Does Christ turn "repentant gays" into heterosexuals?

Question

It has been said in this area that "repentant gays" who claim to have "changed" are proof that gay people can change their sexual orientation.

There are several funny things about this "ex-gay" thing. 1.) They claim there are "thousands and thousands" who have changed. Yet not only do we not see the thousands, we also never see any reliable statistics to back up this claim. 2.) When they are being honest, "ex-gays" admit to still experiencing same-sex attraction and desire. Heterosexuals that I know don't experience same-sex attraction and desire. 3.) "Ex-gays" tell us that they found Christ, repented, prayed to Him and He took away the same-sex desire. As a gay Christian, I've also prayed to Christ, repented for my sins, been saved by Christ, and at times asked him to remove lustful same-sex thoughts. Guess what? He does remove lustful thoughts! But I'm still a gay man. 4.) What about all the ex-ex-gays who tell us that the process does not work?

Answer 1

As long as you have a strong personal relationship with Christ, nothing else matters...gay or straight.

I KNOW that God made me gay, i was born this way. And I personally believe that God doesnt create sinful babies...He is pure and holy, set apart from sin. For this reason, being Gay is not a sin, and becoming an "ex-gay" really is impossible...and I don't think God would want us to live a lie as a heterosexual.

Catholic or Protestant, sprinkled or full immersion baptism, it doesnt matter...what matters is the personal relationship. True Christianity isnt an organized religion, its an individual faith. I'm Gay, but I'm saved...thats all I need.

Answer 2

Brother we are on different boats but up the same river. I too am a lustful man. I have carnal thoughts. I have been saved and ask daily for him to remove my carnal nature. At first it did not seem to be working and then I realized that I was still focusing on the nature and keeping it close. You have to discard it and put your mind on things above. Do not worry about relationships and things of that nature. You have to drop the whole "gay" thing too. Not practicing is not enough you have to distance yourself from it all. For myself if I feel the draw towards sites I should not be on I simply turn off the TV or Computer and play with my kids or read a book. I also have the added advantage of a wife. When a pretty woman is walking by I try not to focus on her at all and definitely no sneaking second peeks. I also pray to God right then and there and I find it helps.

God does not promise a quick fix just because we pray to him. Even Paul had a problem that God refused to heal. Being Christian does not mean we get a pass on pain and problems. This is where books like "The Prayer of Jabez" and other prosperity books hurt many people whether they believe or not. We have to realize that even if we suffered every day of our lives for 100 years we would forget it all and count our selves blessed in the first second God allows us to finally see his face.

Answer 3

I do not believe that ex-gays become heterosexual. I think that instead many struggle for the rest of their lives with those sinful urges, just as heterosexual men have sinful urges with respect to women. I am sure that some ex-gays are also men who were not really gay per se, thus making the transition to heterosexuality easier. Either they fell into it due to friends, were convinced or seduced, wno knows. How many are there? No idea. As you mentioned, I also have not seen any statistics on the matter.

Answer 4

Despite the claims to the opposite, we have absolutely NO proof that homosexuality is an inherent trait. There are many theories about homosexuality being something you are born with - and many cling to it. Wanting to an explaination that is easy instead of one that is hard. It is easy to claim that there is nothing one can do. I'm not saying being a homosexual is easy, not in the slightest. But it becomes easier when you manage to convince yourself and others that there is nothing you can do about it.

I have known both homosexuals and ex-homosexuals. The ex's I have personally met are completely happy with the fact that they have left that life behind them. They are not repressing anything, or are trying to stiffle some secret urges. In fact - their desire is for their spouse.

Am I saying that it works for everyone? No. I think the want and desire to change has to exist before you can make that first step. All of those that have - that I know - have no regrets leaving homosexuality behind.

Answer 5

I am also one of those "repentant gays", and no I do not think that all are turned into heterosexuals. Some, maybe, but not all. I for one have not had my desires removed. However I will keep fighting until my dying breath, if I have to. It is that important. I have done the ex-gay and the ex-ex-gay thing. Ultimately the main thing is to keep your eyes on Jesus. I know in my heart that God will never be pleased with me having sex with anyone I am not married to. God never promised to take away the temptation of any sin, but he did promise to help us though the rough times.

Answer 6

I was not aware that God automatically removed all temptation from ones life. What about alcoholics, drug addicts, thieves, fornicators, etc.?

Changing bad habits seems to take time. For someone looking for a quick cure for anything, Christianity would seem to be a poor choice, since the Bible expects us to "work out" our own salvation. Even heterosexuals have improper heterosexual, and often even homosexual, thoughts from time to time.

It is not the presence or absence of temptation that makes one a good Christian; it is the desire and the will to do the right think in spite of the temptation.

Answer 7

3) God does remove the lustful thoughts..you just don't want em to change. YOU are the only want who has to turn away from sin and God gives you that opportunity to do so.
4) it doesn't work because they don't want it to work.

Pastor Donnie MuClurklin. He's also a famous gospel singer. He was molested when he was a little boy and also chose to live the homosexual life. He found God and turned from those ways. He made a choice and he followed that choice and God was there every step of the way. it may not be in thousands...but there are people (who used to be homosexual) out there who actually call themselves Christians because they live by God's word. NOT by man and God's word. if your a christian like you say that you are then you should know what God's word say about homosexuality and you would LIVE by his word. no matter what society puts in your way.

Answer 8

How true. The founders of Exodus International, an ex-gay group, divorced their wives, and "married" each other....

People will continually try to be what the world pressures them to be...instead of being what Christ made them. It is a shame, that people are turning so many people away from the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ with their hateful rhetoric.

Answer 9

I have been in Angels Stadium, Dodger Stadium, Yankee Stadium, Petco Park and whatever the name is of that sauna in Miami in Red Sox gear. Everyone treats you with respect/ignores you, except the Yankee fans. There is just too much history there. It makes it fun. As for your experience, I could never understand why a Yankee fan would show up at Fenway for a Red Sox--Tigers game in Yankee gear. Wear Tiger gear for Heaven's sake. Of course you are going to be the most loathed person in the park. Actually wearing a Yankee hat in the City of Boston is not the brightest of moves as a general matter.

Answer 10

Obviously you've never heard of "Exodus", an organization which has thousands of former homosexuals, who repented of their lifestyle that was an abomination to God, and resumed a heterosexual lifestyle, regretting having ever been homosexual.

Get your facts straight. There are many homosexuals who repented.