I need help with understanding this. What will my life be like without my sight? My worst fear is relying on other people. My husband David is blind. We never talk about it. It's I feel like a failure as a wife that I can't take care of my husband. David said he will help me. He wants to get a nanny to take care of the babies. I would feel like a bad parent. I would feel like a worthless wife and mother. Why is God allowing this to happen to me? Am I being punished by God? I need advice and help for any one who is a nurse or eye doctor.
2007-07-10 02:24:39 · 11 answers · asked by SNAKEDOG 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I am legally blind, no vision in my left eye, tunnel vision in my right eye, and in addition to that am I hearing impaired. Since you did not mention what the diagnosis was is there little I can say about any possibilities, but there are eye diseases that progress very slow. I have been legally blind/deaf all my life but I have 2 grown children and I actually outlived my husband who died 14 years ago.
I have found something that seems to help eyes and ears, because 6 weeks into taking it is my color perception better and so is the sharpness of my leftover central vision in my right eye. I also noticed that my hearing in my right ear became somewhat better, so I am busy taking that stuff with hopes and prayers in my heart.
When it comes to losing your eye sight it is terrifying, but there are a lot of things out there that help. From mobility training with a cane to guide dogs to technical equipment and gadgets for the kitchen. I have an oversized timer for example, and special measuring cups, a special cutting board(with edges)and a super knife where I can't accidentially cut myself and special software for the computer is available(ZoomText magnifying and JAWS(which works with speech to let a blind know what's on the pc-screen). The state offers a lot of training for those who need it. And a lot of blind people have raised babies......if you have any more questions you can e-mail me...
2007-07-10 02:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before anything else I think sitting back and looking at this situation from another perspective. I am a nurse but I don't think you need my help. Life has this funny way of showing us how little control we have over it. I think about it every time I walk in the hospital and take care of people who have been stripped of so much and left with pain and humility. Your children will not begrudge you for having a nanny. Since they are who will be most affected, and they won't begrudge you, you should not feel guilty or like a bad parent. Obviously since you are so concerned about it now, you are proving what a great parent you really are! Whether you feel comfortable or not about it you and your husband should have many discussions about your blindness and his. There are so many options out there for a chronic condition such as blindness! I know you are frustrated and angry and that just takes time. Love yourself and the capabilities you have, know there is hope for a better day. Love your husband and family and you will all get through this and be stronger for it.
2007-07-10 02:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Becgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being punished at all. You are not a failure either. This is part of life. You must take it as it goes. Learn to conquer this condition. Start now by counting steps from the kitchen to the stairs. Just b/c you cannot see does not mean that you can not do anything ever. You are not a vegatable. Do you feel this way about your husband because he is blind? do you feel like he is a failure and a bad parent and a worthless husband. God is not punishing you at all. I am sure you are terrified. I will pray for you and your family
2007-07-10 02:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by starynight39 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being punished by God. If you observe the world many terrible things are going on. You are not alone.
You are not a failure if you have assistance to take care of your babies. You will still be the one calling the shots and have the full responsibility.
you are not a failure as a wife. You cannot help what is happening to you, and no one, including your husband, is blaming you.
life is not easy and you just have to go with the changes and learn to live in a different way. I became bedridden seventeen years ago. I went through the exact same emotions you are going through. Finally I came to peace with my situation. I just have to adjust my life to my situation. You can make it work.
2007-07-10 02:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a failure and the things that you're saying are cos youre shocked and confused. Just calm down hun! You can go to an optometrist and ask how bad it really is. I was also told that I would lose the sight in my left eye cos the nerves werent making contact or whatever, they got me correctional glasses and now I read fine! Dont take someone elses word as confirmation, find out the facts for yourself and what options are available for you.Just dont give up!
2007-07-10 02:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to an OPHTHALMOLOGIST???? This is urgent. Be informed. YOU MUST LEARN THE REASON FOR WHAT IS HAPPENING. Get an appointment IMMEDIATELY.
You may very well be able to correct the cause of what is happening. There are numerous causes for blindness, some of them correctable with surgery. DO NOT ASSUME THIS IS SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN TO YOU.
My daughter began losing her vision at 19, we finally learned that she had torn retinas, they repaired themselves, thank God.
If you are VERY near sighted the retina gets thinner and thinner and can tear. THIS ONE CAN BE SURGICALLY RE
PAIRED. Cataracts, the clouding of the lens and obscuring of the vision, can be repaired with new lenses. (Diabetics frequently get this in one or both eyes) My Husband has had three surgeries to repair this problem. Two lens replacements and one VITRECTOMY, this is surgery inside of the eyeball.
With absolute faith, he will help you deal with what is happening. Yes, if it is a given fact, you will have to learn to depend upon others.
Your house will need to be arranged to keep things easily accessible for you , your husband and your babies.
MAKE THAT DOCTORS APPOINTMENT, IF YOU HAVE NOT ALREADY.
Pray frequently, God is always there to get you through each and every difficult thing that life throws at us.
Please, talk to your Husband, this sort of difficulty can bring a couple together more than any other thing. He will be able to help you. Of course it will be different if he was born blind.
2007-07-10 02:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true story!
i survived getting hit by a semi during a blizzard in minnessota .
i was pulling the peaple out of the burning car that had slid into the back of my semi and another semi come sliding down the highway towards us and slammed into me!
20 years of operations pain and therapy!
then 5 years ago i came down with full blow tuberculosis, coughing and vomiting flem and blood for about a year!
while they were treating me for that they found out i had hepetitis c probably from when i was in the service and got some tainted blood, they didnt screen blood that well back then!
at the same time i was told that the hep c had ravaged my liver and the tumors were to big to operate and i only had about a year left and they sent me to a nursing home to die!
well that was 5 years ago! a doctor from austrailia challenged
the hospital board to vote to give me a transplant, he said he could save me!
last holloween i got a new liver, the hep c went away, ive been getting stronger everyday, and so far no signs of the cancer returning!
belive me its been a painful and rough ride but i never lost faith and the doctors and nurses said i was the first patient they wanted to see every morning!
its still painful, but they got me a good medication buzz going for the pain, but i never blamed god and always kept the faith!
BE STRONG AND BE HEARD AND SEEN, DONT JUST FADE AWAY INTO THE BACKGROUND FIGHT IT ALL THE WAY!!!
KEEP THE FAITH, AND GOOD LUCK BABE!
2007-07-10 03:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not the reason for this terrible thing you eyesight hasn't left you yet so be thankful and pray to GOD because he can help you restore your sight...in so many ways...How are you losing your sight though is it you feel like you are losing it because something happened and your vision is blurry...have you tried glasses...what are you doing to help yourself have you check in with the eye doctor...
2007-07-10 02:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And contact the American Foundation for the Blind for help with preparing for your situation. They can give you advice on what to do about a nanny.
2007-07-10 02:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ar not being punished by God.Take it easy, go see an ophtamologist to no what d problem actauly is.Believe that God can turn ur sitaution around and make it good, ur husband can even see again. Jesus can do it if u believe and hav faith. I would be praying for u and ur family.God can do it.
Remain blessed.
2007-07-10 02:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by arisa n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋