My friend is being hit by her dad. Any advice?

Question

I'm worried. What do I do?

Answer 1

Tell the school counselor. (the school counselor is required by law to report it to the proper authorities. it will be faster and you will be less in the middle) You BETTER get involved or you are really gonna feel bad if he hits her too hard and kills her. Your identity will be anonymous. Oh, and the police won't do anything.....unless it happened that day and you heard it.

Answer 2

I know everyone else is saying report it but there isn't enough info. here. Is her father hitting her all the time or was this a one time thing that was out of the ordinary? Knee jerk reaction says call social services anonymously, but sensibility is back in my head asking if this happens all the time or did Dad just lose it and have a mental breakdown on the poor girl. I remember a time that my Dad flipped on me and tried to break my arm (no he wasn't an abusive father, this only happened once), my brother (who was very big) put Dad in a headlock and that was the end of that, my best friend was there hiding in the bathroom and I'm sure she wanted to call the police too but nothing ever came of it.
The best thing to do is talk to your friend and find out if she is really being abused or not. If she is then ask her if she wants you to help, if she doesn't then let it lay for a while if it keeps happening let your parents know and ask them to get her help.
I am a parent now and know how stressful it is with kids and can understand the occasional break with reality but if this is true abuse tell someone to get some help for her. Just keep in mind that these are serious accusations so you have to be sure of the abuse before ripping a family apart.

Answer 3

If you are in school during the summer, then tell the school counselor. The school counselor is obligated by law to report this abuse.

Otherwise, you need to call social services. If you can't find the phone number in the phone book, then call the police and ask for the number.

You might want to talk to your parents or a trusted adult about this. You might want to have some further information available to social services like whether or not marks are left on your friend, how often she is hit and whether your friend's dad is a druggy or a drunk. Then, you might ask social services if they can do anything about this given the circumstances you discover.

I reported a situation once where the mother had slapped the daughter in public, but no marks remained and social services provided a lot of help to the mother and the daughter both of whom had enormous problems.

Answer 4

If it's a good old fashioned swat on the butt, there is nothing to be alarmed about. But... if it is a slap across the face or closed fist beatings, then tell your parents immediately, they can call "Child Protective Services". Some one said not to get involved. This is WRONG. Too many people turn their heads. I was a victim of child beatings by a bully dad. Back then, EVERY ONE turned their heads, even the school system. I missed out on my high school graduation because I was so bruised the principal handed me my diploma and told me I couldn't be in the ceremony because it looked bad. I have no outward scars, but I will carry the inner scars for my entire life. Please I am begging you, help your friend.

Answer 5

Talk to your parent about it and tell them your concern, I am sure they will have some advice for you. Don't be scared you are a good friend to be so concerned for your friend. Make sure she knows you really care about her and try to reassure her as often as you can and if she makes a good grade or anything tell her you are proud of her, tell her you are proud of her for being brave and strong with all she is going through. Tell her you are there for her and that you love her as a friend. She may need to hear things like this because she is probubly not hearring them at home. Please talk to your mom or dad and ask their advice on it, or even a school councelor, you don't have to tell her you are gooing to do that, remain annonimous. If she gets upset with you about it if you tell her you have talked to them, let her, but you are doing the right thing and trying to help her and one day she will realize it.

Answer 6

Your friend should get out of that environment and seek help immediately. She shouldn't worry about what happens to her father because at no point at all does a parent have a right to hit a child. Tell her to go to an adult she's comfortable talking to and ask them to help her. There also many sites and hotlines available to help out your friend. Best of luck to her.

Answer 7

Depends on if you want to remain anonymous or not. You could talk to a school counselor, or you could call Dept. of Social Services. Your best bet would be to talk to your parents (if you get along with them good, and you're sure they won't fly off the handle or anything) and let THEM call social services. If you don't want your parents involved, you can make the call yourself from a payphone or something like that.

Answer 8

You can tell a teacher or anonymously call child protective services. Unfortunately people in that situation many times do not take the necessary steps so she needs you to be a good friend right now and report it.

Answer 9

Call the police. Call the department of health and human services. call the child abuse hotline handled by Health and Human services. Just get that child out of the house. But let the authorities handle that part.

Answer 10

by calling the cops might make things worse what i would suggest is to get someone like a social worker to come talk to her dad and if thing get worse then she should just move out i know it wont be easy but that is what she should do before it gets worse