How can i tell my mom that i can handle things by myself but in a nice way?

Question

ok well let just say this...........my mother is starting to get on my nerves.....she thinks just because ima single parent that i can't handle things by myself.......everything i do is wrong to her if i dress my daughter she will undress her and put something else.....i mean i love her but she making me feel like i can't take care of my little girl .....wat should i say to tell my mom that im not a little girl anymore and that i have a life of my own

Answer 1

if you are not a little girl anymore, why are you still living with mom? you can't have it both ways, if you live with mom, you are not a mature self sufficient woman, and you owe her the respect due a parent. So either stop whining and be grateful for her knowledge, or move out and get your own place.

Answer 2

I think that your mom represents every new (grandmother), I have a sibling going through the same thing. It is not that they think you can't handle things; from what I hear, they just have been through all of the things you are about to go through as a new parent. So in their own way they are trying to prevent you from going through some of the new mommy issues that they know you will be going through that's all. Example if they see something the baby is wearing, and they feel it may be too cold in the room or outside for the baby to have on, they will put something on their arms or legs etc. Or may ask questions that you may say is questioning your mothering skills.

Answer 3

Then tell her just that, let her know that this is your daughter and that you don't appreciate her under minding you. I don't know how old you are but if you over 18, best advise is to starting looking for your own place. Because your mother feels since that you are living with her she can say or do anything.

Answer 4

I had the same problem with my mother, but I was married and even lived in my own house with my children. She was the same exact way, always telling me what to do with my children. I just sat her down and explained that she already raised her children and that I wanted to raise my children the way I wanted to. She was hurt for a while, but she realized that I could take care of things on my own. It's just something you have to do on your own. If you don't get control now your child will begin to look to your mother instead of you, and believe me, you don't want that. Just explain things calmly and she'll respect you for that. Good luck hun.

Answer 5

Don't say anything with words. Use the mature, responsible action of relying on yourself to let others know that you don't need their imput.

Do you live with her? Is she helping you raise your child? If so, just grin and bear it.

If not, pull away. The only way to let people know that you are completely capable of caring for yourself is NOT to involve them in your decisions. Restrict/limit contact with your mother. She will get the message. You will only have to put up with what you allow in your life.
Good luck with your little girl.

Answer 6

Tell her that you need her to trust you. Let her know that you will always be her daughter , but in order for you to grow and mature into a young adult , you need her space and faith. Please try to say this as nice as possible. Try to invite her in some areas of your life, so she can still feel like a good mom.
Seek her advice when necessary, this will make her feel both wanted and needed.

Answer 7

you need have a talk with your mom but remember your mom is only trying to help. just say that you appreciate everything that she does but how can you learn to the same things if your mom is doing it all. tell her you know she knows all the ins and out about raising a child but that you've got to learn too.
that if you have question that you'll ask her for advice. hopefully your mom won't get her feeling hurt. just be gentle and watch what you say to her.

Answer 8

dont tell ur mom show ur mom then she wont get mad of ur whining or watever of asking to do it by urself try showing her.start telling your mom to relax and say"ill take it from here"ot"Here mom I got this one." dress ur daughter in a mix dress he ur moms way but put a little bit of u into the style.
Good luck

Answer 9

I think you need to let her know that you are a woman now. Tell her that you appreciated everyhting she did for you over the years, but know you need to start doing things on your own. She needs to respect that your daughter is your child and not hers. She already has a daughter and now it is time for her to allow you to raise yours. Good luck!