before moving from one relationship to the next...
I am a fairly attractive girl. I have options, but I am not out to hurt anyone. There are people that want to date me, but I feel like I just got out of something and want to chill for a little bit. I let him know that and he doesn't seem to care, he still wants to pursue this...
2007-07-09 09:58:22 · 14 answers · asked by Challah back Girl... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is not perfect timetable... the biggest factor is if you come across a guy who makes think about him more then you think about the last one. With that in mind, I say sooner then later... you cute, fun and intelligent... you deserve a man who is your equal and you are not gonna find that sitting at home. I do suggest trying something different then the last one... don't go with a guy who is a lot like the last one, mix it up and you'll learn more about yourself that way too.
Dan
2007-07-09 10:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's very smart and mature of you to recognize the need to decompress/grieve your last relationship.
If this guy has blown his chance, it would be a good idea, I feel, to just tell him and communicate to him in a very firm way that no further communication is welcome and could get him into a lot of trouble.
If he's still a viable candidate, ask him firmly to leave you alone for some set period of time which you need to make up your mind.
If he's smart, he'll abide by your wishes. If he's really determined, he might send flowers at the end of the waiting period so if you decide he's not for you, let him know when you do.
2007-07-09 11:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same exact boat sister ...
My girlfriend and I broke up last month ... for no apparent reason ... and she already found somebody else .. I told her that she moves too fast .. and me .. I am a attractive young man, and theres alot of girls who admire me, but I don't want to be in a relationship right now because I just got out of one .. and I'm still crushed from it.. so I dont want to date somebody else while still having feelings for my ex ..
Wait as long as you need to sweetheart .. until all the feelings leave, or until your ready..
That's exactly what I'm doing. =]
2007-07-09 10:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by theGREATEST. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need space and if he continues to persist he really won't have a chance of getting with you. Tell him to back off for a while, that you two can hang out together as friends or something, and then when you're ready you'll find him.
2007-07-09 10:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rachie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should wait awhile after a breakup, get over it, be good to yourself, don't let any one push u into something your not ready for, if he still insist he may turn out to be a controller. u control your life, don't ever allow a man to control u. if he is too impatient or stupid to understand why u want to wait, he may become a problem later on with control issues.
2007-07-09 10:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whe you feel ready then you are. A week is even good enough. Your su[[osed to move on and enjoy dating ! have fun with you new guy but wait until it feels right to u .
2007-07-09 10:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Koral 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself as long as you want. The key is not to be in a rush, and it doesn't seem like you are. You will know when your ready.
2007-07-09 10:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally wait a few weeks a month max. It really depends on how much you liked the person.
2007-07-09 10:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who is even close to be deserving of spending time with you should respect your feelings on being patient.
If they are not willing to be patient, they will not be patient enough to be a good mate.
2007-07-09 17:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by davew/ad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait until your heart tells you youre ready. Mine took two months and I moved on which really surprised me!!
2007-07-09 10:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋