I know and respect cultures but this one took the cake.
Ten years ago, I was invited to the wedding and I went alone, and brought a gift of $50 and at the reception I kid you not was one taquito, and a can of pepsi.
I was stunned. Not that these people were poor or anything. Has your gift ever outweighed the wedding?
2007-07-09 12:22:25 · 13 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, Jan, it's true,
and on top of that we rented them a limo at 1/2 price from my family and no thank you note every.
2007-07-09 12:28:17 · update #1
One Taquito per person, and a can of pepsi.
2007-07-09 12:36:17 · update #2
What trailer did these people come from? Do they know that the term "wedding" means? Too bad you didn't pick up your damn $50 gift and walk out. I would have. That's as bad as the wedding of a friend of mine, where I was a bridesmaid and one of the guest brough the couple ONE pair of chopsticks!
2007-07-09 16:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I've always weighed my gift more against my bank account and feelings for the couple than against the price of my meal. Luckily for me, it seems most of my friends have had a similar attitude. When I've been in funds I've given the most generous gifts I could...and same when I've been seriously lacking in cash. It's just then the gift had a lower price tag. It's gone both ways when compared to the cost of the meal...but I really don't think that should enter into the equation.
This reception, however...was that one taquito and one Pepsi per person, or was that poor taquito supposed to feed the entire crowd?
Either way, oh dear.
2007-07-09 19:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That does sound sad. What a horrid wedding! Each to their own I suppose. I have never really thought about weighing the cost of the gift up against the cost of the wedding meal recieved. A gift is after all a gift of goodwill. Even if I cant get to the wedding, if I care about the people I still send a gift. Unless of course, they are being greedy and everything on their registry is over $100. That is just rude!
But funnily enough, my man and I are discussing our wedding and as it is my second wedding (his first) and I am planning it to be at our home, and to be rather informal, (hors derves and finger food, champagne and beer, followed by mudcake) He is stressing that people will be expecting a full on sit down meal! And we are not even wanting gifts. So I guess my plans have changed. I never really thought about the gifts having to equal the cost of the meal/venue etc. I just always buy a nice gift or contribute what I can afford off the registry. I guess I dont often go to weddings that are not people that I am close to.
2007-07-09 19:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so here's the thing...
One taquito and a can of pepsi is just unacceptable, regardless of what gift you brought. That's just a giant lack of hospitality! They should have cut down on their guest list if they couldn't afford the basics.
Your gift should have been what you felt was appropriate to give, regardless of what hospitality was offered by your hosts. It's not supposed to be about "covering your plate" or getting back in food what you give as a gift. It's supposed to come from the heart, and I hope you at least felt good about what you gave.
2007-07-09 19:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I took when to a wedding that was so ghetto( pardon the term)
the bride wore a skin tight baby doll like dress. the reception was worse. a filled public park with no seating no music and dinner was hot dogs and Pepsi cans.
I bought an item off there registry for 95.00 and i could have easily given them a turd from my dog and said it was from both of us. I have never been so embarrassed for someone else. They literally had a receiving line where the main question was so was did you bring.
2007-07-09 19:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never went to a wedding that cheap.
I went to a wedding where the food was so bad, my wife and I wouldn't eat it. We heard the groom sister say the food was disgusting. I heard they tried to get their money back from the caterer. This was an expensive wedding too, but the worst wedding I went to. We walked out during dinner.
2007-07-09 20:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say a gift should come from the heart and not be based on the food....but that is pretty sad. guests usually expect SOMETHING at a wedding, even if it is not a dinner. it was almost like give us* nice presents and here is a freebie from the grocery store.
http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/bridesmaids/ebms.shtml
this website lists funny/rude things that happen at weddings. some people apparently starve all the time. :O
2007-07-09 19:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO,Not that I can ever remember. The gift one brings to a reception is a reflection of your help in getting the newly weds started in their new life together. It should not be "judged" on the food served or not served.
2007-07-09 19:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by LuckyLady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, the last wedding I was in we had rehearsal dinner at a Chinese buffet. The reception was in a gym with broken a/c and 101 degrees outside. We ate off of paper plates. NO meal, just snacks.....NO booze. I gave him $50. in cash for his gift. WELL, to return the favor at MY wedding, (rehearsal dinner at Adam's Mark hotel in Dallas and FULL SITDOWN dinner with OPEN BAR at the reception) this fool gave me a $30 gift certificate to TARGET and I was registered at MACY'S. (guess he made $20 on our gift exchange) I used his crappy gift certificate to buy his wife stuff for her baby shower, but I only spent $10, lol.
2007-07-09 19:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by gin and juice 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The gift is always supposed to outweigh the wedding. Thats why they call it a gift. If you just wanted a $50 meal and didn't want to give something to your friends you should have gone out to a nice restaurant by yourself.
2007-07-09 19:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋