I have been seeing a man from Moscow,Russia for a year now he works in the jewlery business.He is going to be 38 yrs old never been married or had any children.He is also about 10 yrs older than me but treats me like a queen and is kind to my daughter.He says he has enjoyed his years of being a bachelor to the fullest and now looks foward to settling down and possibly having a child or two to carry on his line.I feel cherished,protected,and cared for when i am with him.I also think this may lead to marriage.
He has invited me and my daughter to stay at his family home in Russia when he leaves since he goes back and forth from the states for Christmas? My daughter is thrilled by the idea because she wants to see the russian ballet currently going through a balerina phase.But i feel hesitant what are some good questions to ask?
2007-07-09 09:30:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I trust this man but have heard some negative things about Russia and i also dont speak the language at all.
2007-07-09 09:37:58 · update #1
well it depends on how close you are to this guy
if you totally trust him 100% and you feel like you have a future with him,
then i say go for it :]
but if you have any doubts or anything than i would wait a little to go
2007-07-09 09:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jammin EMmm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good questions to ask about what? You don't specify.
If it were me and I were wondering about traveling to Russia, the FIRST thing I would do is get on the horn with the State Department and find out about traveling to Russia for a vacation and find out if there's any traveling warnings concerning Russia.
How long are you going to be gone?
What is the ration between US dollars and Russian Rubels?
What will the Embassy's response be if you should encounter a problem?
Where is the Ballet playing?
In truth, my mom just got back from a business trip to Russia. She's the biggest scaredy-cat in the world, and everything -- and I do mean EVERYTHING -- always goes wrong for her.
She didn't have any problems at all, and frankly, if you're going to stay at dude's house, you're most likely going to be all right.
This might be yours and your daughter's only chance to see Russia. Who knows what tomorrow holds and what opportunities you'll have next time around. Go to Russia while you have someone there who will be with you every step of the way. AND take your daughter; if nothing else, it will be a bonding trip that you both will remember forever.
2007-07-09 16:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, would he be staying with you while there, or traveling and leaving you in a foreign land with strangers. Also, I would be sure that you have both of your tickets (two-way) in YOUR possession and be sure that you know where you are staying, in the event that you need to flee. Make sure that you understand the transportation system and have a clear understanding how you would reach the airport if you needed to. Also, check with the American Embassy in Russia before you travel.
I only make these suggestions because we live in a strange world and you just never know. I'm sure that he is probably a very nice and well-intentioned man, but you need to be especially careful in a strange country where you don't speak the language. Don't let yourself be caught in a trap. If you trust this person, be sure that you remain just skeptical enough to get out of a situation if you need to.
2007-07-09 16:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by AlloAllo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel hesitant, then deep on some level you might feel something isn't right. Maybe he's expecting more from you than a "visit" he might be expecting a romantic getaway or maybe to intoduce you to his family to see if they approve. If that's the case, it might not be the time to drag your daughter along.....you might want to wait til you are actually married or engaged before taking her with you. I think it would be wise to protect her until your relationship is somewhat more permanent with your boyfriend.
Things to ask before you decide either way? Who will be there where you are staying? Will you have your own rooms? Does he want your daughter to come or is he thinking of it as a romantic trip for two?What is he expecting from the visit? How serious is your relationship? If things turn to marriage where will you live? I could go on and on.....
2007-07-09 16:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Heavenly Advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out where your local embassy is in Russia. Also get contact information (all info you have on him, name, address, birthdate, etc) and the names and locations of places you plan to visit and give it to a friend or relative (or maybe even your child's FATHER!) here in the US.
That way, if something turns out too good to be true, at least someone will know where to start looking for you two.
When it comes to your daughter, there is no such thing asa being too cautious.
2007-07-09 16:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Starla C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My biggest concern is for the welfare of your child. Since you have never met his family you don't know what type of situation you are getting into.
My suggestion is to got but stay at a hotel...insist on paying for the hotel & airfare yourself that way maintain your independance should something go wrong.
By all means make sure someone in the USA knows your itenerary, how to contact you and where you will be staying.
2007-07-09 16:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Archer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you met any of his family? Or maybe close friends who have known him longer than you have? They may be a good source to talk to. If you are in a serious relationship, and have been for a year, I would probably go. Trust your gut instinct. If you really believe in this guy, would you be posting this question? If you have any doubts, then stay home.
2007-07-09 16:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by demure_143 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
questions?
do you speak the language? if not does his family?
what percentage of the area where you will be speaks english?
how will you get around?
money?
how long will you be there? perm or temp move?
if so- passports. job. home. laws. rights.
i would see what happens if you do marry and he adopts your child - what rights would you have if he divorces you
what happens if you marry there or marry here. laws. regulations.
it's great that your daughter wants to see the ballet... there are plenty localy to see too i'm sure.
2007-07-09 16:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 - Make sure your tickets are round trip & he can't cancel them. Many women have gotten stuck in other countries by men!!!
#2 Take her. She should have a great time.
#3 What do you mean by "Good questions to ask"?
2007-07-09 16:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Deb S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is a serious relationship with you and this man, you should absolutely take her. It is a once in a lifetime trip. Go and sight see and have a great trip.
2007-07-09 16:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Colette B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋