I really care about my girlfriend, and it may even become love eventually, but she isn't very pretty. I think she knows I don't think she's pretty, but I know she's beautiful in every other way. I mean, she isn't perfect, but she seems perfect for me. How do I convince her that I can still care for her no matter how she looks?
2007-07-09 09:11:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, i didn't tell her that i think she isn't attractive, but people have all her life, and its like burned in. No matter what she looks like she's beautiful to me...
2007-07-09 09:26:21 · update #1
Just because she's not pretty, doesn't mean she's not (or can't be) attractive - clothes, hair, and attitude go a long way. If she's not pretty, she probably knows it - she's probably a little insecure about it as well. Obviously you don't want to go the "you're the most beautiful woman in the whole world" route, because it's fake and she would know it. But there must be things you find physically attractive about her - her presence, the way she walks or carries herself, her smile, her eyes, her legs, etc, etc. Find stuff you really genuinely like about her and let her know.
2007-07-09 09:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't give someone self-confidence. She's got to find that on her own. But you can do your part. If she's wearing a new outfit, tell her how great she looks. If she does something really nice for you, tell her how much you appreciate her. Don't overdo it or be insincere about it, but whenever you start thinking "Wow, she's great!" tell her instead of just thinking it. When she realizes what a fantastic person you think she is, that's all that will matter.
Good luck! :-)
2007-07-09 09:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole T 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why on earth would you say that you think she knows you don't think she's pretty? if you're in love with this girl, she should be the most beautiful person on earth to you, and doubts about her physical appearance should not be an issue with her or you! You shouldn't have to try and convince her that she's beautiful, she should already know!
2007-07-09 09:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by luv 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to a sexual relationship is a physical attraction.!The other qualities are ofcourse important too and those come later when you get to know the person, but you should date in your own league. If you are way better looking than her it's not gonna work out! She's always gonna have a complex and think you are flirting with other women even when you are not!
2007-07-09 09:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lestat 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am about to say something that sounds so familiar. Here it goes, "Actions speak louder than words." You might be telling your girl that you like, regardless of how she looks, but your actions say otherwise. Smile deeply in her eyes when you are out on the town together. Hold hands. So affection towards her not only when you are alone, but when you are in public. But keep it rated G.
2007-07-09 09:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I"m sure there's something about her you find beautiful....her smile, her eyes, ears, hair, toes....??? Don't EVER EVER EVER let her know you do not think she is pretty. EVER. She will resent you for and you'll resent yourself. Her self-confidence will plumment, and she won't trust you around other women. How bout treating her to get her hair and nails done, and get her a hot new outfit!
2007-07-09 09:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Candi is Dandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well tell her she's beautiful to you...explain that sometimes the prettiest girls have ugly personalities that turn guys off, and that her personality makes her more beautiful to you. and anyways, looks fade. True love is staying with someone even when they are unattrative due to illness, growing older, or whatever may happen..remind her that you would care for her despite all that
2007-07-09 09:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't think that your girl is attractive, it can cause major problems in your relationship. I understand that you like her in every other way and this is commendable. Do you think that your admiration and respect for her could translate into attraction someday? She deserves nothing less than that.
2007-07-09 09:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By words, gestures man. You have to tell her. When you kiss caress her face and tell her you love her, that she is perfect for you. Affection goes a long ways.
2007-07-09 09:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ken R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't like herself, then you might never be able to convince her.
However, actions speak louder than words. Act as if you care, and she should eventually come around.
2007-07-09 09:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋