He thinks anyone with long hair must be a hippie and smell funny.
He thought I was gay because I wasn't married by the time I was 21. (the time when one would normally return from a mission)
Anyone who drinks alcohol is an alcoholic.
Anyone who listens to rock music is evil.
The list goes on, but I think you get the point.
2007-07-09 14:44:10 · 27 answers · asked by Al Shaitan 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My father and mother recently came to visit my wife and I, and these are some of the things he pointed out to me while he was here.
I am married now, and I'm much older than 21.
I'm not gay either.
Also ex-mormon.
2007-07-09 14:54:53 · update #1
He's mormon, what do you expect? (Especially since you're an ex mormon, and now you're goin to hell fo sho) lol :D
2007-07-09 15:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sounds like he's going to Hell. That's really sad that he isnt open-minded and has to be so judgemental. I drink a beer once in a while (not to get drunk but just as a snack), I'm 35 had my first kid this year (theres no kid producing race going on), not married, listen to rock, have long hair but You know what: I dont smell, not an alcoholic, definately not a hippie and theres no way I'm evil. I work in a hospital and love taking care of people. I couldnt hurt a flea--ok maybe an annoying flea. YOURE a BETTER PERSON for looking Beyond your fathers sins. sounds like HE needs to be saved. I understand!
2007-07-09 21:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by get dent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just a different person with different beliefs than you. It wouldn't be a big deal if your dad had the same beliefs as you. For whatever reasons you both just don't have the same beliefs, regardless of religion. There are some waky parents out there that have beliefs that are different than LDS religion beliefs and they are just as judgemental on their children.
For example, I had a friend who joined the LDS church, went to the temple, was married very young. Her parents were outraged! They told her she should have been finishing college, that she's too young to be married, that she shouldn't be LDS. Practically disowned her.
Now all she did was found something she believed in, found someone to love her and got married, what so completely waky about that?
Say my friend didn't join the church, but she just got married young or got pregnant young, you don't think her parents would be as judgemental, sure they would!!
My point is parents can be very judgemental for whatever their reasoning and whatever their belief systems not just LDS ones!
2007-07-10 02:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by LCOTE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be very judgemental. ( I am now a grannie).
Maybe he has to have these rigid definitions in his life.
It is normal for young people to try on new personas. It make their parents nuts. It is normal for you to do. Part of differentiatin yourself from your parents as a person, means you will be different from what they want and you will piss them off. It has always been this way.
In time you will take back and incorporate things into your life that you choose to value. And that's OK too. A lot of it will be what your parents believe, but not all of it. And it will change over your lifetime.
Dad, on the other hand is afraid for you to separate and become your own person, which is especially hard if you are Mormon.
2007-07-09 21:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is teaching you what he sincerely believes to be right. He loves you, I'm sure and just wants what is best for you. If you truly believe in the Mormon teachings, then listen to him. However, at your age, if you are looking at other religions--then that is your right! As an adult you have the right to choose your Spiritual Path and no one, not even your Dad, can make that decision for you. That is between you and your Supreme Being. Good luck and Blessings.
2007-07-09 21:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Native Spirit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You weren't married at 21, what are you GAY! LOL Thats just the way your dad is, doesn't matter whether he is mormon or not. My dad is mormon but he still has a short temper and is easily annoyed. The gospel doesn't change people the spirit changes people, and if the person doesn't let the spirit in then it doesn't matter he will still be himself
2007-07-09 21:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by David Flournoy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ah, Suddenly your bigotry makes sense. You're really lashing out against your dad. You should see a shrink or something. It may be more helpful than ranting on R&S?
2007-07-10 09:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know for sure, but its just my suspicion, that he's a closet gay and can't come out on the sake of religion. So all that pent up energy gets blasted at anyone that is at the wrong place at the wrong time.
2007-07-10 19:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's just looking for reasons to subtly pick at you not following the rules and regulations of mormondom.
2007-07-10 03:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Liesel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a mormon (or any other religion) is believing a lot of nonsense, and unfortunately, trying to force it onto others.
2007-07-09 21:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
nothing to do with being Mormon.
However, now I understand why you are so judgmental. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
2007-07-10 12:38:13 · answer #11 · answered by Dionysus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋