we had similar prayer requests and visions about us getting married, should i go ahead and accept his courtship proposal or wait? How do i know its God's will and that the devil aint deceiving me with giving me the same thing i prayed for? How long should one wait begore they get married??
2007-07-10 02:35:40 · 32 answers · asked by vagushue 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Pray up big time. Go to premarital counseling. Whatever you do I say you should wait for clear confirmation from God. His word says there's a season for everything. You could wait a year, you could wait 2 years, trust me when I say a person can deceive you and after you've gotten married you could end up seeing a side of him that you may regret for a long time. Wait on God and let Him direct your paths.
Pro 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.
Pro 3:6 Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths.
God bless you.
2007-07-10 02:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gir 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a hurry to get married - in a hurry to get divorced.
People who jump into commitments without soberly getting to know one another are operating on temporary emotions - not true commitment.
Dear one - Satan will want to mess you up by putting you with a counterfeit while you are searching for the genuine article... so mutually decide to take it very slow.
Have an old fashioned courtship - and do NOT talk about marriage for a few months. Talk about all the things you would with a new friend, while trying o get to know one another.
You know how it is when dating someone for a long time... it's only when you are comfortable around each other that you REALLY get to see the true person... when they let their hair down, so to speak.
If God intends you to have a life time together - there's no reason to rush. Follow the scriptures. Any part of your relationship that goes against scripture is going to be a blazing sign this is NOT the one for you. Don't get pulled away from Jesus.
See if you can get counseled by your minister in the mean time. Keep God first - and He will not allow you to be deceived.
Peace.
2007-07-10 02:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah! You have to wait! You've only known him one week? He could be anyone!
I understand that you feel a connection with him, but the only way you can tell if he's good news or not is time. Get to know him. The fact that he's so eager to get married right away is a bit worrisome.
Just have fun together in a dating relationship. Once you grow together as a couple and then develop love and commitment, you should get married. You'll know when it happens.
Do NOT ever let anyone convince you to marry him because he claims it is God's will or God told him that you're met to be together, even if you believe that too. It's best to wait and know for sure. Marriage is a big deal, and you want to be 100% sure before going into it!
2007-07-10 02:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and accept his proposal with conditions. 1) Do not set a date for at least 6 months, then at that time set a date for no sooner than a year.I am assuming that since you go to church, that you also know what kind of a commitment marriage is, the both of you need to realize that. I was raised believing marriage was for life, and still believe we are supposed to stay together, but I personally have been divorced twice, not by choice, but because the world makes it so easy to walk away from your problems. Okay what I'm saying is just watch yourself. Prayers are still answered, and I hope this man is the answer to yours. If you have prayed for this though, you must have faith.
I'd love to hear your resolve.
2007-07-10 02:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by amondriscoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I say look into your heart and what you know about this person. I would encourage you to wait.
I have been married for many years but I married quickly. And though I am happily married I wish we had had more of a courtship.
Only you and God knows if this person is right for you. If you are unsure I would advise you to wait til you are sure any doubts don't marry.
Don't take the advise without understanding I am not the best person to give it, only you know you and only you know this guy and basically if it is God's timing God will make all things clear.
2007-07-10 02:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by turtle30c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek council of your spiritual leaders / parents. Have them check the guy out and test his character and check to see if he's prepared to support a family in every way. When it comes to matters of the heart, there is no way I would trust my own judgement. There is a reason God gave us parents and spiritual leaders. Use their wisdom and discernment.
The timeline is different for every situation. At my church, courting couples go through a series of questions that the elders have prepared. They walk through a lot of the tough questions that will affect the marriage. They help the couple to discuss areas of importance, kids, money, job, anything that could cause a conflict. They are able to learn more about one another and see how they react to differences of opinion. This gives them a chance to really get to know one another.
In engagement, the questions get deeper and they lead up to the actual marriage. If a couple knew each other for a long time before courtship, they usually run thru this time in less than a year. It really comes down to finding your answer about whether or not this is God. When you are sure that it is God, get married. If you continue to seek His face in this and include your authority figures, He will answer and confirm it.
2007-07-10 02:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let me get this straight... you prayed to find someone to get married to and someone you barely know proposed. Is this the devil trying to trick you?
You, my friend, are a perfect example of the dumbing down of the gene pool. You are worried that this nice man might have been sent by the devil and that by marrying him you might not be following God's will. How about you would be a flaming moron to marry someone that you've known for a single week! Do you know anything about this guy? Where he works? What his favorite food is? How many bodies he has buried in his back yard?
Do yourself a favor and instead of praying for a man and worrying about "God's will", focus on getting yourself into a sane and healthy relationship with a man who will care for you as you deserve to be cared for. Date the guy and if he proves to be deserving of serious consideration as marriage material, then let him know that you will consider the idea. But get your head back down to Earth first.
2007-07-10 03:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ravanne_1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...Take your time! If you just met him don't even think about marriage yet. Take a deep breath and get to know a little about him! Sometimes we get too serious about things too quickly.
1. Pray to God about Him. Do what He tells you!
2. Tell the guy you don't want to have sex before marriage and be serious about it.
3. If you do decide to date this gentleman get to know him for about 1 year before you consider marrying him.
4. If things are right you will feel peace and they will flow.
5. He should express the unconditional love of God in his life. Not just to you but to everyone.
6. Watch how he treats animals.
7. If he's from God he'll be patient enough to allow you time to make the right decision. If he's pushy or impatient about a relationship leave the guy alone.
Be blessed!
2007-07-10 02:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by thepaladin38 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be careful what you wish for...
One week is a little scary.
In your case, I'd take one year to get to know him and another year to plan the wedding.
If you plan on spending the rest of your life with this man, two years are nothing.
Marriage is hard even at its best. Don't do anything stupid. Ignore your visions. They are a reflection of what you want to happen. This guy is most likely just trying to get into your pants.
"A kiss may not be the truth, but it is always what we wish were true."
2007-07-10 02:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least a year before getting married. You could agree to get engaged now, but I'd hold off for a while. Marriage is supposed to be permanent. It's a big decision, so don't make a mistake by moving too fast and regretting it later.
2007-07-10 02:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋