I've been dating him a year.The baby is over a year and he took a paternity test to see if he was the father of his ex-girlfriend's son. The test says he is. He says he wants nothing to do with her and he still wants me in his life. I will see if I can still continue my relationship with him but there are no guarentees. I need advice from women and men who have been in a similar situation...
2007-07-09 11:36:24 · 6 answers · asked by Whitney C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It happened before the two of you were together, as long as he takes care of his child, then I would give him a chance.
2007-07-09 11:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. I always tell this to women who are in relationship with men that began from them having an affair: you have to look at how he was before. It is clear that he does not want to be with the woman that he got pregnant now. BUT there is a child involved. he doesnt want anything to do with an innocent child. What makes you think he wont do the same to you after he doesnt watnt you anymore? I dont mean to be rude but it sounds like you already have a gut feeling about him. I would be extra careful because you have a baby yourself. You don't want that kind of man to help raise your child for a bit when there is uncertainty if he has intentions or if he can be trusted to stay. Know what I mean? Good luck woman!
2007-07-09 11:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by P.Y.T.23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would see what he intends to do about paying for the child. If he refuses to pony up for a baby he created, I'd dump his butt so fast his ears would pop. If you want to risk a relationship with someone who can walk away from his child, okay, but if he doesn't own up to his responsibility, you think hard about that. You'll be next.
2007-07-09 11:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paternity has nothing to do with yalls relationship. it just means he is a father. do you best to be supportive of him in this confusing time. if he says he doesn't want to be with the mother, then believe him. and urge him to be a part of the childs life. good luck
2007-07-09 11:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by bubbajess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if yall both love each other and you trust him to not see his ex then you should stay with him but if you have any diuts then leave him and tell him you cant handle that situation that hes in.
2007-07-09 11:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by In love! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to listen to your heart. Because the baby is over a year, that means that he wasn't with her while you were dating. Hopefully he does not sever ties with his child, but ultimately that's up to him. What's up to you is if you could handle him being daddy. Listen to what your heart says.
2007-07-09 11:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋