I am 5 ft 7 155. I am 22 years old. I have always been big bone. I have heart problems along with a pacemaker that dose not allow me to exercise. My oxygen goes very low. I have had depression on and off since child hood. Help he is driving me crazy. Thanks.
2007-07-09 14:52:17 · 14 answers · asked by owned by a siberian husky 4 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Wow, if you have been together 8 years, it means you have been together since you were 14. That means he hasn't really had time to develop any ideas beyond adolescence of how to treat a woman properly. You both set up the rules for this relationship when you were barely teenagers, and he has not grown past them.
5'7" and 155# is NOT fat by any means, and it sounds like your husband either has low self esteem or he has fantasized too much about the Hollywood set that is starving themselves to death. In either case, he needs some better perspective of the respect that you deserve, but I have little confidence that will happen unless he gets some counseling. I know you love him, but it sounds like he needs to GROW UP.
2007-07-09 15:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by LaNell the Relationship Expert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, with the problems you have I sympathize! It seems really cold hearted for your husband to make fun of you! I really suggest you get couples therapy if you love him. He does not sound very supportive of you. And not knowing him or the whole side of the story that is why I suggested therapy cause otherwise I would seriously think about leaving him (talking about if I were you that is). How very unkind and obviously from what you describe your weight problem is not your fault, he should be more understanding! Good luck and take care (((hugs)))
2007-07-09 15:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by J. A. M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a Jerk
Just be honest with him and tell him, after all he is your husband, you should be honest with each other and tell each other what you're thinking.
if he continues then give him the silent treatment and don't do anything for him until he STOPS and sorry does not cut it! You're beyond sorry now, It's frustrating.
who needs someone who keeps putting you down, you have enough to worry about (your health) if he does not understand that, then something is wrong with him and not you.
tell him your tired of hearing it and it's getting Old.
Good Luck and feel better soon...
2007-07-09 15:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Just me! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your husband is acting like a jerk. Maybe marital counseling would help the two of you resolve some problems. With your medical problems you should be following your doctor's recommendations for diet and exercise. I don't think you are overweight for your height. Good luck to you.
2007-07-09 15:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by becka60 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work out your question properly. Pacemakers allow you to return to a normal life and a little exercise is good for the heart and soul. He's not driving you crazy your quite capable of doing that all by yourself.
2016-04-01 06:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good weight for you height. Tell you husband that you are happy with yourself and that he can shut up or get out! What does he think is the ideal woman? Nicole Richie. Tell him that he needs to grow up!
2007-07-09 14:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure that he does not mean to hurt your feelings. Just tell him that his coments are not nice and that you would like it if he stopped saying those mean things. That should make him stop. As long as you are healthy...your weight doesn`t matter. Just make sure you drink lots of water and eat and exercise healthy......as long as you don`t live at KFC...you are fine.
2007-07-09 14:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change some people. Is he just kidding, but taking it to far? Or does he really mean it? He's probably just picking on you, so find something that hits a nerve on him and kid him for a while see how he likes that.
2007-07-09 15:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by book writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He makes fun of you because you allow it. Next time he calls you something throw a book at him and start calling him names!!
2007-07-09 14:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people find their own flaws in others. a stranger would not give him as much credit for that as you do.
p.s. make him steamed veggies for dinner and tell him youre both starting to live haelthy:-)
2007-07-09 19:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋