We talked online for 1 month before we met. Been dating 6 months. We are waiting until married to have sex. We agreed a year would be a long enough time to wait.
A couple months ago I wanted to at least see her "spot". She smiled, nodded, and told me I would get to see it/she would show me in a couple months...
The other day she told me that although we can't have sex now (religious reasons) she says 'we will have sex, I promise. As long as YOU stay' (sounds to me she has already made up her mind and it's up to me).
The other day we where really horny starting to fool around, she told me that she is soooo sorry we can't have sex yet, that she wants to REALLY bad, and we will soon...as she said this/after she said this she stared at me for a reaction...
When she says these things I don't get the "half way there, soon enough" vibe.
I get the "I'm know ur the one vibe and want to get the ball rolling. Am I reading her right?
2007-07-09 15:58:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both of you need to stop, breathe and THINK. So many marriages end because of the silliest reasons. It's a big step, and you need to make sure she's the 'one' for you. It's very honorable and wise that you are waiting until marriage, but that doesn't mean you should rush into marriage!
I think she'd like you to ask her, but you need to make sure you are ready for it as well, and that you honestly love her enough to make it work, through BOTH the good and bad. Think: if something ruined her looks or voice, would you still love her? Yes? Than consider it further.
Marry her ONLY for love, not for sex, lust, marriage itself or anything else.
2007-07-09 16:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ Easily Amused Dijinn ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but getting married is a huge step. Getting married just so you can have sex (which is what it sounds like she's trying to say) is a baaaaad idea. People do have urges, but think about how bad things will be if you wind up divorced in a year. There's no time frame as to when is right to propose, every couple is different. Maybe this is something that you need to talk to her about.
2007-07-09 23:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by bored. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She using her "religious convictions" as a way of getting you to commit. Wanting to have sex is not a reason to get married. Way too many religious people make that mistake and all it leads to is more divorces and kids you didn't want to begin with. Do not marry her until you are ready to be married. That means ready emotionally, mentally, and financially.... not just sexually.
2007-07-09 23:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's sending mixed messages. You guys are smart for waiting until you're married for sex.
However, fooling around can lead to sex so stay away from it. You need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her about this and let her know that sex is for marriage only.
I hope all goes well for you. God bless and you are in my prayers.
2007-07-09 23:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you understand her well enough. If you're sure she's the one for you, it's time to make it official. Good luck.
2007-07-09 23:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by TG 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay... interesting situation. not really sure. ask ur friends... maybe parents for more advice. she probably wants u to propose to her. any girl wants her bf to propose to her if he's really cute, even on their first date!! lol
2007-07-09 23:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Love is 4evr!!! 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you really love her....you would wait, whenever she's ready. :)
2007-07-09 23:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kim W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋