I am 22 i live with my bf of 2 yrs i found out about a month ago that i was pregnant. I have no idea how to tell my parents because we are not married. They do know that we live together. But i am going over there for dinner tonight and have no idea how to start!
2007-07-10 03:42:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will be fine! Take a breath, I read a few of these other comments assholes. I think if you want this baby then there is nothing anyone can say. Honestly as long as you to have a job and you haven’t been asking people for money every other month than your good. I have learned you can never be completely ready for a baby. I mean there is always going to be something you want more of. You have this opportunity now to have a child so take it. I think the fact that you are not married is not a big deal but you do need to consider if you will marry him one day. Is he someone that you can be with and support a child with? As for you parents just tell them after dinner that you and your boyfriend have been together a wile now and love each other and are going to have a baby. Don’t beat around the bush just tell them the faster it is off your chest the faster they can let it sink in. Good luck! Don’t let anyone get you down and this decision is for you and your boyfriend not for everyone else. When times get hard trust me you can get through them.
2007-07-10 04:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ashlovable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to know the answers to some of their questions before you give them any information.
Also wait a bit longer, not tonight. Get over the initial danger period, when miscarriage is common. I told my parents and then miscarried. All for nothing.
Your parents will want to know the level of commitment that you and your partner have to each other. I would tell that first. I sure hope this was not an accident. If it was your choice, and you and your partner have joy, then share that joy.
Your parents will be upset if,
a) they think that you want to be married and he won't marry you.
b) he doesn't have a job
c) you don't have a job
d) you are in debt
e) you told them you were going to wait to have children
f) you have unfulfilled dreams
g) they don't like or trust him
Not being married is a choice. Unless your family is very religious, then it is a legitimate choice. However, it makes it so much easier legally if bad things happen later on (splitting or death) if you are married.
Good luck....
2007-07-10 10:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mature enough to live with your boyfriend and get pregnant you must be mature enough to be able to communicate with your parents. But I would wait until the meal is over and everybody is maybe having coffee or dessert and then say something like, "What do you think you guys will be doing in about 7 months (or in March (whatever your due date is) however you want to phrase it)? And your mom will probably be the first to pick up on it and she'll say "why?" and you'll say because I expect to be having the baby then. I wish you all the best of luck and God's blessings on this joyous occasion and hope that you are well prepared for this step.
2007-07-10 10:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I have this right. You should not have been living with a guy without being married and were so ashamed of the fact that you did not tell your parents. You should have used birth control but you were not concerned about that, either. Now you are pregnant, not married and apparently not getting married and telling your parents is what you are worried about?
Pathetic.
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2007-07-10 10:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The direct approach is the best approach. Just look them straight in the eye and tell them. If they have trouble at first they will eventually come around. They may react totally different than what you think. Good luck!
2007-07-10 11:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by robee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start talking about families and children. As a warm up, then tell them how you and your bf are really happy together and want to be together forever, then break it to them.
Your old enough to live your life, so make sure they know that if they object to it.
Good Luck ! =]
2007-07-10 10:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by dibby_dabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you are 22 they are not stupid they know you are having sex! I am sure they got over the shock when you moved in together 2 years ago!
2007-07-10 10:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhm, ne careful to say that thing its not easy, ur parents might be get man of you,, they'll be shock!!!
well for me the best way to tell your parents is, just say her in a nice voice with a teary eyes.. :) then try to listen what they'll say, dont make fight with them if ever they'll tell u bad words.. just always listen, and shut ur mouth when they talk... :) just be honest and true to ur self!!! believe in ur self and have a confident when u talk....
of course when u tak u have a feelings....
then just say to ur mom that u are no longer a child,,, and they have a new grand daughter/son soon! :)
if they'l surprise of get mad, just accept their reaction. u know its normal.. :D
2007-07-10 11:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by malagu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Mom, dad.... you're going to be new grandparents!!!! Is'nt that exciting?" Or maybe "how would you like the idea of having a new baby crawling around your living room?"
2007-07-10 11:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i told my father when i was 19 by showing him a pregnancy book the doctor gave me. he didn't cop on for a few minutes but he got it then. i couldn't get the words out of my mouth so that's what i did. hope it goes well for you.
2007-07-10 10:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by fi fi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋