Im 18 yrs old
Ive been in a relationship for about 4 months already. and because my parents are really strict i only get to see my boyfriend 1 a week. and yesturday was our 4 month anniversary. and he didnt call me. It kinda frustrates me because we barely see each other and he sould call me. and get this if he does call me he calls me 1 a day unless i dont agree with him in something that he calls me until everything is fine.
...i dunt know what to do....some help?
2007-07-10 04:53:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Has he always been like this? If so, it could be his mo. Guys are not as good about special dates like anniversaries.
~But because you don't see him that much he may be moving on..talk to your parents, at 18 you should have more freedom.
2007-07-10 04:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well......
First of all i'd like to know how in the world at 18 do your parents tell you certain things?
Strict? At 18 no one can be too strict. You ARE an adult.
You may still live at home and that i understand,but you can still do as you please with your life with limits and if one of those limits is a boyfriend then sweetie it's time to go. You are an ADULT you can leave whenever you get ready. Again i understand you have still certain rules to follow as you do live in their house, but you as an ADULt need to take some serious control of YOUR life and get it right.
Now that said he probably does not like the fact that you are 18 and your parents still control you like a 14 yr old maybe thats why he doesn't call but once a day or maybe he is pissed cause he wants to see you 5 days a week and you are as an adult only ALLOWED to see him once a week.
That is very childish and he probably has no time for kids.
Gl with that!!
It's a shame!!
2007-07-10 05:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by kissmeagainnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this relationship is more than a little on the rocks, personally from a guys perspective on this, if he didn't call you on your 4th month anniversary, and you only spend 1 day out of the whole week with each other for only a few hours I'm assuming?
Then he probably doesn't see the relationship as worth the effort to maintain, it'd be your call, but you should feel him out about where he thinks the relationship is going before you make any drastic decisions.
2007-07-10 05:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! U R setting yourself up for failure. When U actually have a real relationship, you'll see that this one is just like an extended text message. A real man would want to see, touch and taste his girl, when you're old enough that is. If at 18 you're not allowed to see each other there must be extenuating
circumstances that you're not mentioning. Good luck and take care,
askaman
2007-07-10 08:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by www.askaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? He sounds immature.
No disrespect to your parents, but you're 18, an adult now. If you want to see another adult in a dating manner then go ahead and do it. You're a big girl now.
I would just end it. You went 4 months, and thats for months of your life you can't get back. It's time to move on and find someone who is mature enough for a relationship. Good Luck!
2007-07-10 04:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still very fresh in your relationship. At 18 I think your parents should cut you a little more slack then once a week. At least he can be there at your house with the family around or go out with them all together. He shouldn't have to call you, we women think the guys "have to" do things we want them to, but we are very different them and them then us. Don't freak out on him when he calls if your communication is already very short.
2007-07-10 04:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life. You expect too much out of the relationship. If he were to call you more than once a day, what would you talk about? Talking to each other too much can lead to a phone conversation where you say nothing at all and it gets old quickly. Once a day is fine.
As far as your 4 month anniversary, guys don't remember stuff like that. It's a fact of life; get over it.
2007-07-10 04:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know--not enough information. If this is it, then him forgetting to call you on your anniversary... unless he meant not to call you, you should honestly consider forgiveness. It's certainly not a bad relationship; it just doesn't sound very active to me. With this summary, I interpret that the relationship exists 90% on phone calls.
Edit: Greg above has it right. You're 18. Don't give up your freedom to authority when you don't have to.
2007-07-10 04:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him what's going on. A relationship goes both ways. He gotta call you too! I met guys like that, but I never dated them because they don't seem trustworthy. Besides, I never had a boyfriend and I'm 16, but that's a different story! I think he needs to step up his game. If not, then you need to move on to someone who will appreciate you more.
2007-07-10 05:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Desiree H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i started going out with my boyfriend he would rarely talk on the phone with me and i later found out he really just didnt like talking over the phone, give him some time and ask him if theres anything wrong, and ask if theres anything you could do. It will get better most likely if you just work at it.
2007-07-10 04:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋