Kids on Honeymoon?

Question

Would you be pissed if your new husband said he wished he could have taken his two kids with you on your honeymoon? Not mine, from his first marriage.

We had just gotton there, and had not done anything exciting yet...he even got pissed when I said, "but its our honeymoon!" He said "so what!" I do love his kids but come on now..

Answer 1

Yeah, I can understand you would be pissed off cos a honeymooon is supposed to be your time together, gettin to know each other, and it is not too romantic dragging kids along. Especially when they are not yours. Perhaps he needs to be more sensitive here.
But then from his point of view, you didnt just marry him, when you said I do, you also married an instant family, and promised to love his kids. Maybe he wants you to spend time getting to know his kids as well as him. Or maybe he feels guilty going away without them. Maybe it has been a long time since they have had a holiday too. Maybe the two of you can compromise and either have two honeymoons, a week of solitude and romance with just the two of you and then a week camping including the kids. Or maybe you can take them away to a resort where they cater for kids, babysitters and activities. You hardly see kids at a place like that. The kids will have a ball and you guys will get plenty of time alone for romance.
Good luck. It is a tricky situation for both of you. You need to both compromise and listen to each other. That is after all what marriage is all about. You are not just a couple, you are a family now. Dont lose sight of that. He sounds like a good man. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

Yes I would be mad that my new husband would want to have a "family event" when a honeymoon is for the new married couple with out prior discussion.

Those who want to include children, should take a 2 to 3 day honeymoon and come home. Then take a family trip sometime as a celebration of uniting.

He wanted a family trip, not a honeymoon.

You can only explain the difference to him, but it seems the answer "so what" pretty much sums up his "thoughts" on you two getting time together alone after exchanging vows.

Answer 3

Well that depends. I mean if he hasn't really gotten much of a chance to see them in the last few months, it would be understandable. Besides you have to realize his kids may come before you at times. Even if you are the new wife, his loyalty will always be to his kids. And I figure if you are going some place fun, you could have brought the kids along for a while and let him spend time with them. Its all part of compromising, you can't always say I don't want to see the little brats because they aren't my kids or even keep them from him. Its never cool to come between a parent and their children. But if it really bothered you this badly, talk to him about how you felt and don't be whiny about it, just be direct in saying you didn't like how he felt about having his kids along during your honeymoon. I'm sure he will understand. Besides that, if you are going to ever get to know the children and learn to love them like your own you can't always act like a child yourself and say "I want things this way or that way" and whine and stamp your foot about it. Have to be reasonable, but at the same time an adult and understand his feelings too.

Answer 4

First marriage has nothing to do with it. And the fact that you mentioned it like that is alarming!!

But the honeymoon is no place for kids, hopefully its a once in a life time experience. You should appreciate the fact that you have a husband that loves his kids and loves to be around them. You all probably went somewhere he thought the kids would have loved to experience......GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I would be. It's your HONEYMOON! Time to focus on just eachother and the beginning of your new life. The kids would ruin it. Save that for a family trip later down the road.

Answer 6

While I can understand being close to one's children and wanting to include them, doing so on the honeymoon isn't the place to do it. Include them in the wedding, but the honeymoon is just that, for the new bride and groom.

Answer 7

in my opinion, i could leave them at the back of. yet, whilst you're a sort of people who won't be in a position to think of being long gone out of your toddlers that long, or you would be calling abode to envision on them each 0.5 hour, i could take them. looking on the place you're going, maximum hotels grant young toddlers golf equipment that ought to offer you and your new hubby some properly deserved time on my own, and the youngsters will nevertheless have their exciting too. completely your call in this one. **in simple terms had a theory. A 2 week honeymoon? Any decision that it truly is close and you need to take the youngsters for one week and deliver them off to grandma's the 2d?

Answer 8

Yes! plus kids makes it a vacation, not a honeymoon. Was he saying that seriously or just saying it like his kids would have loved all the stuff you two did and he wished he could share that with them? cause I get that whole "I wish my kids could have done this, they would have loved it" thing. But if he was serious, then rethink your marriage, cause you'll be competing with his kids forever!

Answer 9

Yes, especially if you discussed the trip being just the two of you.


Family is important, but this is a time for just the adults. Children can't be invited to every event in life.

Answer 10

I can understand that they are his kids, part of his family. But still... a honeymoon is a "new couple" thing... not a family thing.