OK, my girlfriend constantly want me to change everything I do, from the way I dress to the way I eat, what I eat, and What movies I watch, or don't watch (the adult kind)
why does she want to have such a control over things in my life. Why can't she relax?
2007-07-09 08:58:16 · 15 answers · asked by thesoulcaged 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't want you. Move on.
2007-07-09 09:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RUN - REALLY REALLY FAST! I am a 41 year old woman and know all about these kinds woman - I used to be one of them. It's all about control. If she wants a guy who is all that she's asking you to be, she needs to go find him. If you like who you are, what you are and how you are, there's always going to be conflict. Flip the coin, do you dress like a slob, eat like a pig and watch stupid movies? Maybe you could use a little cleaning up. Take a good look at yourself and if you feel she's out of line, stay just how you are.
2007-07-09 09:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by fosmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she is a succubus. Doesn't it seem odd that you were fine at first, but as time progressed, she suddenly felt the need to change you? If you were to change into exactly what she wants, she would only be happy for a VERY short time. She will lose respect for you because you do not stand up for yourself and because you lack the self confidence that says "I don't need to change." Yeah, she will change you into something/someone you are not and then leave you high and dry. Don't let a succubus do this to you. Next time she tries to change you, try suggesting she change something about herself. And don't talk like a wuss either. Say it like you've got a pair.
2007-07-09 09:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she is not really secure in who she is. Being over bearing like that often times is a sure sign of insecurity. It is just a huge wall to hide behind.
2007-07-09 09:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by graceabounds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just being really controlling and in my opinion you shouldn't stand for it. Perhaps she wants you to be more like her ex boyfriend or maybe she just wants to make you into her "perfect" man. Explain to her that you are who you are and if she cannot deal with that perhaps you guys shouldn't be together.
2007-07-09 09:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same thing that makes someone say "they are just perfect for me, except for this and this and that, oh and that"
Ask her to write down the 'changes' she wants to make to you and why she wants to make them.
Then, have her write down the things she is willing to change about herself based on your request.
I think you will find that when the expectation is turned around, she won't like the fact that there are things about her that could be improved and may be more accepting.
What's this fascination with perfection anyway.
2007-07-09 09:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by brettj666 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants you to make good choices and choose things that will make you happy and healthy. Maybe she doesn't want you looking at porn and comparing her to the girl you just watched. Maybe she cares about you and wants you to look nice. If you don't like it, leave.
2007-07-09 09:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because instead of accepting you for who you are, she's trying to turn you into what she wants you to be. You need to tell her to either go out and find her Mr. Perfect, or accept you for what you are and be happy.
2007-07-09 09:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dude, It will only get worse....My advice...tell her "SEE ya!"
She will never change. If u must, u can find out the hardway.
Us guys always say....."if we knew the what we know now!"
Trust me. Heed the advice.
2007-07-09 09:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Vince 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to mold you to what she wants in a guy. I don't think you are it. Porn is hot to me. I wish my bf had some videos. I don't like magazines though. That would bother me. Hmmmm.............
2007-07-09 09:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, it's time to move on. you can't change and she can't either so fact the facts now!
2007-07-09 09:04:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋