I work in a doctor's office. There is this one lady who is SO nice, sweet, good worker, caring, etc. The patients all love her, and so do I. She is in her upper 40s or maybe 50, and pretty overweight. I'm 25, and most of my coworkers are about that same age. I'm the only guy, the other 4 are girls, and they are all skinny. Anyway, the one older lady is nothing but nice, and these other girls are nothing but mean. They talk about her behind her back about being fat, make fun of her and stuff like that. I've told them to stop and it's really pi--ing me off. The older lady is having a get-together in about 2 weeks and asked us all to come. The bi--y girls are telling her they're going to come and being all fake to her face, but when she's not there they were saying "oh let's just go so we can see what her house is like, it's probably gross" and stuff like that. I've HAD IT, I'm about to either go off on them, or tell her, or tell the dr. I'm nervous about losing my job, though. Any tips?
2007-07-10 02:45:28 · 11 answers · asked by Luna Maya 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's terrible. Those girls will pay for that one day. I think you should talk to the Dr. Helping someone out like that, and trying to stop stupid shallow evil people is worth risking the job. If you talk to him professionally, surely he wouldn't fire you? Those skanks don't need to be going to her party, though.
2007-07-10 02:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
God bless you for being mature and compassionate toward her. The other girls are probably nice people...alone. But, they are very immature and shallow to treat her like this. Gossip is the worst enemy in business! It takes a team of workers and pits them against each other for no good reason.
Take a girl at a time on the side and speak softly and seriously how the group can be a better asset to the practice, just by treating the older gal with respect and equality.
Just so they don't take it as a personal attack on them, you might add that nobody is perfect and tell them that you have faults of your own. Even though you have faults, they still like you...why can't they respect her a little better than they already do? What is the real problem?
A gentle serious tone will put them on the spot with no "support group" to chime in. Look them in the eye, they really need you to set them on the right track. You can do it!!
The doctor won't do anything like this, so don't bother. It is up to you to be mature and rational. I will pray for your success.
Peace to you always
2007-07-10 10:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the 50 year old in this question. (not literally) I am the supervisor over a bunch of 20 somethings who all b++ all day long and hide and don't do their job. (also in the medical field) I am the brunt of their gossip, their being mean to me, and all sorts of other things. I do nothing but be nice to these girls. When I work with older more mature people the problems don't occur. We don't get as many complaints about poor service. I have to "right up" any complaint from a pt. or family and in doing so it just keeps and encourages the bad behavior o me and to the pt. They then blame the patient for the right up as in "can you even believe he did this" and then saying "I'm not going to answer thier light,he already reported me". So after 2 1/2 years of this, I am changing to the night shift. I get no support fom my bosses when I do he right ups but if I don't then I get in trouble when the family says "well, we told ----The other day". You can try talking to the Dr. If there are pt. c/o about these girls, then all the better for you in talking to the Dr. You might also try talking to them although I doubt that will work. It didn't for me. Lets hope the Dr. is supportive.
2007-07-10 10:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by sweet sue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sheesh you would think people would stop doing that crap by like 12 years old. It reminds me of that move Mean Girls, only they're in 9th grade, not grown up at work. You should definitely talk to the doctor, maybe start looking for a job first though just in case it does lead to so much tension that you have to quit or something. Somethings needs to be done about these little twits, though, and good for you for being a decent person, and god help you for having to be the only man in that group, haha.
2007-07-10 10:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Pat Smear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be worried about losing my job by reporting their behavior to the doc. I would be worried about creating tension at work, which they have already done by being snots. I'd try to find a way to approach the doc and let him know that there's some tension in the office and maybe you need a meeting or something. I'm just worried that he'll look at you like a tattle-tale and possibly lose some respect for you.
You might be better off approaching the douches and letting them know that they're rude, snotty, and immature and maybe they'll chill out a bit.
2007-07-10 10:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like your co-worker are pretty immature. Basically the only thing you can do, is try to find one of the mature girls in the group if there is one get to understand what they are doing is immature and highschoolish. If that doesn't work, you might have to step to the older lady and tell her, those she think are friends are not, and let her descide what to do. You don't have to tell her what was said or who said it, even thou there a re only a few in the office, but she will know not to put herself out to get embarassed. Actually what you just spoke about is very typical with females....
2007-07-10 10:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dj Teeza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to the doctor. Be respectful and professional. He will hopefully admire your decency and concern for the nice lady. If you try and talk to the mean girls yourself, they will probably make fun of you and possibly make up a story about you to get you in trouble. But if you talk to the doctor and he talks to the mean girls, maybe they'll be afraid of losing their jobs and stop the hateful talk. I don't recommend telling the nice lady because it will really hurt her feelings. What if she quits her job because of it? Then you'll be stuck with the mean girls! Mean people just ruin so many things! Hope this helps!
2007-07-10 10:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by somebody 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some pictures of those girls, then edit them in photoshop to make them look like they're having sex with animals and stuff, then leave printouts of them laying around the office. You will accomplish two things - embarrass and humiliate them so they'll have a taste of their own medicine, and cause so much chaos in the office that they will be distracted from making fun of her, and then SHE can have a little bit to laugh at too. Oh and send the pictures to the local newspaper as well, don't forget that step. Can you post their names on here, too so we can call the Dr's office and say we saw them out drunk one night? I hate them.
2007-07-10 09:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
that kind of behaviour is a given when in comes to working in a female domnated workplace. you just notice it more as you are the only guy. i work with mainly men and i often find that they are just as offensive to ppl too. some people are just inherently mean but when people group together they feel that their behaviour is justified.
2007-07-10 10:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by purplepants 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would just tell them u have had enough with their immature comments. i think u shoudl tell the doctor so he can speak to them and put them in their place. i wouldnt tell the woman who is a little heay. it would deeply hurt her feelings. tell the docotr about their work place bullying so he can put an end to it.
2007-07-10 09:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋