What would you do if you caught your mom smoking pot?

Question

I came home early tonite and found my mom smoking bud in her room. The worst part was that she was in there with some guy who wasn`t my dad. I AM SO AGGRIVATED, She`s a church freak not a frezk inthe sheets and a stoner.

Answer 1

I would just tell her that she is a hypocrite and that until she gets some counseling you can't really take any "parenting" that she is offering very seriously.

Answer 2

I was in the same boat when I was younger. I graduated high school with a 4.0 and even lettered in academics. I was on the deans list in college, I actually quit about a few years ago due to it no longer being conductive to my life or lifestyle. What happened when my mom found out is I explained everything to her. She felt lied to a deceived but being honest is really the best way. You don't have to keep up with lies, as long as it's not causing a problem in your life and you're not actually ABUSING it then she should understand. If she has such a strict belief against it then that's her problem for not being more open minded. You sound like a smart kid, you'll be able to figure out whats right for you and the right things to say so she'll understand. Obviously I've never met your mom so this would be a bit difficult for me to tell you exactly what to say... Bring a notepad to the conversation and write down the key points you want to hit, or when I knew I would have a difficult conversation with someone I would write out a letter to them, hand it to them in person, wait while they read it, and then answer any questions or anything they wanted to talk about.

Answer 3

1st remember this we all have sinned and fallen short of perfection. 2nd perhaps this guy is the source of the contraband, she was drunk at the time and her judgment was diminished. 3rd there is probably more to it than what you saw. Everybody deserves a second chance, even your mom,(Are you sure she is your mom and not an impostor posing as your mom), if I were you I'd keep a really good eye on her just in case she is. You need to be big about this and find it in your heart to forgive her. tell her to confess what she has done to God. It might help if you pray with her about it. 4th maybe she has an internet porn addiction and the guy was at an adult site, one thing lead to another and BING BANG BOOM IT HAPPENED. I have never had that happen but I can see how easily it could. All of us fall to temptation. 5th she could be starved for attention in her marriage and feel lonely in her situation, these things don't happen overnight. I felt weird one time when I and a friend found an entire garbage bag full of the stuff in my aunts cupboard. It was like is she or her husband a dealer. The truth is stranger than fiction.

Answer 4

that is a sticky situation to be put in. Truthfully, the pot smoking part isn't as bad to me as her having some strange man in the home that isn't your dad, that is if your dad lives there still. If your parents are still together, she is playing with fire.
The fact you came home early, is how you "caught" her, she didn't plan for you to come home early. So I would imagine this isn't the first time....and if it is, it is risky behavior, depending on the stiffness of the law where you live, in regards to pot....It is not for you to "fix", what she is doing....My advice, just stay out of it, stay away from it. She is the "adult" in the home, so therefore she is going to do what she wants anyway, so there is nothing you can really do other then tell your dad....If she is high, it's not going to do any good anyway to talk to her......

Answer 5

Would NOT EVER HAPPEN With MY Mother -- she NEVER did anything like this -- no cigarettes, no drinking, no drugs, just was an upstanding woman who worked very hard for a living.

HOWEVER ... I can say this from PERSONAL Experience -- I DID Report my Son (and his so-called "FRIENDS" from the High School) when I found them Skipping Class and smoking dope instead .. and yes, MY Cell phone was OUT and I Called the POLICE and DEMANDED a car be sent and that they be CHARGED with Criminal Activity!

I was NOT going to have ANYTHING That ENDANGERED MY Life or the Life of my Other Children because of one with POOR CHOICES ... and this was the RIGHT Thing to do!

Answer 6

It's not fair when our parents turn out to be less than we expect them to be, but they are just as human as we are, and by being so, they make mistakes as well.

Show your mom your concern, and let her know that it's not a healthy habit. But make sure that its not for medical reasons, as a prescription. And maybe she's just really depressed and doesn't know how to cope. You should suggest gently that she should seek some kind of help, at least from your pastor. but don't accuse her, that will just tick her off more and she'll shut you out.

Answer 7

That's a tough one. Don't be the leaf of the tree. Learning to be independent and separating the good influences from the bad is what will make you a better person overall.

Answer 8

grab her by the shoulders and shake her and say are you crazy what would god say about you in here whoring around like this christians don't behave like this and that you are ashame of her and is going to tell the whole entire church if she continues to behave in this manner and if she hits you tell her violence isn't the answer and hitting you ain't going to change the fact that she's a hooker... and you may get a bloody lip for that but hey somebody got to tell her

Answer 9

I would talk to her and tell her I didn't feel comfortable with her cheating on my father and smoking pot. Then I would tell my dad if she didn't step down.

Answer 10

calm down right now because you cant think when you mad find something to do to occupy your mind and get it out of your mind for now its not the end of the world sometimes your parent have to loose their mind for a while because of the stress they go through day to day .