If you're so 'perfect' why doesn't he want you?

Question

If you're a good looking, talented, kind, intelligent, funny, caring, sweet, fun, sexy and interesting woman and an incredibly good friend to a man, and he knows this and tells you it, why would he sleep with you then get back together with his ex who had annoyed him and left him for another man two weeks later and tell you he was never attracted to you?

Answer 1

guys don't like perfect women. guys want a woman that is fun to be around who is gonna take good care of them in ALL areas. 'some' men will tell women what they want to hear just to get sex. (not all men r like that) i think he only told u she was annoying to get u to feel sorry for him to have sex with him only bcoz u meet his standards at that moment. sounds like she broke up with him just to have sex with somebody else to make him jealous. i think he was probably telling u the truth when he said he was never attracted to u. sorry if i seem so harsh. but i think u need to come down from ur pedestal and get a clue about men. good luck

Answer 2

Guilt and Love can be the problems. The reason he went back to his ex is because she has a hold of his heart that he is not willing to let anyone else hold at this moment. Emotionally men are just like women. We get attached and fall in love hard just like a female. The only difference in that we can cover it up, and have no need to share of show it. Just like a female can get hooked on a guy and even though he beats her and treats her like dirt she will always go back to then. This is what is happening to your friend. It's not his fault. Maybe he needs some help to see the light. The reason he said he was never attracted to you is because of guilt. He made a connection with you and that connection got interupted by his ex. He feels guilty that he had you high in the air and wasn't there to catch you " because he had to run to his ex". You can't really look someone in the eye after you treated them like dirt. And he says that he never was attracted to you to push you away so he doesn't have to see you gor-jus face and tell you something that he is already hurting over. Just give him time and he will come around. He has to deal with his demons. Be his angel and help him if he feels he can't handle it. Hope you 2 work out.

Answer 3

MAN I HATE MALES, I mean ya know that the confusing part about them, if they have somebody before you they get attached the them. So no matter how sweet and everything you are they already have a History with the other person and want to make it work. I think you should realize all those things you just said about your self and find a guy who DESERVES them, because by the sounds of it, he doesn't seem to deserve you in any way. I know you may WANT to be with him, but there ARE more fish in the sea, and even though it sucks you gotta go fishing it WILL be worth it in the end, I PROMISE YOU, I'm going through the same thing, and I'm giving you this advice and find it hard to take it myself but deep down I know it's the write thing to do! Good Luck

Answer 4

Men are strange. Forget about him. Obviously he wasn't looking for the 'perfect girl' just a 'good night'. If you have all those good qualities then he should be the one worried, considering the fact that most men would die to meet someone like you. He probably didn't even realize any of those qualities, so really, it sounds like your the lucky one. This guy comes off as being a someone who doesn't know what he wants. Don't worry about him, you can probably find someone lese in a NY minute
^_^

Answer 5

Because we are all dogs and never want what is good for us. Well a majority of us do. I have come to the conclusion that men are 3 forms of dogs: German Sheppard, Chiquia, or Rottweiler. He may see you always in the friend zone which has hurt your chance of having anything further. But I could be wrong just keep hope alive.

Answer 6

Look at this situation this way.
Men tend to learn to tell women things that they know will make them feel good about themselves regardless if they mean it or not.
they will tell you anything they can, to get what they want out of you.
We are just nieve enough to believe them cause we hope that what they say is true.
but not always do they tell you what they really think.
and when a situation such as this comes up. They say the opposite to cover up their own guilt for telling you bs.
just move on the best you you can, and learn the lesson of what he taught you.
Men are good at the art of deception. be aware of it, and don't believe it if it seems to good to be true.

Answer 7

You've set yourself up as a friend with benefits instead of a lover. Now he thinks he can get you when he needs someone to fall back on and get all the trust and caring and other amenities and not be committed to any relationship other than as a friend.

Answer 8

because by chance you are shown that you and him are not compatible. yes you may feel you are all these great things, but u cant make a man like you. a man is going to do what he wants, regardless of you thinking that you are the best thing for him. he has to feel that, more than see that. you just need to move on. find another that is worth it.

Answer 9

'cause guys are jerks and love messing with our emotions and messing up our lives (well at least the guys I meet).

But really I think it's because guys like things that they can't have. If his ex seemed like she was gonna go find a new guy, his interest in her is renewed 'cause he wants that challenge. But if you are there, willing to be his girl, that's too easy for him.

Answer 10

Guys don't want "perfect" they want fun and interesting and stuff like that. You're so NOT perfect...you're just way to into yourself. No one will ever be good enough for you. Have a happy and very lonely "perfect life".