What would you define as being hurt in a relationship?

Question

To me being hurt is when you are put in many situations and your girlfriend/boyfriend consistently neglects you or does not pay attention to the things that are important to you. Its also when your partner cheats on you. Im just curious to know what other people think when someone says they have been hurt in the past.

Answer 1

In can be all manner of actual things done. But basically it is when trust is broken. When someone doesn't appreciate you, you don't trust them. When someone cheats on you, you do not trust them. The people we love the most hold incredible power in their hands because when they do stuff to us it hurts 5000 time worse than if someone we could give a crap about did it. Love hurts. Sometimes it can be beautiful agony and sometimes it is just total agony.

Answer 2

I define hurt in a relationship as being cheated on, lied to or about, negelcted, he doesn't trust me enough to do things on my own like going out with my friends without calling me all the time. Physical abuse is another one for sure, a really big one. Ignoring is another big one. Not listening to me and trying to control me is a very big one. As well as always doing behaviours I don't like to deliberately piss me off or make me mad. Like I don't like when a guy drinks too much and he deliberately gets drunk and embarasses me in front of others. Oh and I really can't stand a guy that thinks calling me names and making me feel bad about myself is a winner at all that is a most serious hurt right there. Lastly always thinking he has to have the last word in everything. Some situations doesn't call for anyone to have the last word, but he makes it his point to always be the person to have something to say after the end of an argument and it usually is something very stupid. Oh and before I forget feeling that he can't confide in me or using my words against me when I have shared something personal with him. I really can't stand when anyone saves up stuff like that to use against anyone. That is the most lowest and cheapest blow of all. Because they can't deal with the current problem they have to bring up old arguments to validate what they are saying now. Those are all the things that really hurt.

Answer 3

I would refer you to the 11th commandment in order to answer your question :"do unto others as you would have them do to you". While people are different in what they find offensive,I believe it is only a matter of degrees. Hence I would answer by adding to what you already listed; anything that would make you respond negatively, make you cry out in pain ,seek revenge, and/or come out fighting. In other words, you can have as many responses as you have people.