Is it immature and unethical to pretend to have a kid you don't have?

Question

Not too long ago, I dated a guy that was a virgin. We had a messy break-up(he cheated on me, so I broke up w/ him), & during one of our many immature post break-up arguments(we would call each other post break-up to mock or curse out the other person), he made up a story about having a 2-yr-old son that was, in reality, his new girlfriend's NEPHEW. (he isn't fully aware that I'm on to him, but I have my proof) It was some dumb story he made up to anger me & to falsely "justify" why he cheated on me & left me for another girl.

Is it wrong to lie about having a kid when you don't have one? Was he immature for doing this?

A friend suggested that I should tell him that during our time dating, I got "pregnant"(not true) w/ another guy's kid(remember, my ex is/was a virgin), as payback for him pretending to have a kid. Is this wrong, or would this be simply giving him a taste of his own medicine? (I'm NOT saying I agree w/ this idea) But then again, a friend said it'd be "unforgivable

...But then another friend piped up & said that it'd be an "unforgivable sin" to make up a story about a kid/pregnancy that doesn't exist. Do you agree?

So bottom line...was my ex immature or "wrong" to lie about having a kid that knowingly isn't his? And is it more wrong, less wrong, or equally wrong if I (hypothetically) told him that I was "pregnant" with some other dude's kid?

HELLO, I NEVER SAID I WAS PLANNING TO LIE. I SAID THAT SOMEBODY SUGGESTED THAT TO ME AS A "TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE". I ALREADY STATED THAT I WASN'T IN AGREEMENT WITH IT. I WAS JUST WONDERING WHAT YOU THOUGHT OF THAT. SO IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THEN SAY THAT THE IDEA IS IMMATURE...BUT DONT BE SO QUICK TO CALL ME IMMATURE. I DIDN'T DO IT.

Answer 1

Seriously, just grow the **** up.

He was immature, that doesn't mean you need to stoop to his level. Just drop it, and be the bigger person.

Answer 2

Don't. Saying that would only fuel a huge feud. News like that tends to spread & eventually you'd have to fess up. When he finds out that you aren't pregnant, you just look sad & desperate. He will then go around saying all sorts of nasty things about you. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just drop it & move on. That makes you look like the better person b/c of it. Causing trouble will only make guys not want to date you because they'll think you are psycho & have "issues".

As for the other stuff, I already typed an answer in your previous question:

They may not have been lying. It's pretty common for young unwed mothers to claim that their children are siblings, cousins, or any other relation than their child. It is supposed to allow them to have a normal life. Boys can impregnate girls at pretty much any age after they hit puberty & girls can get pregnant as soon as they get their period (sometimes on their first).

In any case, it was wrong that he kept that from you. In a relationship there should be 100% honesty about things like this. If he can't tell you about a tiny person that is supposed to be one of the most important people in his life, then what else was he keeping from you? I think that you are much better off without him. I would get an STD check to make sure that he didn't leave you with any "presents", since he was obviously unfaithful.

At 19 he has no idea of what life is truly like. He still thinks that life is one big merry game & that he will have his youth & looks forever. In 20-30 years those looks will fade, as will the admirers, & he will regret his past mistakes. Don't feel like you have to get revenge, as time will be the greatest revenge of all.

Answer 3

Of course your ex was wrong to lie and to cheat, but you need to build a bridge and get over it. Change your phone number so he can't call anymore and delete his number from your cell memory or whenever it is store and get a life. It sounds as if you are both acting pretty immature to want to keep calling each other and "besting" each other at hurtful words. Why would you deliberately want to cause another human being pain? You need to look deep down into your soul and see what is in it that is causing you to behave this way and ask God to cleanse your soul and bless you and help you to get over this. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

no, dont do it. It was immature of him to lie about that. Dont make yourself look like a whore & an immature girl. Ignore him, he is your ex for some reason, so why do you keep talking to him?? plus he has a new gf, so leave him alone, move on.

Answer 5

Yes, it is VERY immature to lie about having a child that isn't yours.Instead of going back and forth with one another, it's up to you to let it go. He's cheated on you so he isn't worth your time anyway. He wants you to feed into his Bullsh!t, that's why he keeps egging you on.

Answer 6

YES!!! this whole idea of you two fighting back and forth is crazy. how old are you too?? what are you both proving by this, to make each other hurt the most?? u need to be the woman and move on. let him be immature.

Answer 7

Grow Up

Answer 8

I think you are both pretty immature. You aren't together anymore - so why do you care? I don't see why you need to talk to him at all.

Both of you should just turn off your phone, get better freinds and shut up.

Answer 9

Two wrongs have always made a right. Quit obsessing over this guy and move on.

Answer 10

Gee I think you two were made for each other. He lied, and you want to lie. It is NEVER moral or ethical to lie. Grow up, accept that he used you, and move along.