pullups/underwear when she uses the potty). She still isn't into using it all the time. She tells me sometimes that she has to go, but it's usually AFTER she's already done.

Basically, you just have to wait until she's ready. Most likely with our parents who keep insisting that everyone was trained by 12-18 months they forced us or something, even with lots of crying. Just keep encouraging her & offer some good rewards that she really wants - save them only for potty time. Get some fun Potty books to read in the bathroom. She'll come around eventually.

Answer 2

Don't laugh, but the thing that helped me the most with my first is the book potty training for dummies. I do know that with my first, I bought her a book that was all about potty training and we read it and read it and read it. Then I put her in big girl pants and took her every hour to the potty. It only took about a week.

But you should know that her birthday is in January and I didn't start training her until about April or May of that year after her second birthday (I was waiting for warm weather and easier clothing.)

My youngest turns two this September and I probably won't start her until maybe August. I just got her sleeping in her own bed and I don't want to overwhelm the poor kid.

Don't worry about her being 3. Let it alone for now but start doing serious propaganda. Read the books and really talk up how great no diapers will be.

Answer 3

I have two children. My seven year old was not interested in potty training until somewhere around 2 1/2 maybe a little older. She would pee in the potty by 3 years old, but would not poopy in the potty and that took another 6 months or so until she was fully trained. I also have a 15 month old and have learned alot from my older daughter. You can not make a child learn to pee or poopy in the potty if they are not ready. 22 months is pretty early, just stop and try again in a few months. Believe me, she will be potty trained, but 12 months is really early. Like I said before, don't make her if she doesn't want to, just try again some other time. Good luck and enjoy your little girl because they grow up really fast!!

Answer 4

I potty trained my daughter when she was nearly two and I thought she was very young (maybe too young) to train. However, she proved me wrong because using the Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com she was trained in less than 2 weeks. I was skeptical the stool would make a difference but I never would have guessed how well it works!

I realized later that my daughter really wanted to imitate what she saw adults doing and was very determined to mimic correct toilet use.

This really is the greatest thing to happen to potty training. I like that I don't have to use or clean a floor potty and I love that my kids are safe and never have to touch the toilet with their hands! My kids just get right up to the toilet on their own.

The best part is that kids use it for years. Hope this helps you.

Answer 5

go ahead and get a child size potty chair.the big one may be scary to her cause her feet cant reach the floor and may feel insecure on it and then when shes completely trained or during it she can get on and off herself.she is old enough and some will say she will let you know but dont do it before then.with most kids if you wait till there ready gonna be waiting along time.get her some cartoon panties and tell her if she will use the poty she can wear those/also i had a potty seat that played the song how dry i am with my oldest and she loved it.wal mart has oine now thats called there personal throne and everytime mine used it it played the music like you in hear in castles.i have potty trained 4 and have 6 grand children also so i done it already.but shes definetely old enough.good luck and when she has accidents dont scold or punish her makes them afraid of there bodily functions.

Answer 6

Having trained two, I would say from my experience:

-you are right about the potty seat. Besides who wants to clean out a potty? YUCK!

-It's good for her to to see your example.

-make sure that you have a potty treat...chocolate chips or gummies or some other little candy.
Initially, your goal is to get her on the potty without crying so don't expect her to pee or poop right away. Just get her comfortable with the idea of sitting down. And as she's more comfortable you can introduce books later.

And when she no longer cries you can do this:
-Put her on the potty first thing in the morning (whether she's wet or not), right after every meal and anytime you have to go.

-Don't even mess with disposable pull-ups or those expensive diapery training-y things. They are just a way to separate moms from their dollars. Instead, get some cloth panties (the kind that have a couple of layers and are really absorbant) and put those on her. I have found that it's better to put my daughter in a dress and panties. It's easy to get her on the potty because she doesn't give me much warning. We also go through a couple of outfits every day (well, not as much anymore, as she's getting much better at going) but she doesn't like the feeling of being wet.

I found the panties at second-hand stores and then washed them in oxy-clean before I put them on my daughter.

Most of all, don't panic! She's not going to be in kindergarten wearing a diaper! Be patient with her, be patient with yourself. If she has a couple of really good days, and then an "off" day, it's normal.

Looks like you're doing the right thing. Just perservere.

Answer 7

My younger brother was 4 years old before he potty trained. Kids will do it in their own time. Having a little potty for her to use might be more comfortable. She may not like sitting up so high and may feel like she is falling in. It doesn't take much to transfer from a little potty to the toilet when she is big enough to use it properly.

Answer 8

my son was a little over 2 when i started training him and we had his own potty at my house my moms and my mother-in-laws so everyone is working with him that really helps he'll be 3 in dec. and he still has occasional accidents and wheres a pull-up when we leave or to bed at 1st it was pretty hard cause he didn't tell us until after he'd go that he had to potty. but just let her watch you go and she'll start getting interested my son now says he's a big boy and won't use the potty chair anymore he wants to be like everyone else but a nurse told me children can't competely control bowel movements until they are actually 26mo. thats when i started and when they can tell you they went pee-pee or pooh-pooh thats the best time because they can understand better what you want them to do ,good luck hope this will help

Answer 9

I have a 27 month old daughter. She started off being interested in potty training at about 23 months. We started off putting her on the potty chair and giving her stickers when she went potty. Letting them flush is a big incentive. Then it only took a few weeks before she was wanting to go on the toilet. They usually go towards the toilet on their own. There is rarely weening off the potty chair. It's all bribery when it comes to potty training. For instance, if she asks for candy or a popcicle, say, "I want you to go on the potty first, then you can have one." Good luck!

Answer 10

Most kids these days don't start showing signs of potty training until after there 2nd birthday. My 5 year old didn't have any interest until she hit three. The more I pushed the more she didn't want to do it. My 2 year old is now showing signs of wanting to pee in the big potty like older sister.

My advice take a break for a few months and then start again. She should be able to pull her pants up and down on her own, say pee and poo, know what pee and poo is and means. Once she hits these she is ready to be potty trained.

Ps. don't let family members get you down. Good for them in having there kids potty trained by 12 months. There has been research done the kids who are potty trained before one lack in another developmental area. Don't let it get you down. GOOD LUCK!