i have posted this question before, just want to hear more opinions. my ex ended the relationship a few months ago. i moved out with my mom to give him some space. for about a month now we have been spending time together off and on. he took me out for my birthday and to the fireworks on the fouth of july. things couples do basically. Things at my mothers house are not going well. So my ex asked me to move back in and see where things go between us. If things dont work, i could live there as long as i want to save money to get a decent apartment later. He basically wants us to be room mates, sleeping in different rooms, and we will still spend one on one time together once in a while. Shold i be patient and see where things go? Or should i demand an answer whether or not were together or not? He has made it clear that he isnt seeing anyone. His reasoning for sleeping in different rooms is so that he doesnt give me the idea that he only wants me for sex. What ya think? Honestly?
2007-07-09 13:50:41 · 6 answers · asked by tish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 23 and hes 24. We have been dating since highschool for almost 8 years now. We lived together for only 6 months when we started fighting. I work second shift and at the time he had to cover alot of early morning shifts, plus every other weekend for about a month. We didnt see eachother alot. Our schedules are better now. He asked me to move back in so i dont have to sign a lease and buy furnature, etc. My mom has a problem drinking, so i cant stay there. And i dont have any friends i can stay with on a temporary basis.
2007-07-09 13:53:51 · update #1
Wow.. Where to begin...To me it sounds like he is trying to take it slow... And there is nothing wrong with that... Evidently he still cares about you given that he realizes the situation you are in and is trying to help you out.... Being roommates might be the thing to do.... You don't have a commitment but you both are there to see if maybe it could work out....
Given what you said.. It doesn't look like things could get any worse only better... 1. you are out of your moms house and somewhere better 2. you are able to possibly work on a relationship in the process... If you two don't get "back" together, its ok because that's not why you moved in to begin with... As long as you get it thru your head u are moving in as a "roommate" you will be ok... And in the process if you two decide you can live with each other and start something, than great! But going into it you have nothing to lose! In the end you, yourself knows whats best for you... Take your time and think about it
Just be careful and be safe!!!
Good luck!
2007-07-09 14:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truly believe that?.he wants you to move in , have separate bedrooms , but you're going to be room-mates with benefits.And you can remain in the apartment as long as you want if things don't work out a second time.What happens if he gets another girlfriend , if that girl does not want him sharing an apartment with his ex( who will accept that),if you refuse to sleep with him---you get my point. I think you are denying the facts because you want to get out of your mother's house because of the problems you both have.That is not a good enough of a reason to move in with your ex.You will be going from the "frying pan into the fire".Please remain at home until you can go out on your own; date your ex from home if you still want to so you are not at his mercy.I wish you all the best.Keep us posted on your progress.After I posted this,I saw your additions. Except for the fact that you say your mother has a drinking problem, and I sense your desperation, my sentiments have not changed. I still think that you will have a lot more control over your life at home than in your ex's place.Your desperation at home is blinding you to the problems you face in your ex's place. As an alternative, find a room you can rent in a private house or somewhere until you can do better.
2007-07-09 21:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would be your choose if you want to move back in with him or not. but you have to first find out if it's only to be roommates or more. because it would be fine if it was a roommate thing if there were not feelings there. if there were feelings there and it would just be uncomfortable to live with someone your in love with who isn't in love with you. you don't want to make your self or him uncomfortable if you two do move in together. you need to find out what's going on between the two of you if you are together or not before you do anything. but they do have apartments that come with everything included too. and since your mother is a drunk has she even gotten help with her problem? because it wouldn't be fair to you either unless she was willing or is getting help. just sit down with him and tell him how you feel and find out what's going on between you two first would be the best way to go. good luck.
2007-07-09 21:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and let things work out. Continue to be a better friend and don't take things too personally. Timing tells everything.
2007-07-09 20:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by LT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Do not move back in with him. You can't live with an ex, especially when you guys don't know for sure whether you guys are together or not.
2007-07-09 20:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by ngawlyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might want u back because he misses u alot.it is normal for a guy to do that when he misses his woman.so move back in with him and see how things go.i think it would be a good idea.if u dont do it son,it could be to late and he could find himself a new girl.so move back,and see how things go.i think it is worth it.
2007-07-09 20:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nairobi Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋