My mormon brother and his wife have 4 kids, and my parents and brothers wife's parents already have to give them groceries and stuff. My brother wants a total of eight kids. Is he mental?
2007-07-09 15:18:10 · 21 answers · asked by Al Shaitan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
bluemule266, what you're saying is this.....
Even though you don't have enough food for 4 kids, go ahead and have more kids.
Pursue your dream of having eight kids, so your kids don't have a chance in hell of pursuing their dreams? How are they going to go to college? Coming from broke, when your parents know nothing about money management definitely doesn't help you later in life when you want to pursue your own dreams. I think they're selfish to go ahead and have more kids and deprive their kids even more than they already are.
2007-07-09 15:31:38 · update #1
It's kind of like tithing...even though sometimes it just isnt logical, but since old gordy says so, they just keep popping the checks. "Oh but the blessings will come! God promises! Our PROPHET says that God promises." That's their theory.
Same with kids...even if it's financial SUICIDE, "oh but we'll get blessings" or "oh the lord will take care of us" or something like that. In my opinion, they're just acting like morons, and God will bless them when they start USING THE BRAINS HE GAVE THEM!
Bluemule: OMG did i read your answer right? So you're saying because the dad felt like it, and didnt think about consequences, his children (who couldnt do anything about it, they didnt have a choice to be born, did they?) are going to have to starve? You honestly think he's not going to regret having his 5th, 6th and so on child because he couldnt feed his first 4? Oh, but it's fine because it was the dad's DREAM! I'm not saying he shouldnt have more kids, but just wait till he can freaking afford it!
2007-07-09 15:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I've heard a story similar to this before. A boy wanted to become LDS, but if he did so he would lose his job, his family would disown him and he would have to leave town. While getting the interview necessary to be baptized he was asked if he really wanted to go through with this even though he would lose everything. He responded "It's true isn't it?" The reply from the man interviewing him was yes so the boy said "Then what else matters?" Being a minor though you can't really join yet if your parents say no. Wait until you are 18 and study The Book of Mormon and The Bible. In case you don't already know about it the site below is a great resource for all LDS people. It has things like General conference and The New Era (a magazine for teens). They also have church music and even on youtube there are good uplifting songs (type in Jenny Phillips). One of my good friends was not allowed to get baptized until she was 18 either. Stay faithful and remember that the Lord knows what you are going through. Stay strong and remember that you are a daughter of God and He loves you.
2016-05-22 00:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you can't support them, don't have them!!! I'm LDS, and I don't think my job in life is to keep popping out the kids. We have, and expecting our third in about a week or so. We think this might be it.
Not all of us have huge families. This is one of those rumors that follow us around a lot. I know many families who are happy with one, two, three. A lot that live around here don't have that many kids, and I live in Utah!
Some people, no matter what their religion, think that having kids is the best thing ever! I can't fault them for that, since I was once wishing to have kids. But if you can't afford them, you can't afford them! Either get a better job that pays more, or give the dream until you know you can afford more!!
2007-07-10 04:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by odd duck 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who can't afford the children they have yet continues to have them is 'mental'. I believe children are a precious gift from God, but they are also very expensive.
I used to work with a woman who was one of 13 children. I'll never forget how she told me that she and her siblings had to take turns with food. Her parents couldn't afford to feed all 13 kids every day, so only 6 or 7 of them could eat on any given day. I can't imagine having to grow up like that.
Someone needs to show your brother and his wife the light.
2007-07-09 15:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by loveblue 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What baffles me about it is when the father has a BUSINESS DEGREE and works at Wal-Mart. He isn't even a manager. He could be making enough money to support those kids, so why the hell is he just working there?
Oh, and when the mom calls me and says she has to sell her blood every 2 months to buy groceries, yeah, that's the way it should be.
BTW, people, I KNOW this family he is referring to. But this is a classic mormon family.
2007-07-09 16:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I don't necessarily think it's the best idea, it's part of their religion to have many children. I think the way you asked was kind of insensitive. The thing is, the LDS community is just that - a community...the whole "It takes a village" mentality, and they are very giving and supporting of each other's needs. I can respect that about a group of people. And no, I'm not mormon. I'm atheist.
2007-07-09 15:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Maintenance 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
When I was LDS/Mormon I knew a lot of large families, and even though money was tight for them, it seemed like their kids always turned out ok.
2007-07-09 20:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Liesel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course they want 8, the grandparents are feeding them. Sorry but that's wrong, I adore my children but part of being a parent is to teach our children to take charge of their own responsibilities. Your brother and your sister-in-law are simply parasites.
2007-07-09 15:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Millie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are many families out there that aren't LDS that have many kids and don't know what to do to feed their kids. And NO this is not the typical LDS family I know many many many families that don't have that many children and have wonderful families. I know some that do have many children and are able to take care of them! Sorry to hear that this family is like this however, it doesn't mean they are all like that!
2007-07-09 19:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by LCOTE 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no
you get ONE, count it ONE, life.
If he has a dream, any dream, even it being to have 8 kids, he should pursue it at all costs.
I understand that he has financial problems, but should he just say "ahh.....**** it!" and give up?
I dont think you can have kids in heaven, so really this is his only chance.
remember how great life was when you were a teen? Stealling your parents car to go for a spin and saying, and not worrying about consequences.
just say "**** You" to consequences.
We always manage to pull through don't we?
Your here today right?
Don't worry about what "might" happen.
Fear is for the weak, The strong pursue their dreams with a passion.
2007-07-09 15:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋