The cause of my sisters bullying troubles - me?

Question

My sister, 2 years younger than me is having trouble at school with another girl, Steph, who pushes her around and sends her verbal abuse by email.

It seems to be a known fact now that Steph actually fancies me. My sister and her few friends say that she is constantly talking about me.

Now my mother believes that Steph bullys my sister to get noticed and attention from me. My mother isnt blaming me, that would be ridiculous, but she seems to be hinting that this is the cause and I can do something about it.

I dont really think this is it. Why this girl or anyone would think I would start to notice and think of her in any positive way by bullying my sister is beyond me.

Any advice?
Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

What if your mom is right? I'm sure your sister would appreciate you taking 15 minutes out of your day sometime to ask steph whats up ... and what her problem is.... even if Steph is just doing it to be a *****, it could save your sister a world of trouble.
Best of luck!

Answer 2

Some people's psychological behaviour just contradicts what they hope to achieve. You hit the nail on the head in the respect that you sure aren't going to be giving her any positive attention but ANY attention this girl gets is all she craves, thus the bullying. It could very well be that "Steph" does indeed like you and the only way she knows how to get any attention from you at all is to bully your sister so she gets this attention. It's clear this girl has some underlying and dysfuntional issues and naturally you're going to stand behind your sister. Be counsel to your sister and IF you have to intervene at any level, I think you'll know how to handle it in a mature manner. You seem to have a much understanding of what people are all about than most.

Answer 3

I agree with your statement. You see psychologically girls 'can' be very aggressive, especially to people they love. Steph is hurting your sister because she knows that it will get your attention and talking about you at school will get your attention further. I've dealt with people like this before and it's not pretty. If you want my advice you MUST stop this. This is something that won't blow over so quickly like a breakup. Psychological fighting can last over a very long period of time. If you want my advice and for your sisters sake. You must confront Steph and stop this once and for all. It is as Dwight D. Eisenhower said, "You're task will not be an easy one." and it won't. But for the better good you must stop this.

Answer 4

Your mother is WRONG. What she's really doing to putting the problem off on you, so she doesn't have to be bothered.
It's the sort of thing my mother did to me.
The bully is just looking for attention from anyone that will give it to her. People become bullies when they've been emotionally devastated, via abuse. They want to look tough like it doesn't hurt them.

Answer 5

wow 2 year old sending hate emails, pretty weird, maybe you should turn emo so no one likes you and your sister stops getting bullied there u go best advice you'll get today.

my bad i thought u said 2 year old u said 2 years younger sorry again. but the second part is right.

Answer 6

Just give the girl a talking to. In a nice way of course and tell her to leave your sister alone.

Answer 7

Maybe talk to this girl and without fully directing it at her tell her how you could never fall for a mean spirited person and how you love when a girlfriend you have gets along with your family well.

Answer 8

you can talk to theat steph girl.or help you sister i cant believe they still have bullies! anyways your sister cant always be nice and she can stand up for herself. not to be mean but she should gather her friends and play joke on that girl maybe it will stop it.

Answer 9

Stand up for your sister. Confront the girl. Maybe then (if she is trying to get your attention) She will realize she's only going to get negative attention from you.

Answer 10

Tell Steph , what you REALLY think of her!