OK I WAS JUST WONDERING DO GUYS LIKE IT BETTER WHEN A GIRL PRETENDS TO NOT LIKE THEM SO THEY HAVE TO WORK HARD FOR HER OR A GIRL THAT WHEN THEY ASK FOR A DATE IMMEDIATELY SAYS YES
2007-07-09 09:05:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i personally hate to play hard to get
2007-07-09 09:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by mindlabyrinth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a certain point where it gets out of hand. As guys, we are under a lot of pressure to make the first move the right way at the right time with the right girl, and it can be hard to work up the courage to put ourselves out there. I think most girls don't get asked out all that often, so when they feel the need to start playing a game that really turns a lot of guys off, it doesn't make sense. I guess it has something to do with self affirmation, but in my mind, as a guy, I think that the fact that we think you're worth the risk of rejection already says a whole lot about what we think of you. I would rather be told straight up yes or no so that I can get it over with and start looking somewhere else, or know that for now at least, my search has come to an end.
2007-07-09 16:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man! Well...I don't like it when people play games. If you are doing this to play games I'd stop. It can be perseived as being flakey. They could view this as you aren't interested. I would say that if you want to not look so easily available is to not accept every single invitation from him all the time. I mean, there is some fun in the chase but don't be rude about it either. If you decline be nice and say you know what, "I'd love to but I'm doing this other thing. I would love to go out with you another time though. Sound good?"
I like it when girls flirt with me, go out with me, but you don't have to tell him, " I like you, etc." Just show him you are into him, have fun.
-just recently I asked a girl to the pool, and she told me she was like, oh thanks, but helping her mom out. That was it. Nothing more. So, that just leads me to believe there is not really much hope for the future if she doesn't leave my invitation some what open ended. So...what do i do....nothing now, unless she gets back to me I'm not pursuing it anymore. I think the older you get the less games you play though.
2007-07-09 16:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by ohiojosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! When a girl plays hard to get like that is a pain in the ***. Guys have a hard enough time reading and understanding girls as it is. You pretend not to like them back or be interested at all you may just lose em because they are afraid to ask anyway.
2007-07-09 16:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I love to play, but the games more lets get to know each other a little before we call it a date. When a girl simply says yes and you've just met, your kind of lost on what to do with her. Turn the conversation over a few times seeing how it feels, how well do ya'll communicate let your eyes wonder. Flirt, have fun, your kind of letting him know your interested but you don't just jump every hot guy you meet. Good luck its suppose to be fun.
2007-07-09 16:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little hard to get is ok, but if you do it too much he will resent you. He'll still be interested in you know what, but he will lose respect for you as a person.
If he asks you on a date, tell him you will consider it and then have him call you. Then when he calls, you can say yes. If it's too easy for him, he may laugh at you. But if it's too hard for him, he may try to embarass you or something.
2007-07-09 16:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAAAARRRRGGHHHH! A simple yes or no. It could be easy! Why can it never be easy!!!??? ARGH! Sorry about that (^_^). Guys will get annoyed and lose interest if you play around. If you say yes straight away, then things will run much more smoothly =] Good luck!
2007-07-09 16:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sketch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is on the shy side, "NO", is one and done. We don't go looking for abuse.
Some guys like the challenge, other guys just figure someone else will want to go out.
Say no at your own peril.
If you want interest, you still need to be encouraging, but not toying.
2007-07-09 16:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i prefer it if a girl will just say 'hey dude, i like you' but that never happens so i end up having to work hard for it *sigh* if only you were more open with guys...
2007-07-09 16:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by eddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys want girls to be forward. Or else they'll think you're just not interested. Email me for personal help.
2007-07-09 16:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋