I cant deal with it any more...?

Question

My mother is insane. She divorced my dad when i was liek 3 months.. for good reson tho, and now im 15 nd its just me nd her. Money's tight, she constantly blames everything on me. She drinks too much and getsviolent. She compares me to my friends and calls me horrific things. She sets quotas for money that i cant reach. She yells at me to get a better job, but the only one i can find is at an art studio which is sparatic work nd i only get $20 for 2 hours, which isnt bad, but she wont accept it. She takes all the money i make anyway. She blames me for the divorce, and tells me im a failure and i will get nowhere in life. She says i cant compare with my friends and she just broke my cell phone, and i think my finger. It could just be jammed tho.Shes always throwing me out only to retrieveme 10 min later and then throw me out again. I have nofamily member to talk to, and i feel all alone.. i dont no how to deal with this anymore. im afraid at wat i might do cuz I cant take it any longer

Answer 1

Please call the suicide helpline:

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential.

You can also call your local Child Protection Services or the local Police Department.

Answer 2

Practise daily, and when needed, one of the relaxation techniques at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2: read the page, and note the tips at the mental-health-abc and conquering stress websites; view the self esteem/confidence websites and try the guided meditations on page 3. You CAN live within those financial limitations. Alcoholics often become violent, and abusive, because alcohol depresses the inhibition centers of the brain. Often, they later regret their behaviour. Be patient: use the internet, and check the library newspapers (free), ask friends/local businesses about jobs. Make a bit extra babysitting, and/or doing the more lucrative online surveys. What does she drink? If beer, or cider, suggest making her own very cheap, (but surprisingly good) homebrew (takes 4 days: 14 to "mature"; 3% - 10% alc.); wine takes months; in Australia, we can make our own spirits, with stills. Immediate use possible. Local laws? Maybe you could do it for her, for half the money she will save. Move out when you get a steady job, and learn to save at least 10% - 20% of your disposible income.

Answer 3

YOU my dear friend, is an abused child. Like adult women do, go to a shelter for abused women. (or go to Child Protective Services) The sooner you make the break, the sooner you can feel better. Also at the shelter you will make friends that have or still is in an abusive relationship. You also can get therapy so you don't get into a relationship with someone that is an abuser. Since this is what you are familiar with, it will be what you are drawn to, not the violence, but the personality which usually turns into violence. So do yourself a favor, go to a shelter and get yourself help. Your mother is an alcoholic, that is where her behavior is coming from, so don't let it ruin your life like it has hers. You can stop the violence, but you can't stop your mom from drinking. (that is her job if she ever chooses to get sober).

Answer 4

Hey, you know that there are social workers out there who can help you..my heart goes out to you and I wish I could tell you that it's going to be ok..but then I'd only be lying. The truth is your mum is the one who really needs help..and I don't think that you're the cause of their divorce, she's just lookin for a reason and someone to blame..and you're the only one around so that's why she says that. You're not a failure, as far as I can tell you're a success after all, she is taking all your money...and don't worry about her comparing you to your friends..maybe she is just uncomfortable with you hanging out with them, like she might feel like she'll lose you to your friends and that could trigger her anger..Just get someone to talk to your mum about her anger issues...and fast before she actually hurts you.

Answer 5

Try to tell mom that you love her every day. Tell her you appreciate what she does for you as often and naturally as you can. Say it very sincerely at right time from the bottom of your heart. I know every thing is very difficult for you right now. But, the best way to deal with it is to give mom your love first. You sound very smart; you can change it around. It is not easy as a single mom; I believe she is doing the best she knows how. One more thing, when you grow up, try to be the best mom in the world.

Answer 6

Tell her you will call and report her to child welfare. If she doesnt stop this stuff, DO IT. In the meantime, do you have any friends you can go to, I sure hope a warning from you will calm her down, if not follow thru with a phone call, PRONTO!!!' They have child protection services in the phone book. i hope things get better for you soon
p.s if you cant find cps, call 911

Answer 7

Call Child and Family Services. If she gets violent with you, call the cops. She needs to be put in a mental health institution.

Answer 8

Ow, I'm really sorry this is happening. If you ever need to talk, just email me ok?
Your mom is abusing you and if you feel you're in danger you could call the police. Now, before you get all angry at me for making this suggestiong please hear me out: The police would be able to protect you from your mom and she would get the help she needs to recover.
I'll be praying for you.

Answer 9

Call Child and Family Services. If she gets violent with you, call the cops. She needs to be put in a mental health institution.

Answer 10

You need to get some professional help. Your mom needs help too. What she is doing is abusive to you and that is not legal or moral.

Please contact the counselor at school and discuss all of this with her. She/he should put you in contact with Protective Services.