In college I was very attracted to a girl in my class, and with some time that passed by we began talking. I asked her out, and we started going out on a few dates. It was nice because everything went so well and smooth. Being friends first it made it kind of difficult to go into a relationship so it was always very much on the surface. BTW, I am 4 years younger than her. When we went out a few time she always mentioned that "she pictures herself married to me" and the like and when I would seem to get closer to her she would say that she wants something casual??!!? She was always very secretive about her life and I never could not understand why. Well, 2 years have past and we hardly speak and get very angry with each other over stupid things. I moved away 1 year ago and the day I left she was in tears asking me not to go. She visited me where I live, but made an effort to piss me off and show that she has no interest and tried to make me jealous, what do I do, keep her? As a friend?
2007-07-10 02:41:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all dont let anyone tell you to follow your heart . because she has taken you out of her heart why you should keep her in yours ? another things, you said you moved on that means you aint romanticly interested in her so why think of your heart ? think with ur brain, dont keep her as a friend. find another move on, i hope this helps
2007-07-10 03:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are in different places now... It seems like you have a new life since you have moved - so let her know that! Let her know that you don't want to F*** around anymore with bullsh*t. It seems like she has a great time playing games, so make her see that you don't need her. I would actually stop talking to her - because it seems like a waiste of time. Move on - because that relationship is certainly not healthy...
2007-07-10 02:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mallory C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's taking you for granted, using you as a way to boost her ego. Bringing you closer when it makes her feel good, pushing you away because she doesn't really want to commit to you.
That is not a healthy relationship and ou are no one's puppet. you sound like a decent guy and I'll bet there are plenty of girls who would love to go out with you.
You could keep her as a friend, no ral harm in that. Just make yourself clear, you will not be used!
2007-07-10 02:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by lilykdesign 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your feelings and if she is not interested she must tell and you must carry on with your life. If you ask me she has feelings towards you but there is someone in her life that is why she is not committing herself to you. Talk to her and she must give you an answer don't take anything like let me think about it she must know by now if she wants to be with you or not.
2007-07-10 02:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's contacting you because of the fact he needs what he needs - you prefer a "genuine courting" - maximum adult adult males choose intercourse and not something - a minimum of they gained't choose something until their hormones settle. So "he's no longer waiting" - in case you push him for what you prefer and don't understand that he would not - then you definately are "using him nuts" - and prefer as no longer he will sense under duress. you're no longer giving him EMOTIONAL area - bypass away him be. Do women alwayspersistent adult adult males nuts? sure. almost devoid of exception.
2016-12-10 07:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by colmenero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is confused, and you need to move on. either keep her as a friend and let her bother you, or move on a find another lady who wont put you through this. its too many women in the world to stress over one being single.
2007-07-10 02:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Tony E. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go out and eat something.Then you can talk all you want and make her laugh.;)
In the end give her a hug and a kiss in the cheeks.
That should help.
All you simply have to do is talk and be nice.
2007-07-10 02:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are in the same basic situation. This girl im seeing/ not seeing is driving me insane, she says she wants to be together but just not "official" and she say that the universe told her that we will be married. I dont get it either, so my advice is do what im doing, wait it out. But I can say this, im definitely not waiting for too long.
2007-07-10 02:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep her as a friend, let her be a lesson that you've learned in the past....not to go so nuts about a girl....she's making you jealous, then let her....some time she'll realize that you're not taking the bait, and now she'll take yours......
2007-07-10 02:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by DARKSTAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing mind games with you. Move on!
2007-07-10 02:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by burghgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋