Will you answer a question about adoption, in need of wisdom from people with morals?

Question

I Christian brother is asking a question about adoption. And could use some help with this very difficult decision.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjyXI3Fb1JdA71Vvca47faLsy6IX?qid=20070709122250AA3msJ7

Answer 1

I adopted my son, and have never regretted it. But I didn't have any other children. This may be hard on your children,as all of a sudden there are 2 more. I'm sure they need younger parents who could discipline when needed. It would be tough. All involved will need to seek the Lord on it. For the sake of your friend's family, it may be best to leave them where they are. But he might invite the children on outings with the family and have an overnight stay. This would give an idea on how things might work. And the foster parents would need to agree on all of this, too. Either way, it is tough on everyone involved, whether they adopt, or leave the children where they are.

Answer 2

Thank you very much.

I saw your earlier question and then you removed it. That was a big type o.

I do need all the help I can get. So far people have been very supportive and positive about the situation. It is very helpful about making this important choice. I didn't give getting married this much thought. So many lives are involved. I just want to do what is best for everyone. I am not sure if that can be done.


I guess JA has never heard of a child telling their adopted parents "YOU ARE NOT MY PARENTS" and refuses to do as they are told. Would that be a good situation, to go for year to year with a child or children that might hate us? Should this not be considered? I have had people tell me that if I didn't want a rebellious teen I shouldn't have had four. Do people not understand that adopting is a little different? I know some people will not understand my house hold. We are a very peaceful and quiet home, and would like to keep to that the best we can. That's why I posted my question. I love these girls as if they are my own already. When our four children were born they were raised by us and we knew what to expect from an infant.

I know some people only want to find fault but children are not something we can jump into with out very careful consideration. Remember I have four already I have to keep their best interest in mind also.

I know that taking these children will not be the perfect situation for everyone. I am just very concerned how they will adjust to our home. I would hope that giving them the love, just like the love I give to my own children they could adjust and fit right in and we all could be very happy just the eight of us.

My wifes concern also is that they will not repect her. Remember their mother was killed.

Only a fool would jump into a situation like this without thinking it all the way through. We love the girls and want to give them the best home. We want them to feel as comfortable as our children we have now. It would hurt us a lot if we did not go through with the adoption. But there may be a more perfect situation for the girls. As of right now they are in a good home. They are loved in it also but my uncle and aunt are not sure about adoption. We will not jump into any choice, even if we decided we still may not be able to get them.

We are only trying to make the first and most important choice. We have to have our minds made up before we go any further.


So far the best answer I think is RB. We do plan on spending as much time with the girls as possible. We will even offer to help them out if they decide to adopt the girls. One thing for sure there is no shotage of love for these girls from our two homes.

Answer 3

I clicked the link you gave and visited the previous question.

It said something there that kind of bothers me and suggests that they're not the best parents of these orphans. Here's their words . . .

"We are more concerned about their ages. One of them is very friendly and loving, the other was like her until lately she has become very rude and mean to others. I know they both really need a loving home my wife and I are very concerned about the older one. Will she always be like this? If she is we are stuck in a bad situation. We are afraid of a rebellious teenager. Remember we have 4 kids now ages 12,11,10, &8."

They want these kids -- who they acknowledge as having been through hell already -- to be well-adjusted little darlings . . . or else they'll be "stuck in a bad situation".

They shouldn't adopt them if they don't TRULY love them. And if they can criticize the one for being a problem, then they don't love them. For crying out loud, what do they expect them to act like after all they've been through?

Instead of taking the pessimistic view, they should have been excited at the opportunity to finaly give these kids a good loving home. Their own words tell me they're not fit to adopt them.

Let a REAL loving couple be their parents. Give them a true chance at happiness.

Answer 4

Adoption is a wonderful and loving way to give a home and a parent's love to someone who would not have recieved it otherwise- I cannot think of a more beautiful or Christian act.

Answer 5

this is not a difficult decision....what is right, what is not right, and in their heart of hearts people know what is right.
They have a home, a family, and those girls need that. It is the right thing to do to share their home and love.

Answer 6

You already asked this question. I already went over there and gave him my message. Please stop spamming.