Ok yeseterday I posted that I had 2 best friends & the 1 I knew the longest was my MOH . The other one got jealous and we had a problem with that. I decided to make them all bridesmaid and told my MOH I'll let her wear a flower in her hair that way she knows she's MOH w/o the jealous friend knowing. Anyway here is the problem . I made 3 of them bridesmaids , my sister & MOH both loved the dresses I picked out for them and now the jealous friend says she dont like the dress , she wants it to be more sexier !! I am not having a playboy type of wedding , I am real fed up at this point , this is MY wedding not hers !! So How do I handle this ? Do I tell her she HAS to wear it or she's not in the wedding anymore or should I consider a new dress , not too revealing but a little more to her liking ?? She only wants another dress to show off her boob job !!
2007-07-09 17:45:02 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Her wedding is next year and I have to wear an ugly sky blue dress but I am not complaining at all because its her wedding not mines , I just wish she would stop being so rude and overly jealous
2007-07-09 19:26:15 · update #1
At this point I would just say
"Listen, I've been trying to accomodate you from the very beginning. I can't anymore, this is my wedding and I would never imagine doing this to you on YOUR day. If you really hate the dress, then you do not have to be in the wedding....I cannot accomodate you anymore...I like the dress, they like the dress...you're the only one with a problem and it's not even your wedding."
2007-07-10 04:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone else can back me up, but I think that young lady under age 16 should be a junior bridesmaid instead of a bridesmaid. Most junior bridesmaids I've seen are between the ages of 10 and 15, though some are as young as 8 and others are as old as 16 or 17. Junior bridesmaid is definitely an appropriate role for a 15-year-old.
2016-05-22 02:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are not about the bridesmaid being sexy, she just sounds like she is stirring up trouble you know, and that's not a friend. Do you know if I was a bridesmaid I'd wear whatever the bride wanted, even if that was a telly-tubby outfit, because that's what friends do. Sit her down, and say to her that she is really spoiling this for you, and that it is YOUR wedding day, and if she wants to be a bridesmaid then she must wear the dress you have chosen...why should she get her way when it is not her wedding? Say to her that as a bride at her wedding she will get to show off her new boobs, but at your wedding the focus of the day is not her breasts but you and your husband. be nice and say that she is really stressing you out, and that the majority vote on the dresses wins, as the other two girls like the dress then you aren't willing to change it.
2007-07-09 21:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She does not sound like a very good friend. Just tell her that this is the dress you want for your wedding. If she threatens to not be in the wedding party, tell her that's her choice. I was the MOH for my best friend's wedding, and it's stressful. There was drama with the other bridesmaids, who were all sisters of the groom, and they were not helping with anything, not planning, not paying for anything for the shower or food, it was a nightmare. You don't want that to happen to you. And, you need a MOH.
2007-07-09 18:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by Em 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of friend is this? She should understand you and just wear it. I mean, it's your wedding, it sounds like she wants to look good to get all the attention at the wedding or something. She's not worth being a bridesmaid if she complains about her dress. I was a bridesmaid for my mom's friend the other day. I didn't really like the dress, because it looks like a prom dress more than a bridesmaid dress, but hey, it's just a dress...i realized that someone else is gunna like it anyway. Anyway, I would just tell her that at weddings, you are supposed to wear formal clothing..because traditionally, it is. I wouldn't want her to be my bridesmaid..think about having to alter her dress again, twenty years from now, you'll look in your photo album and see her wearing a horrible dress on your wedding day.
2007-07-09 17:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Jello j3unny 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her the other girls arent comfortable showing as much boobs as her, Your wedding isnt being used to pick up men, and your wedding pictures will not be in any centerfolds. Tell her you want a tasteful wedding this is your choice like it or not.
My best friend has red hair, my wedding color is red. I told her she was my MOH and my color was red and I will take her with me to try on dresses because the red hair clashes with a lot of reds. She said Alright I dont care if i look bad or not its your weddign and your big day. Ill just get payback at mine. But after that she said no matter what color she is delighted no matter what happens with her hair and the dress that I did ask her. And thats all that counts.
2007-07-09 21:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should point out to her that you are wearing the dress of her choice for her wedding. Say: If you are my friend, you will show me that same respect.
If she persists, say:
If you don't want to wear the dress and be one of my bridesmaids, then it is okay. I accept your decision. You are welcome to attend my wedding as a guest. Please do not allow this to affect our friendship.
I think if you speak with her privately and make it her decision, you will have better results.
In order to avoid the whole jealousy thing, I probably would have made both friends bridesmaids . . . and asked my sister to be MOH. No one can really argue with you about having a sister be MOH.
Good luck to you.
2007-07-10 01:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear lord this woman is causing problems! i remember your question from yesterday and you hand to change something for her, now she wants a new dress? TIME TO SAY NO!
this is your wedding, not let's show off my fake boob time. she can do that at her wedding if she wants to. it almost like she wants to outshine you which is so rude. when you sign up to be a bridesmaid, you know you wear what the bride would like you to wear.
tell her that you have already picked the dresses out and have more important things to do at this point, not details that have already been discussed. even if you gave into her, i doubt she would be happy. she would want to wear different shoes, change the rehearsal time, something. she really is not focusing on you and she is alone enough to stop having tantrums.
tell her to cover up or hit the road. you want a decent wedding, stick to your guns. i hope everyone else is behaving. really, they should make a bridesmaidzilla show.
2007-07-09 19:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to politely tell her this is your wedding and you have chosen a tasteful dress that can work with everyone's body shape. If she refuses to wear it, then let her know that you will not be requiring her services at the wedding, or perhaps she can wear a sexier dress if she would like to be the guest book attendant.
2007-07-09 18:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Tanya T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SIt her down and calmly explain this is your wedding. Say you have had to pick 1 MOH and that you have picked your other friend. Tell her you have also decided on the dresses - if she wanted them changed because she was uncomfortable, that's one thing... But to have them changed because she wants to look sexy? Not on!!
Don't let her be difficult. If she wants to be in your wedding party, she has to do it your way!
Man, she needs to learn some common courtesy.
I would walk down the aisle in a brown sack cloth if my best friend asked me to.
Show her ur the boss!
And good luck :)
2007-07-09 20:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋