My kidneys are very low functioning, and i have been strongly advised by my ob gyn and my nephrologist not to get pregnant because i will have a really hard pregnancy and end up with kidney failure. However, it is my decision, and they have both told me that they would work to help me do whatever I want. Do you think my husband and I can handle a baby while I am on dialysis? I've not done either before, is there any one out there who has?
2007-07-09 09:51:09 · 16 answers · asked by Sweet Belly 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Thank you Mandie! I think people don't really understand how important it is to have a baby, especially when the possibility is there, I would really do anything. But i'm sure I won't die, I'll be wiped out, but eventually I'll have a transplant. But who knows if I'll still be fertile by then. I know people love their kids, but they don't know what its like. I'm sure I will adopt down the road, in any case.
2007-07-09 10:27:50 · update #1
I do not know what I would do! My husband and I have infertility problems. So I think I would do whatever it took to have a baby! Even if I were to die, I would still want to have a child for my husband! I think he would probably disagree with that, but that is my opinion!
2007-07-09 10:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by mandie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 16:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, personally, no. My mother, however, was on dialysis for a few years.
I think you need to talk with young people, especially young women, about how you feel physically when you're a dialysis patient. My mom was older (50s) and her experience might be different from yours.
In the days before her dialysis was due, she was wiped-out tired, could barely function. Then the dialysis itself was exhausting. So for every week, she'd have two, maybe three, days of normal energy.
A baby deserves more energy than that, and your husband, great guy that he is, deserves a wife does risk her lifespan being shortened by dialysis.
Have you looked into adoption? Egg harvesting, so the baby carried and born to another woman is biologically yours and your husband's?
2007-07-09 09:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can Handel Anything You WAnt To Handel But Think About YOur Child Its Not All About You If Think Of The Dangerous Possibilites That Can Go On During And After Your Pregnancy
2007-07-09 09:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are a lot of work.....Trust me I have two kids of my own. When you health is a factor you need to think long and hard before jumping into something like that. However in the end this has got to be a decision you make for yourself.
Remember there are other options such as adoption or surrogate mothers.
2007-07-09 09:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by sgt_seargeant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a case like this, you really should listen to your physicians. This is not saying you can't become a mother. You can adopt. If you are thinking about the stresses of juggling motherhood with dialysis, maybe you should contact a dialysis center and ask them. I'm sure they'd be happy to help you.
2007-07-09 09:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many babies out there that need to be adopted and loved...why put yourself though a difficult pregnancy and dialysis for who knows how long.
Have you thought about finding a surrogate? At least you wouldn't have to put your body through hell.... I know adoption and surrogates can be expensive but so is dialysis and and all that would go along with such a high risk pregnancy.
2007-07-09 09:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Delaina77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have to think about the baby's well being....I work in a long term care facility and we have patients who go out for dialysis and when they come back they are exhausted. Having a baby takes a lot out of you. It's very rewarding but you have to be able to give/show the baby love and affection in all kinds of ways. Why jeopardise your health as well as the baby's? I really wish you luck and good luck with your decision.
2007-07-09 09:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though I have never been on dialysis, I have seen many go through it. It i not a easy process, but it is "doable". If you want a baby that strongly, then go for it!! But not at the expense of your health, because you want to be around and healthy to care of that child.
Good Luck on whatever decision you should choose...it is your decision!!
2007-07-09 09:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this. I know most women want to have children but there are a lot of children out there already who need a good home. Have ypu considered adoption? Yes its a long process but well worth it in the end.
Hope this helps and may God bless
2007-07-09 10:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋