I have been seeing this girl for about six weeks and the girl has just told me that she is pregnant. However we had only been seeing each other for two weeks when she announces out of the blue that she is pregnant. It is possible to know that you are pregnant that quickly, as I thought that a girl had to miss a period in order to suspect that she is pregnant. How could she know that quickly? I intend to stand by her and the child if it is mine, but what i think has happend is that is has got pregnat, and is worried that she is goint to be a single parent and has latched on to the first man she could, at least thats what everyone I know tells me.
I dont lover her, but i want to do the right thing by her, but am I letting this confuse me into caring for a baby I dont think is mine? How can i find out if it is mine if she wont go to the doctors for a scan and is very evasive?
Or am I just being paraniod about the whole thing? Is it possbile to "know" you are pregnat sosoon
2007-07-09 09:10:50 · 30 answers · asked by brookieboy88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds a bit strange to me but it is possible. make sure when the baby is born that you get a paternity test to make sure. is she aware of your doubts? you need to talk this through with her.
2007-07-09 10:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to know you are pregnant that quickly, but not usually by a first-time mom. I hope you aren't still sleeping with her? Some girls will tell a guy they're pregnant so the guy will think the horse is already out of the barn, why close the door now? Then she will really get pregnant, and surprise! The baby is about 2 months past the due date, imagine that! But it is his, so he's stuck.
If she's being very evasive and refusing to go to the doctor's, sit her down. Tell her, if she's carrying your child, you want her to get good prenatal treatment, starting now. Keep pushing it. If all of a sudden, she announces she had a miscarriage, but won't go to the hospital, head for the hills. This chick is trying to trap you.
If she gives in to going to the doctor, go with her. Try to get alone with the doctor and tell him you don't think the child is yours, and would like his best guess of the time of conception, and a DNA test upon the baby's arrival. If you have to, phone him later with this, but you can probably do it while the girl is in the exam room. Do not let your name be put on the birth certificate until you know for sure. Start saving now, DNA tests cost several hundred dollars that you have to pay.
Make it clear to this girl, you don't love her, and will not marry her out of obligation. Those things never work out. She might just be looking for somebody to take care of her. Do not let her move in with you under any circumstances. Make it perfectly clear, you will pay what the court orders for support if the child is yours, but not one cent more. Then do it.
I could be wrong, but I think this girl is playing you.
From now on, don't hop into the sack with a chick you've just met, and for heaven's sake, use a condom! If she'll hop in the sack with you so easy, how many others have been there before you? That ought to make Mr. Happy shrivel up and hide! Even if you've been dating for months, always use a condom, every time. As you're learning, it can save lots of aggravation! Good luck to you!
2007-07-11 15:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by baymast13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"How can i find out if it is mine if she wont go to the doctors for a scan and is very evasive?"
Evasive and refuses to go to the doctor?
My advice is..........
1. buy a box of condoms!
2. use condoms every time you have sex
3. No pregnancy test and no doctors visit....no baby
A doctor may be able to get an idea in general terms how far along she is but only a DNA test after the child's birth would be able to tell you if it is yours or not.
Two weeks after you started dating and she did nothing about birth control? Makes me think that she may have already been pregnant or wanted to be.
Talk to her and let her know that you are willing to go with her for the exam and the doctor's appointment. Do not put your name on the birth certificate and make it clear that there is a question of paternity and that a DNA test will need to be done.
Bottom line is be responsible about sex, always wear a condom. Condoms prevent pregnancy and many transmittable diseases
2007-07-09 19:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by demarkation_line 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should do a pregnancy test with her to begin with to definitely determine if she is pregnant or not. Then just tell her how you feel if she goes off on one then so be it but it needs to be sorted out now rather than later for the sake of the baby. I really respect you standing by her and providing for the baby if it turns out to be yours - this doesn't mean though you have to stay in a relationship with her, having everything out in the open and discussing things is always the best thing to do - good luck xxx
2007-07-09 16:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are being conned pal.
Girls with severe issues do this. This is the trump card. Every girl will play this game when they feel up against the wall. She is probably not pregnant by you. If she won't get a blood test, then you do not pay a red cent for her or the baby. Put the burden of proof on her.
2007-07-09 16:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she was expecting her period soon after you dated then it could be yours you can get pregnant anytime usually two weeks after a period egg comes down etc if her period was due five days after your dating it could be possible but everyone is different. she told you about this she didn't have to it is scary for her as well so if you want results just talk to her and instead of accusing tell her that you would like a DNA sample in case the baby is ill one day you wont get anywhere if you point the finger if you can treat her as if it was your baby you will see her mistakes and all will one day be revealed
2007-07-09 16:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I got pregnant i did not find out in two weeks they say it is possible but from my experience with having four kids I did not find out I was pregnant until I was a month or two months pregnant
i would really check into it before i got to deep
you can get a dna test after the baby is born
did you see documents that she is pregnant
some ladies usually lie so they will have somebody to be with
i dont know but i would look into it
2007-07-10 03:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very unusal but it is possable to know that soon espeshally if he rknowing was just feeling sick and stuff not taking a test yet. however if you really want to know you can do too things first get a court ordered dna test or you can do an at home one if she is willing once the baby is born .... plus take her due date witch she will get from an ultra sound and work it out backwards and see if it is within 3 days of when you too had sex
2007-07-09 16:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being paranoid
you just want to know if your responsible for her baby
but you made the mistake of having sex with her after knowing her for only 2 weeks,knowing there was a posibility she might get pregnant, and knowing you dont love her
but everyone makes mistakes
you can only know if the baby is yours or not when it is actually born
then you can ask for a DNA test to find out
if its not your child then i suggest you never talk to her again
being a father is a big responsibility and she cant just go telling guys that theyre the father when she knows very well they arent.
best of luck!
2007-07-09 16:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by :D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont marry the girl if you dont love her dont have a relationship with the girl if you dont love her either But you can get a blood test DNA to find out if the baby is yours dont offer anything untill she agrees to get the DNA test to prove you are the Dad if it is then make arangements for the baby only ok
2007-07-10 08:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may very well NOT be pregnant but you are the first man that has been decent to her and she is scared of losing you. Wait and see what happens.
And no, generally 2 weeks is too soon to know you are pregnant. Normally 3 weeks.
In any case, its a bit early for a scan but you MUST get her to do a pregnancy test in front of you.
Even if she is pregnant it may well not be yours. Don't do anything hasty and keep your options open.
If it is yours you don't have to stand by her but you DO have to stand by the child. There's a big difference.
Best of luck.
2007-07-09 16:17:12 · answer #11 · answered by Ian69 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋