My bf and his ex used to exchanged email 2-3 x a day. i fianlly confronted both of them and me and my bf agreed that tha he will email her once a month only.Few days ago my bf received postcards from his ex t wo days in a row.i know i could no change this woman from what shes doing but maybe shes not that sensitivethat this act makes me very uncomfortable. Should i let my bf tell her to stop sending postcards(now and in the future) or should i myself tell her to stop?
2007-07-09 23:41:00 · 13 answers · asked by maian p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost you need to MAKE IT CLEAR to your bf that this is NOT acceptable. He’s with you, not her . . . so there is no need for his ex to be causing interference into his current relationship with you!
She is his PAST, there is NO reason for him to be having further communication with her! So why does he continue to communicate with her? This is definitely what you need to find out from him. If he still has feelings for her, then it’s time for him to hit the road!!! YOU DESERVE a bf that is focused on YOU, YOUR feelings and the relationship you SHARE!
He needs to be a “man” and step up to the plate and stop the communication with his ex. The ONLY reason one should have communication with their ex while in a relationship, is if they share children together!!!
Your bf should also be sensitive to how this act makes you uncomfortable. Therefore HE should tell his ex that there will be NO further communication. If he won’t, as hard as it will be, you need to move on. Making a relationship work is hard enough, the LAST thing needed is an ex in the equation!!!
His ex doesn’t care that this makes you uncomfortable, BUT your bf MUST if he loves you and doesn’t want to lose you!
Hold your head high and be strong . . . he’s not the only man on this earth! As far as I see it, he is showing lack of respect for you . . . he needs to make his choice! Thinking of you!!!
2007-07-10 01:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Two Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that there is still some kind of "connection" between these two and you most defo have the right to feel uncomfortable. I bet if the boot was on the other foot your boyfriend would be feeling the same thing. If they are exes then they should both be moving on from their past relationship. After all he has you now and your feelings needs and wants should be what is important to him. Tell him honestly how you feel if he loves you and has any respect for you he will cease contact with her. If he continues to contact then you know that the respect isnt there. If you havnt got respect in a relationship then you havnt realy got anything......
2007-07-10 00:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by sara d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd tell them to stop talking at all. If he really cares about you then he'll stop.
Maybe it's not the same thing, but my boyfriend had a friend that he used to have a crush on in high school that he insisted on hanging out with until I confronted him. I told him that I didn't like it and that it made me uncomfortable. He promised me he stopped because he loves me.
I believe that ex's aren't meant to talk...that's why they are ex's. If I had proof that my boyfriend was still talking to his ex (which i really don't like because they were engaged), I'd tell him to knock it off or else. Scare a boyfriend enough and they will listen to you.
2007-07-09 23:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Łøνε-α-Łøт 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't undersatnd why you agreed for him to email her in the first place. She is from his past and you both have to accept that its over and its time to move on. The only reason why people keep in touch after they break up is because they haven't let go. So to answer your question ask your boyfriend if he wants his ex to stop sending post cards.
2007-07-09 23:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by bong_jyde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is, they still dig each other. Like one answerer said, "theres no smoke without fire" Be up front and logical, men can deal with logic better than emotion alone. Find another guy. But, If you're really into him, give him an ultimadium, or give him a taste of his own medicine and get a sexy penpal. Oh la la!
2007-07-09 23:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by linandyang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no smoke without fire. Your bf obviously enjoys receiving postcards and emails from her. Deal with him. Tell him to stop all his communication with her. If he does'nt respond to you promptly, tell him off and go find new friends.
2007-07-09 23:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ur bf job to make u feel comfortable not his ex
u should have a strong word with ur bf and tell him u dont want this happening at all and ask him to tell his ex to stop cos u r not comfortable
he will do it if he really cares about u
2007-07-09 23:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by dan brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you bf to stop sending her and also ask him to tell his ex not to send anything again.
2007-07-09 23:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if ur bf has broken up with his ex, he should move on and concentrate on being with u. if ur bf's ex is still like communicating with him..it's not a big problem..
dun be so nervous and paranoid..
they can remain friends even if they had broken up..
Gd luck for ur relationship..
2007-07-09 23:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you boyfriend that its making you feel uncomfortable and for him to ask her to stop. If he cares for you he will. x
2007-07-09 23:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋