Ok, so I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year. We usually have a regular sex life. Which, to us is once or twice a week. But, recently we haven't had sex in like 3 weeks. I see it as an issue, though my boyfriend said to not worry about it and it wasn't an issue at all. Am I overreacting?? I just feel maybe he doesnt want me!! He has been really cuddly lately and affectionate, so it doesnt make sense why we havent had sex!! Overreacting or do I have reason to be upset??
2007-07-10 00:14:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u definately have reason to be upset
it is vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv rare that a girl wants sex and the guy refuses
maybe he has some kinna problem u guys really need to discuss this out
2007-07-10 00:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by dan brown 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, if he's living with you, I could see the reason why your overreacting. My boyfriend and I have a regular sex life as well(once a week or so) but we don't live together and sometimes school and work get in our way and we're unable to be together(sexually speaking) for maybe 2-3 weeks. Truthfully, I don't really think its an issue. He probably wants to just spend time with you in a non-sexual way. Him not having sex with you doesn't mean he lost interest in you, he just probably wants a little break.
2007-07-10 00:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you? Sex drive could just die down with age. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, sexually active for a year and a half and we still have it every day if possible, but then again we're still both fairly young.
I don't think you're overreacting if this is really bothering you. You should try talking to him and telling him that you want to have sex. It's important that you feel sexually satisfied in a relationship. One of the signs that some thing's going wrong is inactive sex life.
2007-07-10 00:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones sex drive goes through ups and downs, he may have health worries, or job or school worries. He may be preoccupied by some other problem.
One thing worried me, hes' been cuddly but no sex, that's a bit unsettling, that could say hes been getting sex elsewhere, but he still cares for you and doesn't want to hurt you.
Either way a serious conversation is in order, no yelling and screaming, just a discussion of why such an abrupt change in his patterns.
2007-07-10 00:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care. You are having sex with your friend for more than a year. You will be left with nothing if he says bye bye to you. It is surprising that still you want more sex?. Is he going to marry you? Or you want to marry some other person?. Gen next will have to face the problems of dating/free sex etc some or other day. Unfortunately moral values are reducing day by day. Thing again. Think of your own life and just not about frequency of weekly sex. LIFE BEYOND THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL. Have ever thought that what are you getting and what are you loosing?. Take sometime for yourself and do that.
2007-07-10 00:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Like 2 Ask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you might be worried, but try to believe what he is saying to you. He may be stressed out about something, is he feeling well? If there is a medical issue talk to him and see that he is getting treatment. If not, try to ride it out, I think everyone hits a "dry spell" now and then and don't take it personally! He is still being loving to you right? I think that my only worry and I am really sorry to bring this up, but is there a chance that he might have an std? Geez I hate to bring that up since you are having doubts, but it happens and he may be trying to protect / keep it from you.
2007-07-10 00:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by JazzyLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is going through something stressful. He may be cheating. He may have medical problems that he does not feel able to discuss with you. You need to check into it. It is not uncommon for a couple to slow down some, but usually not until after the 2nd or 3rd year or more.
2007-07-10 00:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's on the rag.
Ohh, that wasn't cool. Sorry.
He's probably busy with other stuff. Depression, medication, stress, work, alcohol, exhaustion... anything can affect someone's sex drive.
Don't sweat it yet. Just enjoy the cuddling, and "take care of yourself".
2007-07-10 00:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by vegetable 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be going through some real stress right now. I don't think you have anything to worry about some guys are just like that. When he gets back on the "wagon" you will know. He may just have a lot on his mind.
2007-07-10 00:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your overreacting. But, maybe he thinks sex with you is boring. Try to spice things up!
2007-07-10 00:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Stew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋