How can I prove to my b/f that I have not cheated on him, he thinks that I have because he has heard some rumors that have gone around because I was talking with a friend about his mairital problems and I was only trying to help him and his wife out. Now my b/f thinks that I have cheated on him with this guy, I have not done that and I have told him that but he says he needs time to figure things out. Someone please help with some advise.
2007-07-09 13:13:15 · 10 answers · asked by Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know what dump him cause if that is how he acts when you are talking to another guy it sounds like he is very controlling. I would run from someone like him .
2007-07-09 13:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf will abandon your relationship b/c of rumors, then he is not strong/man enough for a relationship to begin with. Rumors will always be there, you only have trust to hold on to. Or you sure he didn't make up this rumor himself and is using it as an excuse to break up now (some poepele are dirty like that, can't be straight forward about breaking up).
If you have to set a meeting with this friend of yours, he'll be happpy to cleear things up. But first try talking with your b/f again. Second, I want to ask you are you sure you want to be with this guy? He does not sound supportive at all, even sounds negative and can careless about the 2 of you. "I need time to figure things out...." thing, is always negative. The person does not care enough to work through together(that's what couple's do, work it out together) and is letting go.
2007-07-09 20:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by ladida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in all, you can't. A person will believe what they want to believe, even if it's due to hearing rumors from random people. What I would say is (if you didn't cheat) "Look I did not cheat and never will, but if you're never going to accept what I'm telling you for the truth than how in the hell can we have a relationship that's solely based on rumors. And if you think for 1 second that you want to hold something like this over my head and decide to cheat on me and then try to flip it back because you thought I cheated on you......I'll walk out this door right now and you can go find you a fake *** woman......because I am not that fake *** woman that you and your friends claim me to be.
2007-07-09 20:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by insane_19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to prove anything to anyone. Either he trusts you, or he doesn't. Any relationship should be based on trust, but if he has a problem trusting you, then he's not worth your time.
As long as you know the absolute truth, that's all that counts.
Good Luck
2007-07-09 20:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by 3rd LIFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't cheat on him so you can't prove it if you didn't do it he should beleive you when you tell him you didn't cheat or at least tell him you were just trying to help this other guy not cheating on him and he doesn't have any compatiton
2007-07-09 20:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by hannah o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's much harder to prove something that didn't happen!
He could talk to your friend, and your friend could tell him
nothing happened, but he probably won't believe you, it
sounds like he has some trust issues. He doesn't trust you.
2007-07-09 20:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prove anything to him. Stand your ground, tell the truth and stop doing things that make him uncomfortable or suspicious.
2007-07-09 20:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by tgrx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to prove to him anything. If he choose to doubt you over some rumour, he don't worth your time. This relationship will tire you out for his over suspicious. He simple don't trust you.
2007-07-09 22:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not cheating...you don't have to bend over backward to prove anything. You tell him "I told you nothing happened. If you can't believe that and you don't trust me, then that's YOUR insecurity, not MINE! I can't prove that nothing happened. I would like you to believe me, and to trust me...but if you can't, there's nothing I can do about it."
2007-07-09 20:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, if he can't trust you, than he's not worth your time!
2007-07-09 20:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋