Since he told us 1 month ago he is gay im finding it difficult to accept but im trying. I dont go to church but i think there is a God and it says in the bible it is wrong. At first i was angry and for 2 weeks i wouldnt even talk to him. Sometimes now i dont want to. Sometimes I just wish he would leave the house but its difficult to reject my own brother completley.
2007-07-09 10:36:12 · 21 answers · asked by Nathan 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dear Toby,
I know that after so much animosity,stigma has been placed on "gays" in the community that they are all going to hell for example is just wrong. We are human and can not sit in judgment of any man. Many people commit sin. Many people toss their judgments upon another.
But the truth of the word to me is No one is perfect and God knows that -- which is one of the reasons he allowed his Son to die, to save all of us -- not "just" certain people.
6They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.
7When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone. John 3:6-8
We ALL sin against God. I do not feel that many humans have the ability to speak as a Spokesperson for the Lord. All we can do is say what we feel and hope it gives you insight. One day you will have to face God too and ask forgiveness because it says EVERYONE sins. No one is left out.
"Be not be judges of others, and you will not be judged. For as you have been judging, so you will be judged, and with your measure will it be measured to you. And why do you take note of the grain of dust in your brother's eye, but take no note of the bit of wood which is in your eye?"
--Matthew 7: 1-3
Yes, you have to make a choice as to how you shall view God and who you will choose to believe. However, I must tell you to believe that God would create something with free will and then ultimately destroy that creation because it didn't follow the law is nonsense.
" That WHOSOEVER believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life."--John 3:15
To go to hell because you love someone.. We are human and do not have the ability to completely understand the complexity of Gods de vine introversion or his ability to understand Free will and to comprehend his minds sake.
He gave us our free will. I know I can already hear the countless hordes of people quoting the bible about the things it says in the bible about this. Your brothers walk is his own.
You do not have to accept it if you do not want to but I feel. You should still love him because he is not only your brother but he is your brother in Christ. You can let him know how you feel. Let him know you still love him. Let him know and talk with him. Open your heart. Do not shut him out.
I will pray you.
Your Sister In Christ
2007-07-09 11:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Do not close down communication with your brother, he needs to have a place to come home to when he realizes just how lonely a life he is choosing. You are looking for a Christian perspective, and I only answered because I am Christian. What he has chosen is contrary to God's way, but all sin is just shades of black to Him. Make sure you talk to a trusted Christian about your anger and pain. Bring on the thumbs down!
2007-07-10 21:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that's a human being you are talking about rejecting, not only that he's your brother.
And if you need a bunch of Christians to decide for you (and be utterly condescending) then you can't love your brother very much and he would be wise not to share any other personal and private information with you.
The fact that you even question whether the issue of him being gay is reason to reject him or not speaks volumes about you, not him.
I don't need a God to tell me to love my brother. Perhaps you should be asking what is wrong with you and how best should your brother deal with your attitude because there's nothing wrong with him.
Haha, all the 'Christians' gave me a thumbs down because I didn't insist he was going to hell! If there is a God I think you all are in for a surprise when you discover you had no right to speak for him, but go ahead knock yourselves out while you can.
2007-07-09 17:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
God asks us not to judge others.
"For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged,
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:2)
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.” (Matthew 7:3-5)
In basic terms, "judge not, lest ye be judged." You cannot condemn him for his beliefs. You cannot reject him for his actions. You must forgive him as God has forgiven us, because just like we all do, he has sinned.
However, I do impore that you urge him to find God. If he takes the time in his life to put Christ first, above all other things, and to dedicate himself to following Him, all of these problems become meaningless. You are normal to feel confused and upset at a time such as this. There is nothing wrong with being concerned for your brother's salvation, and there is nothing wrong with you believing the Word of God, and that what he is doing is a sin. However, you must love him. He is your brother, and that is what God would have you do. But in loving him, you must also push him in the right direction, and that direction is toward the light.
God bless you, both.
2007-07-09 17:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Alexis 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
The bible says that all have sinned, and to God all the sins are the same. That does not mean that someone who told a lie should be put in jail like someone who murdered someone. But to God there are no "little white lies" all sins put Jesus on the cross. Telling a lie put Jesus on the cross as much as murdering someone did. So if your brother is gay, then it is not good but God says in 1 John 1:9 that He will cleanse us from ALL unrightousness. So I would really try hard to forgive your brother, cause the bible also says that it is Gods love that leads men to repentence, and if you can just show him gods love, it could change him.
2007-07-09 18:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bob 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Being gay is a decision some people take in their life. It is no genetic or natural desire. Because it is against nature's will. sometimes a special negative incident in means of experience caused him to turn his back on women and turn towards men. Maybe he feels misunderstood etc. You should try to save him from this wrong course of way which leads to condemnation and talk more about Jesus and the true love he is willing to share with us. Jesus understands all your thoughts and shares all his heart with us. So dont turn your back on him, because that would leave him more alone with his unsureness about life. Share your brotherly love with him as you did before or maybe care about him even more than you did before and he maybe will return from this wrong path.
2007-07-09 17:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Slider 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
WWJD? I think Jesus would love your brother and look into his soul for a good person, and also forgive him for sinning, because he knows your brother is simply following what feels right in his heart.
I believe God made people sinners so we all could learn to accept others sins and forgive them. Not so we could try and make them to what we(who are also sinners) think is correct.
2007-07-09 17:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
God would want you to unconditianally accept and love your brother as he is and not as you would like him to be.I ahve a sister like your brother.You dont have to aggree with someones lifestyle views and still accept ,love and pray for them,jes us would not ignore avoid or discard anyone period.
2007-07-09 17:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Clean 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Treat him as you would want to be treated. The Bible says that homosexuality is wrong but he still loves us no matter what. Tell him what you think but love him anyway.
2007-07-09 17:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by darlingclan5 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
your brother is still human treat him as you normally would. and he is still your brother flesh and blood and its the way God would want you and your family to treat him just because he turned out gay it doesnt mean he aint human and dont have feelings, he is human and he does have feelings.
2007-07-09 17:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋