We have been together for over a year and my we are in love. my parents are really strict up to the point where he cant really come over to the house or I to his.
ive lied to my rents before and spent the night at his house and we are both stressed with college and have been talking @ going away together. my friend is in canada and im going to go see her at the end of july and we will both be done with summer classes. he wants me to spend the week at his house instead and i want him to go to canada with me and we can get a hotel (money is not an issue)
hes like whats there to do in canada? he wants to go to florida...
i told him the point is we will spend time together and enjoy each other but he wont budge so i was like then u stay here ill go to canada and he was like find.
what do i do? he is acting so stubborn because 'who goes to canada in the summer?'
and YES he is always sweet and good to me, hes not jerk lol.
2007-07-09 15:04:06 · 7 answers · asked by mitlilkizbi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound to me like your b/f has an issue with Canada, exactly. It more sounds to me like he may have an issue with leaving home, with you, for so long. A week is a long time to be away from friends, family, and preferred local places and usual activities. Sometimes people don't feel that they can just pick up and leave for a full week at a time, to go to a place they know nothing about. Actual home-sickness comes more quickly to some people, than to others. He also may be wondering what else he may be doing, in a new strange place, besides just being with you. You will be in the company of your friend, but he'll have none of his own friends around. It's you and your friend... but it's him by himself. Let's be honest, just being with you and with nothing else to do, well... by itself isn't enough. There are other kinds of fun, and you're asking him to go to a place that he knows nothing about, where everyone is a stranger, except for you. Being real about it- love is a fine thing, and him being with you is likely a wonderful thing for him. But being in a strange land with other strangers... may not be comfortable to him.
I would suggest that you suggest to him... that he go with you for just a couple of days- not the whole week, and if it turns out that he really hates it there, he can go back home with no hard feelings. Suggest that he at least give it a chance, and if you make sure that he really enjoys himself during those couple of days, he may wish to stay longer. And perhaps he'll decide to stay a whole week. But if he doesn't, then accept the compromise, and be thankful that he was with you there for at least a couple of days :-) Otherwise you can't actually 'make' him go. You can attempt to persuade him, but don't be too disappointed if you fail. It can be hard to change some people's minds.
Anyway... that's my feedback :-)
~ Jonathan Rich
2007-07-09 19:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's getting jealous because your "friend" invited YOU (and just you) up to her place ALONE for a week...
Maybe he doesn't know that SHE is really a she - as soon as he heard the word "friend", he automatically assumed you meant HE!
It sounds like he doesn't like it when you make plans without talking to him about it first - especially how he say the exact OPPOSITE thing when you push the issue (Florida is in the opposite direction)
As for going to Canada in the summer - you come up here to enjoy nature, and to get a TINY break from the heat (only by 5/10 degrees or so at most). Fishing off the dock at the cottage, working on your tan with a cold beer in your hand, jumping into the lake/river once you get too hot...
And let's not forget the midnight skinny dip ;);)
Florida in the summertime is just a giant sauna - it's 90/100 EVERY day, and it's full of old people and Disney fans ;););)
2007-07-09 22:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are asking too much. I was dating my boy for about seven months before I went with him to Michigan for his sister's wedding. So really just some fun time alone is not exactly asking too much at all. It's not like you want to do anything crazy, he may end up loving the vacation in the long run too.
Might I recommend Niagara falls on the Canadian side? It maybe the most fun I have ever had over there. Absolutely fantastic and so much to do! There are different theatres, the falls, little shops, and things like wax museums and Ripley's Believe it or Not.
Good luck. Hope you guys sort it through.
2007-07-09 22:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by CantStopTheBeat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is 50 -50, 30 - 70, 90 - 10. Simply put its give and take. You guys have to talk about it seriously without labeling someone as stubborn or any other name.
Maybe this year one of you can give to the other then next time the other can give in.
2007-07-09 22:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by gatwick100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its too much for him to go to Canada. You should try and find somehting other to do with him. But then again there is nothing wrong with Canada i live in Canada, try telling him about the things you are doing in CAnada when you are there. maybe that will help him want to go.
2007-07-09 22:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by *~*Volleyball player*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my boyfriend have been dating 2 years and we don't go nowhere with out each other but if he is not wanting to go just say oh well and tell him that you are still going and he will change his mind they always do.
2007-07-09 22:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has "other plans" in Florida. HINT HINT. jkjk. i guess he really doesnt like the cold
2007-07-09 22:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by iamjustbored10 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋