I just moved into a first floor apartment and I quickly became aware of a child upstairs who constantly runs and stomps around the whole place, he/she bangs on the window and really makes A LOT of noise. We just moved in and haven't met our nieghbors upstairs yet and we're giving it a couple of days to see if this is normal and if there are certain times and things he/she does. I'm afraid to say anything at all becuase parents nowadays are so oftenly crude about these things and don't care. I'm know kids run and play and there is a certain noise level I have to accept being on the bottom floor, but it goes both ways- if you live on a second floor there are certain levels of noise you have minimize and be consciencious and considerate of. I'm not sure what to say- I'm not a mom yet but am due in less than 3 mos and will have an infant in the home. I want our conversation to be as effective as possible for our own peaceful living and for my baby girl. They know we're here, by the way.
2007-07-09 09:58:47 · 9 answers · asked by throughthebackyards 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Moving to another apartment isn't really an option for two reasons, the first be availability. It was such a hassle to move all of our stuff and get it into the apartment that we couldn't possibly do it again becuase of the volume of stuff we have, the amount of ppl we have to help, the 115 degree heat and me being pregnant.
2007-07-09 09:59:08 · update #1
The fact that you're due soon is the perfect way to approach it. Maybe go up and meet your neighbors and try to establish a friendly rapport. After a few pleasant chit-chats if the noise is still a problem, just say to the parents sympathetically. "I know toddlers are very active and it's hard to keep them quiet, but with a new baby in the house, I would really appreciate it if you could try to keep him/her a little quieter. The banging on the windows wakes the baby. I'm sure you remember how tiring a new baby is." I do suggest trying to ammicably work it out with the neighbor first because they will be more cooperative if the atmosphere is friendly, but if that doesn't work and it really is excessive (they're never going to get a toddler to be silent LOL), go to management and have them intervene.
2007-07-09 12:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Erin L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention the age of the child, but from the description it sounds like a toddler. Toddlers aren't being "inconsiderate" when they stomp around and bang things and, as you're about to find out, you can't always control the volume of your child. Even a normal, well-behaved toddler with great parents is excited and really loud some of the time! Some buildings just carry noise more than others, too.
Make friends with your neighbors, find out how their apartment is laid out (where does their son sleep and play vs. where your baby will sleep). Hopefully you won't have to "complain" about the noise, but they'll be sensitive to your situation and try to make things quieter.
As for those people who say check your lease, call the cops and other things - regular noise from regular kids isn't breaking any laws or leases, it's just what you have to deal with when you live in an apartment.
2007-07-09 11:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give it a few weeks. see if there is a pattern to the noise.
if there is or heck if there's not.... nicely introduce your self and don't mention the noise. then you can go back in a few days or another week and say hey - dick and jane... i just wanted to see if you could keep little dick from stomping so much.. i had a difficult time getting the baby down the other day and bcse of the clatter he made. i just hoped you could try to keep him a little quieter.
it's best to befriend the enemy. kill them with kindness.
don't go stomping up there and pounding on the door. that will piss them off and fuel a fire of feuding neighbors.
if it gets no where by talking to the parents. contact the landlord or leasing office. then can either contact the other tenant or ...
suggest they put out a general flyer to ALL residents asking them to have courtesy for neighbors and keeping the kids quiet... also suggest they do it in a civic assotiation flyer style... ya know where they cover several things so you aren't picking on 1 person and being obvious.
2007-07-09 10:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As you will soon discover, children are very loud and have no consideration for those around them.
If you make friends with your upstairs neighbors, you may be surprised to find that their child isn't stomping, jumping or slamming things as hard as you thought. Due to amplification of sound through hollow walls, every time this child trips or falls it sounds like a bomb is going off over your head.
Considering what you're hearing now, aren't you glad you don't hear them screaming at (and maybe hitting) their child as well?
I suggest getting to know them... bring something to eat or drink and be very friendly. Ask to meet their child and act very happy to do so. If they want to know how you knew they had a child say, "We can hear him/her downstairs." Mention that you hope they will come and see the baby when she's born.
It's too bad you can't trade apartments with them. They would probably love to have a first-floor apartment for their child to run and jump in with impunity.
2007-07-09 10:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Meghan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would look in your lease agreement and surely there is somewhere stated that you as a tenant have the right to a peaceful living environment. Meaning you don't have to put up with loud noises and this and that. Now, you can show this to your landlord and they can stick a notice or talk to your neighbors about the situation. If that is not done and they tell you to call the police station than you just call (not 911) and report a noise complaint. The cops will come out and talk to the parents, and probably threaten them with a fine if they have to come back for the same complaint. Now I have seen numerous times where families get kicked out of their apartments b/c of their kids so just b/c it is a kid making noise don't think that there can't be reprecussions for his/her actions. Hope this helps.
2007-07-09 10:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by babysteaks3 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
the noise probably wont get any better, and your right alot of parents nowdays are rude and just dont care much of other peoples feelings, ive once lived this situation and my experience didnt get any better, but you can always hope for the best ,and try to talk to your neighbors either they will be willing to help or you will now have an enemy for however long you or they live there, or perhaps you could talk to your landlord and he could possibly talk to them about it, good luck
2007-07-09 10:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by sableshay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to the landlord or leasing office and explain what is happening. Explain that you will soon have a infant at home and hopefully they can say something to the upstairs tenants. Hopefully it won't creat problems with them. Good luck with your baby!
2007-07-09 10:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can mention to your upstairs neighbors about understanding about children moving around a lot and ask if she could try to minimize it just a bit.
If it continues and it's really bad you can mention it to your apartment manager....and see what they do.
If that doesn't help.....you'll have no options other than to move out.
2007-07-09 10:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
from my experience, get used to it or get out.
sorry, just the hard cold facts ma'am.
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2007-07-09 10:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋