baby at 16?

Question

i know i am to young. but my bf wants a baby. we both love each other and want one. i told him i want to be at least out of high school. he said he wants one so bad. he already went shooping for it. idk what to do. i love him yes i already know hes the one. i wnat to grow up. my hearts saying yes my mind is aying no. his mom wnats me to move in. i know my mom would kick me out. he has money and a place so the baby will be good off. but he has been known to be scared of relationships. i asked him what if when we grow up what if when he get out of school he told me what job hes getting what collage where to lieve etc. but i'm scared. i'm ready i'm not sure he is? so please help.

it breaks my heart how he says he wants to try he doesnt want to go out with friends. he wants to dedicate his life to this child.

Answer 1

dont do it..

Answer 2

Don't destroy a childs life. Now there is no gaurentee this won't work I have seen stranger things but I just had my 3rd child and I am 30.

My monthly expense on my baby is rediculous and I am grown where will you get this money legal and if you say your parents or welfare is that fare to your parents or the system.

My son is 9 weeks and he has already gone through two wardrobes over 400 dollars

Pampers a month 60

I breast feed so it was okay for a minute but went back to work so I bought a pump 100 dollars used it a week

Formula a month 150-200 dollars a month

wipes 20 dollars a case

then I am working so day care for him 200 dollars a week
few more dollars and that is my mortgage on my home

Then they grow again and more clothes

then hospital expenses

then the baby has to get injections they get colds medicine is not free

Now if your dude loves you why won't he let you do you become a women grow strong together travel get married have careers then become parents.

If not let him go someone who does not understand that is not right in the head.

Then all jokes aside if you are not right and still want to be with someone who can't see this will not be the best future for you then trick him go on the pill and don't tell him or get depo shots so he won't know and let him think you are trying and every month when there is no baby tell him your body and god may not be ready.

That should buy some time for one of you to grow up.

Hey don't do it live you, learn to love all of yourself before you have to love someone else like a baby because they don't ask to be but when they are give them the best life an adult can give.

I look at all my children and I have them in private schools best education best day care best camps I can provide the needs and wants take nice trips with my family and all this would not have been done if I had to do it at 16.

I have the means to do it and it still get over whelming at times. So please think and on a real you are 16 slow down.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I felt the same way at 16, 17 & 18 all i wanted to do is to get finished high school and get married and have a baby. We got married when i was 21 and had our first pregnancy by our 4th month of marriage. I miscarried and didn't have our first baby until I was almost 23. 2 years later we had our 2nd baby. my kids are now 14 and 12 and i LOVE them dearly. IF i could go back and change things, the only thing that i would change is to have my kids a bit later on in life (by a couple of years) NOW however, i wish that i had gone to college, started a career, and maybe we would have been better off financially. it really sucks to struggle every month. I really would like to go back to school now, but we can't afford it. Honey, you are only 16 and have a whole wonderful life ahead of you. DON"T have a baby now, you are both too young. if he wants a baby this badly, he will be a great daddy when you are both emotionally, financially and physically capable of handling a cranky, colicky, miserable baby. ( that's what we had, 2 of them!) having a colicky baby, with both sets of parents living very close by was very hard on our marriage, we made it thru, and are still together, but it was tough. stick it out for a few more years, you can wait, and it will be so totally worth the wait!

Answer 4

Get real!!! This guy is interested in you producing a trophy baby to prove his manhood. Watch how fast he will be gone from you when the excitement wears off and his friends don't think a screaming baby is so cool anymore. If his mom is in on this she probably wants the baby for herself. This is so stupid I can't believe it. No one is ready to be a mother at 16, at least not a good mother. Get your education and take care of yourself first. If this guy really loves you he will be willing to wait until you are older, have graduated high school and he has proven that he can earn a living. He should at least be able to provide you and himself with a roof over his own head before you consider living in your mother in laws home. What a drag. You need to experiance some things in life before you are taking care of another life. Remember, a child is a lifelong committment not a thing that can be done well without a total devotion. When you have a child, you no longer get to be the child. Use reliable birth control!! I predict that if this is really what he wants there will be a condom that "accidentally breaks" and it will be out of your hands. You had it right when you said that your heart says yes, but your head says no. Be smart. Listen to your head!!!, not his.!!!

Answer 5

You do get a little delusional when you're "young and in love" believe me I was with my Boyfriend over a year, and looking back I feel pretty stupid. I think it's a beautiful thing to be able to conceive a baby from two people that love eachother. But you're WAYYYYYYYY toooooo young!!!! You'll end up not being able to go to school, not being able to go out, possibly lose friends, and looked down upon by family members. Trust me it's NOT worth it. WAIT till you're much older...plus you'll get fat, the odds that you'll actually still be with your "highschool sweetheart" are 1 in a million, and how could you want your 'child' to grow up in a life where the parents aren't able to give it everything... Once you're stable in a career, and you have your own home, and your mind is straight, then have a child, and by that time you'll probably be with another guy. But I *hope you're still with the guy you're with now. Either way it's an IMMATURE move and you guys need to screw your heads on right and think about the repercussions of doing something like that.

Answer 6

Don't do it! It is way too hard to support a child at 16. If you are going to have a child, you need to be ready, financially and emotionally. Not many relationships last forever that start at 16, so you may think that you will be together forever, and break up in 2 years. Dealing with split parenting is not fun, expensive, and difficult on everyone. If you want to have a child, wait until both of you have good jobs and have lived on your own, and together, for a while. If you want to go to college, it is almost impossible while having a child. Make sure you can support yourself comfortably, without help from parents.

Answer 7

How selfish can you be? Having a baby when you can barly drive a car, can't vote or do anything on your own without permission of your parents. What kind of insurance do you have? Will it cover the cost of pre care, post care, problems if they arise. How much money does he have? Does he have a job? Where would you live with his mom? Come on I know you are smarter than this. If you want your child to have any kind of life (good life) you will wait until you are older married and estaplished with a carrier for at least one of you. Welfare is not the best way to bring up a child. If he really loves you then he will wait until you are ready and old enough to be an adult about everything. Have you even talked to anyone witha kid at your age. Diapers cost at least $10.00 a package and that is for about 2-3 days. Formula bottles, bibs, birp rags, crib, changing table, clothes. Clothes they grow out of every week or so. What about all of that who is going to care for the child if you go to collage? Chances are you will not go to collage because it cost so much and it is hard to study when the baby wants attention, needs attention. If you do get pregnant on purpose than you will be one selfish person. Yes babies are cute and smell good most of the time but they are more work than you relize, it's the toughest job ever. I you want some on to love then love yourself and grow up and give you a chance to be a young adult and give your child a chance to be something rather than a welfare kid without a daddy. You know that the daddy will leave for some young fun hunny. Please please please do not have a child until you are stable nd married and ready to give a good life to your child.

Answer 8

He is thinking of a long-term solution to a short-term feeling. Having a child at 16 is a wrong decision for many reasons.

1. You haven't gotten your life in order yet. Do you really need a child when you still don't have a job, place to live, etc.?

2. Your emotions about this man and about everything will change drastically. Do you really want to risk a baby's whole life just because your emotions about a certain person change all because you thought he was the one but was wrong?

Think about these things and then make your decision.

Answer 9

Don't get pregnant! First of all, you don't want to right now. You just said this. Don't let him force you into doing something you don't want to do. And even if the baby will be good off, are you ready for that kind of responsibility? You will be giving up your dreams and your life for this child. Wait to you are somewhere in your 20's to have a baby. You need to tell him exactly how you feel, and that you don't want a baby right now. If he truly loves you, he will wait until you are ready.

Answer 10

You need to tell him that you are not ready no mater how much pressure he puts on you. First of all having a baby at 16 is not only dangerous for the baby but the mother as well. Besides if he loves you the way you make it sound then he will wait for you and respect your wishes to wait and have the baby when you feel ready.

Answer 11

No, your absolutely right!! I'm glad your not pregnant but at least open-mined to talk about starting a family.Whats the hurry? Is he dying? Make him understand that's you want kids too but now isn't the time and in the future if goals are met..and financially stable. A baby needs security,medical insurance,stress free environment,child care,sense of trust.comfort,and attention all the time.If the love is strong,shouldn't be a problem respecting your decision.You need a licenses for fishing, driving,and even hunting..but everyone and anyone make babies!!! easy to make hard to raise.