Here's the story - My Ex-husband became a Born Again Christian. I was not willing to 'convert'. His 'church' pressured him to disvorce me.
He then 'shacked up' with a 'good christian lady' (who they knew to be an alcoholic). The Church then pressured them to get married because the Church doesn't accept them 'living in sin'.
BAC, please justify the above chain of events
2007-07-09 16:31:07 · 13 answers · asked by yutu34 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Mam Gretch...that's just what I thought
2007-07-09 16:42:05 · update #1
I can't and won't justify a church that pressures a divorce when abuse isn't an issue.
I'm very sorry.
2007-07-09 16:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by soulinverse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was not truly reborn if he thought it a good idea to live with someone without the marriage. As for the church telling him to divorce did you hear that from the church or him.My church even in the case of adultery wants their parishioners to try to work it out. They never say divorce is the way unless there is something biblical to show it should be true. Either he is going to a church that does not know the word of God or he is twisting it to fit his needs. Biblical divorce is only acceptable if there is adultery and if all you were was a nonbeliever that does not constitute it. Also by divorcing for that reason is actuality he is now committing adultery even though you are no longer legally married and that is biblical.
2007-07-09 16:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by debbie f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing that you did not convert to his new church.
They are not following guidelines already laid out in the Bible.
The fact that they are meddling speaks volumes about how much they trust the Lord to work out differences between you and your husband.
You don't mention what faith you are, but if you are of a Christian denomination, pray that your husband's eyes are opened.
2007-07-09 16:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, was he your ex before or after he bacame a Christian? You are unclear in your post. If you were married when he was saved, It's wrong for him to divorce.
If he was born again, why was he living with a woman he's not married to? I suppose he was immature in his faith and understanding af scripture. I don't know.
You fail to tell us if he got married or not. That would help us in our assessment.
The Church was right to tell him to either get married or stop living together. If he was fornicating with her, he was in sin.
I don't know what you mean by pressure. You could restate the question with more details if you want so that we can give a better answer.
2007-07-09 16:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can be justified. A church has no place in your marriage, especially if they are in favor of divorce when nothing is wrong except your religion.
2007-07-09 16:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I aren't of the same faith, and I knew that when I married him. But I love him to death, and I'm focusing on the things we do have in common, instead of what we don't agree on. I wouldn't divorce him because a church told me to, and I think you're better off without the person who did.
2007-07-09 17:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by TDZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was so willing to give up a beautiful relationship with you for a crazy church and an AA member, then you certainly deserve better. Don't worry, he'll regret it while picking up vodka bottles from the bedroom floor.
2007-07-09 16:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Azu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why justify this completely BS chain of events? Religious groups just want power, not love. If your husband divorced you because a "church" said so, you are better off without such a loser. Hold your head high - you are more moral than any "religious" person can claim to be.
2007-07-09 16:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mama Gretch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't justify what that church did because Divorce is not biblical so if they encouraged him to divorce you that was wrong.
2007-07-09 16:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Belgrademitch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a polecat done sprayed on this one.
But
unless someone has both sides no one can pass an opinion.
I do know that one elder told a man he could never take his wife back after they separated because she was with another man and might give him aids so they wanted to reconcile but never got back together. What God has joined together let no man put apart.
If he wanted to take her back no one should pass an opinion.
They talk and still confess love for one another.
2007-07-09 16:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋