I'm getting married next year, however I've alredy been married once before. I don't expect my family / extended family to buy me a wedding gift because they've really already done that. My fiance and I want to have a honeymoon registry, so friends and family etc. on his side will receive honeymoon registry details. What should I do with my family? Should I include the registry and write a little hand written letter saying that I don't expect anything? that their presence is my present?
Do you have any suggestions on what I could write? Do?
2007-07-09 11:18:05 · 7 answers · asked by Snoopy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First, you should never include registry details in the invitation. A wedding invitation should never, in any way, imply that a gift is expected. Instead, pass the word through relatives, word of mouth, email, your wedding website, etc.
As for the families - both should get the same details. Neither family should be made to feel like a gift is expected in any way - but both families should have the option of purchasing one that you would appreciate if they so choose:)
If you feel you must include something in the invitations - keep both sides equal. Try "Your presence is our only expected gift, but for those who wish, we are registered at........"
2007-07-09 14:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubbie and I got married last June. It was a second for both of us. we still got gifts. This wedding is just as important as your first. You wouldn't wear the same gown or anything, why can't you celebrate the 2nd and expect gifts also? Whatever you give his family needs to be given to yours. The honeymoon registry is a great idea, especially if you already have everything you need, toasters, blenders, all that jazz. We got mostly money rather then gifts. We didn't register anyplace or have showers or anything as we'd both done that before and we lived together 3 years before the wedding so we didn't really NEED anything. But the $ was great!!! Best Wishes!
2007-07-09 11:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by christy j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Maybe you should only include the registry notice in the ones send out to his side. If your family asks you where you are registered, you can tell them where, but that you aren't expecting them to get you anything, unless they really want to, since this is your second wedding.
I think the next time I get married, I won't even register, unless everyone starts asking me about it. I plan to have a real simple open house after the ceremony. I probably won't say anything- but I may put in the announcement, something like "gifts not expected" I will figure out something like that, which does not seem to cheesy. I probably won't say anything in the announcement though.
2007-07-09 11:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just state that you don't want any gifts. To not expect gifts, then to be on a registry is an oxy moron. Also, imagine how foolish your family will feel if his side brings gifts and your side doesn't.
2007-07-09 12:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please, please, please don't send registry info to ANYONE unless they ask. This is a serious breach of etiquette, and will turn people off from getting you a gift...honest to pete, you'll be much better off letting this be a word of mouth issue.
But then please feel free to share it with whoever asks, regardless of what side of the family they're on. If they want to give you a gift, then you should be gracious and let them.
2007-07-09 11:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why they shouldn't get you anything unless they really can't.You are not marring the same guy.It's a new life with a new person and a new wedding that nothing to do with the previous.So send the same to all and enjoy the beginning of your new life.Congratulations!
2007-07-09 11:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by MS 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i agree with the first person to write you.....good luck!
2007-07-09 11:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋