my mom wont leave me alone.she wont let me have any freedom,she tells embarissing stories about me to everyone,and she constantly worries about my weight and tells me i am probably not eating enough.(i am fine.im 13 and i weigh 109).and tells everyone every time something personal happens to me.
and my dad is worse.he pretends to be weird people and hugs me in public.and he tries to act cool in front of my friends.
and they are so overprotective!they barely let me leave the house.
what do i do?
2007-07-09 11:17:51 · 26 answers · asked by nobody 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i try to go to friends houses.my mom insist on driving me there,and my best friend is right around the corner,like a 2 min.walk.but she still worries and if i do walk she makes me call her when i get there.
2007-07-09 11:39:56 · update #1
Wait til you turn 18 and then move out.
2007-07-09 11:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is a very rough time and I can understand where you are coming from because we have all been there. If you want to be given more freedom and treated more like a young adult, then show that you are mature. If you go around whining, pouting, arguing, and flipping out, the only thing you are doing is letting them know you still need them. Sit down with your parents and let them know how you feel without being mean or emotional. This can show them that you deserve to be treated as a young lady. You aren't going to be completely free until you get older and leave. Respect their rules because you will see that they were right in the end. Good luck and just wait until you become a parent!
2007-07-17 07:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by hamptoncutie204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, don't even worry. That isn't even that bad. There are a lot of things that are worse. They don't sound like they are abusive or anything of that sort. They obviously are trying to love you the best way they know how, but don't know how to do it because you are growing up. Just a couple of years ago, you probably loved being with them. Now, you are suddenly so different. They are probably confused too. Give them some credit. Your body and emotions are changing so try to show some patience. Things change a lot in these years, but don't waste it by hating them because of these little things they are doing. You actually sound like you have great parents. Be grateful for them because this time you have with them won't last. Good luck!
Oh, and don't lie by pretending to cry like "X" said. What a deplorable and manipulative thing to do. Awful.
2007-07-09 11:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings young lady and be grateful that your parents obviously love you and care about you enough to worry about where you are going and if you get there safely.
This is all a part of growing up, when my son was your age he was complaining about how strict his father and I were and how he didn't have a life and couldn't make choices, and now that he is an adult; he tells us all the time how grateful he is that we were fairly strict because he has become a much more mature and respected adult because of it.
There are young people on here complaining that nobody cares about them and they are considering living on the streets, a totally horrible and dangerous choice. You should be counting your blessings every single day.
Hang in there, you and your parents will survive, you will be an adult before you know it and will be sad that these wonderful days are behind you.
2007-07-09 16:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to tolerate it because you live under your parent's roof and they have the final say in everything that you do because they are responsible for you. If you dont like it then find someone who will give you a full time job, move out of your prents home (emancipate yourself), and you will be required to be responsible for yourself, YOU will be responsible for paying for a roof over your head, food in your stomach, your heating and air conditioning. YOU will be responsible for the cable bill the phone bill as well as the internet bill. YOU will be responsible for all of your medical/dental/hospital bills as well as any insurance. And YOU will be responsible for any trouble you get into and if you are arrested you will be tried and convicted as an adult and if you are ever sued you will be sued as an adult and liable for all expenses if you should lose that court case.
So take your pick, either you put up with your parents or do it all on your own at 13.
2007-07-09 11:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, anything your parents do is going to embarrass you! But if possible, start off by talking to your Mom alone about the stories that she tells you. If she tells you only when the family is around that you're not eating enough, you can give her an, "I know, Mom." and leave it at that. Don't eat more than you think you should, but eat more healthy food so that she can be satisfied. I'm sure she doesn't want to see you get too fat, but she would probably gain some peace of mind in that you're eating more healthy.
As far as your Dad acting weird, well sometimes we just can't help what our parents do as part of their personality. Hopefully he doesn't dress up in costumes to try to specifically annoy you!!! :-)
As far as them not letting you out too much, there's not much you can do about that. If they let you go to friends' houses, just go there as much as possible and have friends come over to your house as well. Not much you can do until you get older.
2007-07-09 11:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, unfortunately, that is a parent's right with their kids for all the things they have been put through!! Only kidding. I have a 13 year old son. It is so funny, when he is around acquaintances he walks ahead of me and ignores me. When he isn't around acquaintances he will hold my hand walking to thru the mall and act like we're best friends. I think it is just a faze that will pass and you will end up loving their attention. Just bide your time.
2007-07-17 05:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and get a job and support yourself if you don't like it, oh yeah, that's right... you're only 13!
Tough luck kid, be glad that your parents actually care about you, there are so many kids that don't have parents or have parents that don't give a damn.
It's all just a part of growing up.
My parents did similar things to me as well when I was your age but my parents were actually cool and my friends loved them. They were also very strict & by the time I reached adulthood, I appreciated that very much.
2007-07-09 11:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Aimee♥™ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should talk to your parents about this. they need to give you space and time, and let you have your freedom because every teen needs to go out with their friends and have fun. your parents dont know how to act around you because now you just became a teen, and they dont know that they should let you start growing up now. talk to them about it, it's the best way. if they give you excuses, tell them that you have been feeling this way for a long time, and you need them to give you some freedom, and that you are trustworthy.
about the weight issue, your mom is just being a mother, and she doesn't want you to be staring yourself like other teens that have problems like anoerxia or bulimia. this problem is growing at a fast rate, but make sure your mom knows that you aren't those girls who do that, and you are healthy.
2007-07-09 11:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by smile like you mean it :] 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't change the essential character of who your parents are.
Appreciate the fact that you Mom obviously cares for and loves you.
You'll get through your teen years and be able to establish your own household.
Someday you will cringe when you see that you have some of there characteristics, and miss them dearly when they are dead.
2007-07-17 07:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I just have to comment on how much you and I look alike. If I had a daughter, you might be mine! Ha Ha Ha!
See, all us older folks try to make jokes that aren't really funny. Part of that is our lame attempt to connect in some way with YOU.
Honey, when I was your age I thought my mom was SO SILLY! She too was one of those mothers who would mention what I considered to be personal information about me in the company of complete strangers. I was ashamed of the way she looked. (Her clothes were always tattered and completely out of style. Her two front teeth were missing, and she continued to laugh and smile and make jokes, how embarrassed I was to have my friends meet her.) She too always wanted to know where my sister and I were at all times. Yes she was a real PAIN!.........But now I must tell you the rest of the story.
My mother was the most unselfish person I have ever known. She used every penny that came into our house to give my sisters and I everything we needed, and some of our frivolous desires as well. She gave up everything she ever wanted for herself to make sure we had "things" and opportunities. When I finally came out of my selfish "coma" of adolesence I was able to recognize the blessing she was to us. I asked her for forgiveness and thanked her for everything she did for us. She appreciated my change of heart, but she had never really held my selfishness against me. She knew I was just a kid and that I would come to my senses sooner or later. Of course I am sure she was praying daily for my "coma" to end.
Be patient with your Mom and Dad. When the world turns against you, (and believe me, you will have those days) your parents will be there for you. You will be grateful for their love, and hopefully you'll be able to look back and laugh at things that today embarass you. God bless you Sweetie
2007-07-16 18:01:32 · answer #11 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋